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Old 08-25-2014, 05:12 PM   #6561
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do you ever come across people that you want to know better but you cant because you live far away, dont really have a common friend & circle etc? I've met this girl a year ago or something. She is one of close friends of a girlfriend of mine. Yet our common friend moved to 15000 miles away or something. We have no common grounds now... Shame.
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Old 08-25-2014, 05:28 PM   #6562
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do you ever come across people that you want to know better but you cant because you live far away, dont really have a common friend & circle etc? I've met this girl a year ago or something. She is one of close friends of a girlfriend of mine. Yet our common friend moved to 15000 miles away or something. We have no common grounds now... Shame.


"Hey! you're blah's friend"
"Yeah, you hear she moved to blah?"
"Man we should've hung out more you were pretty blah"
"Should go to blah together I heard it's good"

blah
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Old 08-25-2014, 05:34 PM   #6563
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"Hey! you're blah's friend"
"Yeah, you hear she moved to blah?"
"Man we should've hung out more you were pretty blah"
"Should go to blah together I heard it's good"

blah


**** that just made me feel so unconfident about myself. I broke up with my girlfriend 3 weeks ago (weve been togather for 2 years). I think I'm too rusted
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Old 08-26-2014, 03:22 AM   #6564
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"Hey! you're blah's friend"
"Yeah, you hear she moved to blah?"
"Man we should've hung out more you were pretty blah"
"Should go to blah together I heard it's good"

blah


women always fall for the blah's
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Old 08-26-2014, 03:44 AM   #6565
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**** that just made me feel so unconfident about myself. I broke up with my girlfriend 3 weeks ago (weve been togather for 2 years). I think I'm too rusted


Charm doesn't necessarily rust. You may have forgotten your most used lines or have an issue with the delivery, but if the desire is there, you're fine.

Now, being afraid of the rejection is another problem on its own. While I don't believe you should sit around and mope, talking to this woman after you haven't even given yourself the proper time to cope would most likely not be in your best interest.

Especially if you weren't the one to end it.
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Old 08-26-2014, 03:50 AM   #6566
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Charm doesn't necessarily rust. You may have forgotten your most used lines or have an issue with the delivery, but if the desire is there, you're fine.

Now, being afraid of the rejection is another problem on its own. While I don't believe you should sit around and mope, talking to this woman after you haven't even given yourself the proper time to cope would most likely not be in your best interest.

Especially if you weren't the one to end it.


We ended it mutually as she was moving to states (I live in Turkey). We did long distance for 3 months before and we didnt have the guts for trying it again.

I think you are right about giving some time. Ill be starting to college next week and I think It would be easier for me to get back into game in college atmosphere where everyone is willing to meet and be friends
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Old 08-26-2014, 06:02 AM   #6567
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I never got all the fuzz about "dates". when the hell did this turn into anything other than "hey, you're interesting, let's spend time together and see what happens"?
i feel like the whole concept has become a weird thing on it's own.

all this "ice breaking" and "pick-up line" business just seems horribly cold and mechanical to me. personally, I wouldn't want to use (or need) some kind of strategy just to get a girl to spend time with me again.
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Old 08-26-2014, 08:13 AM   #6568
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I never got all the fuzz about "dates". when the hell did this turn into anything other than "hey, you're interesting, let's spend time together and see what happens"?
i feel like the whole concept has become a weird thing on it's own.

all this "ice breaking" and "pick-up line" business just seems horribly cold and mechanical to me. personally, I wouldn't want to use (or need) some kind of strategy just to get a girl to spend time with me again.


You need to talk to them. During this talking you need to show interest. You need to ask them out and some point so you can get to know them. That's how people work.

And nobody actually uses pickup lines.
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Old 08-26-2014, 09:29 AM   #6569
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You need to talk to them. During this talking you need to show interest. You need to ask them out and some point so you can get to know them. That's how people work.


I think you misunderstood. I feel like the issues with asking-people-out get artificically inflated, that's about it.

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heh.. wouldn't that be nice
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Old 08-26-2014, 12:27 PM   #6570
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My good (and incredibly handsome ) friend is feeling really down on himself. He hasn't ever had a girlfriend and is 21 years old.

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beta post. the feeling if being completely unlovable is compltely consuming my existence. what the hell is wrong with me? ive never felt loved by anyone. ive never had a girlfriend. ive never even kissed a girl man. i'm almost 21. its so easy for everyone else. its pretty humiliating. I just don't understand what is wrong with me

to make things worse the only girl ive ever been completely in love with is the only one that ever will have friendzoned me. i dont understand why nothing can ever go my way


What advice can I give and what can I say to make him feel better? I've told him he needs to just put himself out there, find a girl that he clicks with and get that first kiss after which everything will become easier, but he's hung up on this one girl so much.

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It's typical infatuation, what can you say to someone who is so clearly deluded?
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Old 08-26-2014, 12:52 PM   #6571
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beta post. the feeling if being completely unlovable is compltely consuming my existence. what the hell is wrong with me? ive never felt loved by anyone. ive never had a girlfriend. ive never even kissed a girl man. i'm almost 21. its so easy for everyone else. its pretty humiliating. I just don't understand what is wrong with me

to make things worse the only girl ive ever been completely in love with is the only one that ever will have friendzoned me. i dont understand why nothing can ever go my way


Dress better. Get a decent haircut. Get better at topbanter by failing at it in front of many women. You sucked at playing the guitar for a long time too, didn't you? The only reason it's easier for "everyone" else is because they know how to play the game to some degree.

Your "one" is gone, and talking to other girls will slowly put you her out of your mind. Not talking to other girls leaves her there eating away at you. Leave her there for too long and you'll start doubting yourself. Doubt yourself for too long and you end up afraid of rejection. Don't go out looking for the one, instead just chat with the women around you. It'll build up your confidence that other people do like you - even if you don't like them as much.

Over time that confidence will been noticed by someone you do like, and banter will ensue, and you'll get to touch her boobs
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Old 08-26-2014, 12:56 PM   #6572
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My good (and incredibly handsome ) friend is feeling really down on himself. He hasn't ever had a girlfriend and is 21 years old.



What advice can I give and what can I say to make him feel better? I've told him he needs to just put himself out there, find a girl that he clicks with and get that first kiss after which everything will become easier, but he's hung up on this one girl so much.



It's typical infatuation, what can you say to someone who is so clearly deluded?


tell him to come by here for a proper, much-needed lashing
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Old Today, 10:28 AM   #6573
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Anyone had success stories?
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Thanks!

Reason why I ask is I met a girl via there a couple of nights ago and she's added me on Facestalk.

Just wondered if this was a positive.
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I got engaged a couple of weeks ago if anyone realy cares... first happy moment of my life
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Old Today, 04:00 PM   #6577
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Hey congrats! That's great!

I think I'll be reading through this thread for awhile. I've been having some issues of my own for awhile and its good seeing some of the advice in the last few pages. It's good to know there's people out there who have relatable stories.
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I just saw your post in the depression-thread. seems like you're really happy about this engagement thing

congrats brah!
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