lead vocalist is gay


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12-02-2007, 02:46 PM
so i found out that the lead vocalist in my band has been hitting on my girlfriend. my and my girl talked ad she'll get mad at me if i beat his ass. ha
i really dont know what to do

12-02-2007, 02:48 PM
Destroy him mentally and kick him from the band aswell

12-02-2007, 02:50 PM
That makes him gay? :confused:

12-02-2007, 02:51 PM
sorry not like really gay, but its a figure of speech my bad

Metallica rulz
12-02-2007, 02:52 PM
Is gay meant literately here?

Edit- alright, kick his ass out, unless he has like the greatest singing voice ever. If so, then deal with it.

12-02-2007, 02:54 PM
Your figure of speech is stupid.

Tell your girlfriend not to be a whore.

Problem solved.

12-02-2007, 02:55 PM
yea, my girl wants me to work it out with him, but right now if i come anywhere close to him, i will kill him. hes a decent singer, but he is *was* one of my best friends.

edit: My gf isnt a ***** you ignorant douche. if you would have read the post correctly you would have saw that he is the one hitting on her.

12-02-2007, 03:02 PM
I didn't say she was. This shouldn't be a problem if you trust her, unless your singer is a rapist.

Don't call me a douche when you use gay as a derogatory term. It doesn't help your case at all.

12-02-2007, 03:03 PM
i trust her, just not so much him and you did. you said tell her not to be a *****. but w/e.

12-02-2007, 03:09 PM
Hitting on a girl makes you gay now?

12-02-2007, 03:13 PM
Hitting on a girl makes you gay now?

Apparently. :rolleyes: .

TS, just tell him to stop and if he doesn't kick him out. It's no big deal.

12-02-2007, 03:13 PM
Hitting on a girl makes you gay now?

Imagine having sex with one? Even Elton John would call you a flamer. :rolleyes:

And to the threadstarter, my entire point is that if your girlfriend isn't sucking this man's penis, or isn't thinking about mounting him anytime soon, why the hell should it matter? Just get her to tell him to piss off.

Baba O'Riley
12-02-2007, 11:15 PM
Don't be ignorant by using the term gay in that context.

Personally I don't know if you should work with this guy anymore. He knew you're together but he still hit on her right? He doesn't sound like a stand-up guy.

If you think there's still a future with him, just tell him to stop and that if he wants to keep being in the band he has to act professional.

12-02-2007, 11:22 PM
you both need to confront him and tell him to cut that sh!t out. let it be known that ANY future infractions will result in him being kicked out (and enforce it dammit)

12-03-2007, 01:04 AM
Tell him to back off or he's out.

12-03-2007, 01:07 AM
Pull him aside after band practice sometime and explain to him why he should stop, and don't be an asshole about it. Thats what I would do.

12-03-2007, 05:13 AM
I agree with the guy above.

Point out that by hitting on your girl, he's not giving either her or you the respect you deserve. Ask him to stop, and if he doesn't, remove him from your band. Make him understand that a band is an environment in which everyone has to have respect for the other members, and if that respect is broken, the band can't function properly.

Like ElectricMammal said, be firm about what you're saying, but don't be an asshole.

12-03-2007, 05:23 AM
Jeez...I thought you had RHS for a second.

RHS = Rob Halford Syndrome.

Srsly. Tell him to piss off, and lay off, or you're gonna give him the boot.

12-03-2007, 10:15 AM
i trust her, just not so much him
So if you trust her, then whether you trust him or not doesn't really matter, because he's not going to get anything from her apart from rejection.
But fair enough, I see your point, if he was a real mate he wouldn't be hitting on your girlfriend anyway, so either explain this to him and hope he'll change his ways or simply don't have anything else to do with him, after all, who needs mates like that?

12-03-2007, 02:58 PM
I presume the problem is that he is gay, and so he should not be making advances?

12-04-2007, 02:59 PM
This has nothing to do with your band if you ask me. You said he is one of your friends.

If you don't trust your girlfriend around him when she is drunk, then you need to talk to him. Thats how I look at it. Be like look, we've been friends for a long time. Now why would you do something stupid like blatantly flirting with my girlfriend?

I don't know about you, but between me and all my friends, it went unspoken until very recently that anyone who hooks up with one of our ex's is a dead man, to the group (and physically, as we will all beat his ass). We all see our ex's when we go out, and we are all friendly to them. And yea some flirting goes on, but a good friend never betrays the guys that have backed him up his entire life. And my friends and I know that, so it never goes past that.

12-07-2007, 06:04 PM
sounds like you were amoged

12-07-2007, 06:11 PM
Nut him.

12-12-2007, 12:36 AM
I didn't say she was. This shouldn't be a problem if you trust her, unless your singer is a rapist.

Don't call me a douche when you use gay as a derogatory term. It doesn't help your case at all.

now this is a good person. thank rush, for pointing out what i wanted to say as soon as i started reading this thread.

12-12-2007, 01:19 AM
...this is still here? :p:

12-12-2007, 01:25 PM
A) What's the problem of having a gay vocalist?
B) If he's hitting on your girl friend, this would lead me to believe that he is either bi-sexual or straight. Making him not gay. This confuses me.

12-16-2007, 03:55 PM
The best thing to do is make ground rules right off the bat and remember one thing if things are gonna happen they will with or without you knowing it. You have to sit and figure out whats more important the group or the chick or the chick cousing confliction with the group chicks are a dime a dozen remember that bro band members aint.

12-17-2007, 08:49 AM
Hitting on a girl makes you gay now?

so does that mean if a guy hits on another guy, its viewed as not gay?

12-17-2007, 09:22 AM
guys, its only gay if the balls touch

12-17-2007, 09:37 AM
You are all fools.
His singer/friend is female. It solves the mystery.

12-17-2007, 09:39 AM
Double team?

12-17-2007, 02:01 PM
PersonallyI think gay is a way out of a true relatioship between partners of the opistite sex. But in todays world were living in I often have to wounder something if I buy sex from a female does that make me a buysexual?

12-17-2007, 08:20 PM
hmmm... Kick him out and be a total dick about it and when he turns to walk off, hit him (but then run)