How to tell a bandmate they're not needed


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Mannypedraza
12-23-2009, 12:09 AM
So of my friends since like 6th grade, and me decided to form a band, well, eventually we started talkin about it, I got a drummer, and I decided I would sing and play guitar. I started talking to his cousin and he joined in on it, and since his cousin and me are way better than my friend I knew since 6th grade, I dont think i'll need him. How do I tell him I dont need it without making me seem like such a bad friend?

DeadlyIllness
12-23-2009, 12:10 AM
what does he play

JAHellraiser
12-23-2009, 12:10 AM
I dont need you in the band dude

batman187
12-23-2009, 12:11 AM
Just kill him, its a lot easier.

Diet_coke_head
12-23-2009, 12:11 AM
Let him sleep with your mom.

_Ixnay_
12-23-2009, 12:11 AM
Change the band's myspace password and delete him from the friends.

Oh yeah, that's just what douchebags do.

(Wasn't me who got deleted, but I know the guys who did because they just didn't have the balls to tell him he was out)

crazysam23_Atax
12-23-2009, 12:12 AM
Do the whole "You're fucking fired" routine. Cuss at him, etc. Naw, but the bandleading forum...

Soundyard
12-23-2009, 12:13 AM
Two bands, one jam band and another one you'd want to do gigs with. HUZZAH Everybody happy!

1avatar328
12-23-2009, 12:14 AM
fire him from instrumental part and assign him to something else... COMPROMISE FTW!!!!!!!!

chaoticfables
12-23-2009, 12:14 AM
Buy him some nice food, then tell him to fuck off. He can't do anything about it, since you bought him nice food.

Opethfan1
12-23-2009, 12:14 AM
if your next gig starts at 8 tell him its at 9 and when he shows up he will see you and his replacement rockin the house and it will just work itself out...lol or you can pistol whip him !!!!!

ICOG
12-23-2009, 12:15 AM
GTFO my band, noob.
that normally does the trick.

deathdrummer
12-23-2009, 12:16 AM
How about you put him on a bus back to his home town after a big night of drinking

ThatsAgood1jay
12-23-2009, 12:16 AM
Next time he walks into the room, run up and grab his balls, then tell him that he is no longer needed and that if he fights you on the decision you will rip them off.


Problem solved.

oncetaken
12-23-2009, 12:19 AM
put him on cowbell

guitarsftw
12-23-2009, 12:19 AM
make him your "manager"

zachsquatch68
12-23-2009, 12:20 AM
i say just sit down with him and say "look man, i dont think u fit in with us. im sorry to say but your out"

whysky
12-23-2009, 12:20 AM
let him **** ur sister, that will be enough unless ur sister is ugly :S

stuartstratford
12-23-2009, 12:21 AM
try and find a new dynamic like harmonise what your both playing
or tell him to get keep up and practice

_Ixnay_
12-23-2009, 12:22 AM
put him on cowbell

Win.

Koshman32
12-23-2009, 12:23 AM
Do the whole "You're fucking fired" routine. Cuss at him, etc. Naw, but the bandleading forum...

This is the bandleading forum :rolleyes:

Koshman32
12-23-2009, 12:24 AM
let him **** ur sister, that will be enough unless ur sister is ugly :S

Or his sister is actually his brother!

_Ixnay_
12-23-2009, 12:25 AM
This is the bandleading forum :rolleyes:

This started in the pit when that was posted.

Koshman32
12-23-2009, 12:28 AM
This started in the pit when that was posted.

Well that shut me up.

BlitzkriegAir
12-23-2009, 12:29 AM
just tell him to raise his skill level up because the band needs a better player or theyll replace him, then when he doesnt get better let him go

_Ixnay_
12-23-2009, 12:30 AM
Well that shut me up.

It's cool, just letting you know.

namesroverrated
12-23-2009, 12:32 AM
I'm in a similar situation and I think that this
Two bands, one jam band and another one you'd want to do gigs with. HUZZAH Everybody happy!
is what I'm going to do

carr4600
12-23-2009, 12:33 AM
if your next gig starts at 8 tell him its at 9 and when he shows up he will see you and his replacement rockin the house and it will just work itself out...lol or you can pistol whip him !!!!!

shenanigans

Opethfan1
12-23-2009, 12:42 AM
shenanigans



now i must kill you....sorry bro thats the rules !!!!! :bash:

Koshman32
12-23-2009, 01:13 AM
now i must kill you....sorry bro thats the rules !!!!! :bash:

Just pistol whip him, not kill...

Guitarmike123
12-23-2009, 04:16 AM
Whatever you do, just say it to him in person, a text, or an email is by far the worst thin you could do and may drive him to kill you in your sleep. But since you took the coward way, then you deserve it.

Just tell it to him directly, if you are good friends he will understand.

SomeoneYouKnew
12-23-2009, 01:45 PM
How do I tell him I dont need it without making me seem like such a bad friend?I don't think there is a way. The reason you're wanting your friend out of the band is because you've decided he isn't good enough and the people you assembled later can cover everything.

You knew how good he was (or wasn't) when you started this. He was good enough for you then, but now you're changing the rules to suit you. Bad enough to do something like this to just someone you don't know at all. But to do it to a friend is even worse. Poor personnel management on your part in either case. As far as friends go, this is bad. You seem like a bad friend from here. I imagine it will seem the same to your friend.

:shrug:

lespaul1216
12-23-2009, 04:28 PM
wow. could have used this thread when my band had a keyboardist we had NO use for.

he quit on his own, it's all good

QuantumMechanix
12-23-2009, 04:33 PM
Serious answer: You have a drummer and three guitarists, correct? Have your friend take up bass. Problem solved. And if he already plays guitar, he can probably play some simple bass parts already.

eaton1012
12-26-2009, 07:57 PM
Serious answer: You have a drummer and three guitarists, correct? Have your friend take up bass. Problem solved. And if he already plays guitar, he can probably play some simple bass parts already.

If this is the case, then yes tell him you need him on bass.

JWD32792
12-27-2009, 08:51 PM
Serious answer: You have a drummer and three guitarists, correct? Have your friend take up bass. Problem solved. And if he already plays guitar, he can probably play some simple bass parts already.

Yeah this seems to be the best solution.

AlanHB
12-27-2009, 09:15 PM
In the future, don't get a third guitarist. I don't need everyone screaming Iron Maiden at this point. The pure truth is that 99.9% of the time, a third guitarist is useless.

Dishburn
12-29-2009, 02:00 PM
Manny,

In the 60's Randy Bachman (from Bachman Turner Overdrive) was showing his friend some guitar chords and his friend just couldn't pick them up. He started his band without him. Although Bachman gave up on his friend, his friend didn't give up on himself. A year later his buddy, Neil Young, sent Bachman the first copy of his first album with his band Buffalo Springfield.

Part of being an musician is teaching others your craft.

Ask yourself this: can you help your friend or is it easier to just give up on him and move on.

Rock on, Brother.
Dish

12345abcd3
12-29-2009, 02:14 PM
Did you post this in the pit first or something?

If you want him out of the band then just tell it to him straight. Don't hide from it and don't lie about why just take the time to explain the situation to him. He'll probably be annoyed anyway but there will be more of a chance for you still being friends this way.

Asking him to play bass is also a good idea though, seeing as most bands have a lot of trouble finding a bass player.