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Old 02-07-2014, 01:16 PM   #12981
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Pretty much impossible, as I see her almost every day. What makes you think that?



Again, what makes you think that? It's just the weekend and Monday.



And this doesn't really help either. I'm just trying to understand what's going on.

what's going on is that she's either finding sexual satisfaction somewhere else or she doesn't want it any more. investigate!
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Old 02-07-2014, 01:40 PM   #12982
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what's going on is that she's either finding sexual satisfaction somewhere else or she doesn't want it any more. investigate!


the ****?...

maybe she's just having a rough week or two..

edit: wait.. were you being sarcastic?
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Old 02-07-2014, 02:02 PM   #12983
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maybe she's just having a rough week or two..


Could be it, as I don't see any other signs of the relationship going stale. It could very well be that she just didn't want to.
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Old 02-07-2014, 02:05 PM   #12984
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the ****?...

maybe she's just having a rough week or two..

edit: wait.. were you being sarcastic?
he said it's been three months

EDIT: holy hell I misread your first post. you've only been dating for three months, I thought you meant you guys hadn't had sex in three months
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Old 02-07-2014, 02:06 PM   #12985
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he said it's been three months

EDIT: holy hell I misread your first post. you've only been dating for three months, I thought you meant you guys hadn't had sex in three months


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Old 02-07-2014, 05:48 PM   #12986
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She enjoys it, but it never builds into an orgasm.
I've tried lots of different approaches. As I mentioned, I've had success with a different girl in the past and she's also unable to bring herself to orgasms either, so I don't think it's entirely my technique.

Hadn't even considered sex toys. I don't know how she'd react to that but I think she would find it awkward and weird, at least at first. I know she's never used sex toys and I doubt she's ever even seriously considered it.

I'm not suggesting that she should have learned how to from porn, I was just throwing that in as an extra detail. She doesn't seem to know how to pleasure herself in any way and it feels like kind of a daunting task to try to overcome that on my end.


EDIT: I feel like I should also add that she rarely, if ever, feels "wet." I generally end up going down on her briefly before penetration for the lubrication, and if I don't entry can be uncomfortable for both of us. She's mentioned that it's a side effect of her birth control but I don't know if that fully explains it or not.

It could be the birth control, it could also be dehydration. If she doesn't drink much water (everyone should aim for 3-4 pints a day) then it will affect her vaginal lubrication.

Since you've obviously tried all the tricks like inserting a finger whilst licking, stroking inner thighs and labia, exposing the clit during oral, increasing the pace, having her communicate what she wants more of etc. I think that you should definitely consider a small vibrator. It's something you can explore together as they're pretty inexpensive to buy and not intimidating unlike a large dildo. Doing this together you can help get over the initial awkwardness and any apprehension. Then you can have a bit of fun trying it out on her and trying it out on you, using it during sex and just for masturbation.... It sounds weird, but adding lube makes the vibrations feel even better. There's certainly plenty fun to be had without penetration. Sales assistants will be full of good tips if you go in store. If you feel like things are a bit stale then its time to try something new.

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Old 02-07-2014, 06:54 PM   #12987
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Could be it, as I don't see any other signs of the relationship going stale. It could very well be that she just didn't want to.


you could just ask her what's up you know..

maybe she'll pull the old "nothing" aka go-figure-it-out-you-doofus
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Old 02-07-2014, 08:00 PM   #12988
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Pretty much impossible, as I see her almost every day. What makes you think that?



Again, what makes you think that? It's just the weekend and Monday.



And this doesn't really help either. I'm just trying to understand what's going on.

Its not a good sign at all if she's not interested in having sex with you.

It's not always going to stay how it was when you fist started hooking up, but if you hang out all the time atleast a few times a week. At the very least.

Maybe it's gotten stale for her, you need to act on it quick I do think it sounds like you're in danger of losing this girl
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Old 03-09-2014, 04:56 AM   #12989
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What do my sex life and this thread have in common?

They're both dead.
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Old 03-14-2014, 10:10 AM   #12990
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Be careful of what condoms you buy, some people react badly to warning and cooling effects. Probably worth avoiding the aforementioned brand if it can strip off nail polish.
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Old 03-14-2014, 10:53 AM   #12991
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Wtf how can they still be sold. That's really scary, thanks for sharing.

I know I'm allergic to one brand (what a horrible experience that was) but I can't remember the name only the packaging. I'll try and find it now
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Old 03-14-2014, 11:10 AM   #12992
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Be careful of what condoms you buy, some people react badly to warning and cooling effects. Probably worth avoiding the aforementioned brand if it can strip off nail polish.

Incapacitated by burning sensations for hours afterwards.. ;_;

Thank god for the pill.
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Old 03-14-2014, 11:22 AM   #12993
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Its not a good sign at all if she's not interested in having sex with you.

It's not always going to stay how it was when you fist started hooking up, but if you hang out all the time atleast a few times a week. At the very least.

Maybe it's gotten stale for her, you need to act on it quick I do think it sounds like you're in danger of losing this girl


Not wanting sex usually isn't about the sex. It's a symptom of a deeper problem so changing your technique probably won't work. Time for some quality conversations about life and love and peeling back a few layers of the onion to discover what is eating at her. Maybe she is considering joining a convent.
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Old 03-15-2014, 07:23 AM   #12994
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To the poster above me; well, your reply is almost a month too late now. All's good. There was indeed something wrong, but we talked through it and fixed whatever problem there was.

Now back to good stuff: how do I get her to try different positions once in a while? During sex she's always very much into the dirty talk and such, but we never really manage to try a different position. Also, she gets unbelievably horny when I come in her very quickly after starting. Is this normal? :P
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Old 03-15-2014, 09:42 AM   #12995
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Also, she gets unbelievably horny when I come in her very quickly after starting. Is this normal? :P

I guess it's not really abnormal. I'd assume it just makes her feel good that you just couldn't stop yourself from cumming, as if she's just that good in bed. She likes that she can give you so much pleasure. Think about it the other way around. Wouldn't it make you horny and excited to make her cum pretty quickly? I hope the answer is yes lol.
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Old 03-23-2014, 03:38 PM   #12996
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Ok, so my girlfriend is a virgin and so am I. She doesn't know if she has ever had an orgasm before because she never fingered her self and what not before we started dating she is 19. How do i tell if she has, she has been shaking and squirming and she has told me she has went numb before. She still can't tell if she has or not.
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Old 03-23-2014, 03:40 PM   #12997
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Ok, so my girlfriend is a virgin and so am I. She doesn't know if she has ever had an orgasm before because she never fingered her self and what not before we started dating she is 19. How do i tell if she has, she has been shaking and squirming and she has told me she has went numb before. She still can't tell if she has or not.

she hasn't if she doesn't know, probably
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Old 03-23-2014, 03:46 PM   #12998
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Is this the right place for this question? Don't know if it is but it'll be close enough.

If there's a girl who you want to get interested, you text her, she lives in your town (But you're not mates enough to just go over to her place), how'd you go about creating some interest or whatever?
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Old 03-23-2014, 09:24 PM   #12999
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To the poster above me; well, your reply is almost a month too late now. All's good. There was indeed something wrong, but we talked through it and fixed whatever problem there was.

Now back to good stuff: how do I get her to try different positions once in a while? During sex she's always very much into the dirty talk and such, but we never really manage to try a different position. Also, she gets unbelievably horny when I come in her very quickly after starting. Is this normal? :P




How to get her in different positions? Just move her that way.


From missionary, you can transition to a number of different postions all without pulling out. Seamless transitions really, there's really no planning, just do what you feel. Like start in missionary, then sit up on your knees, push her legs to side, etc.

If she has a favorite one, or one she orgasms in, make it the finishing position. It'll make it better once you get there at the end of your session.
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How to get her in different positions? Just move her that way.


From missionary, you can transition to a number of different postions all without pulling out. Seamless transitions really, there's really no planning, just do what you feel. Like start in missionary, then sit up on your knees, push her legs to side, etc.


Tried this once, didn't work. She didn't want to. It's almost as if she's scared to go into any other position. I'm kind of at a loss of what to do.
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