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Old Yesterday, 12:53 PM   #5481
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Not really a 'relationship' question, but one I'm sure you've been asked before in regards to relationships: What's the best way to help someone who's suffering from depression?

A friend of mine has always sort of suffered, but nothing major and he always kept it fairly well hidden. Lately though, we've became closer friends, talking and hanging out more. His depression has come back fairly bad lately, and it's causing him to develop an eating disorder, and as a result, has lost nearly 2 stone in as many months. He always said that his depression was to do with his upbringing, before most of us knew him.

As I see him as one of my best friends, I want to help him in anyway I can, but I'm just lost on what to do, so any advice would be greatly appreciated.


You can't help. There is nothing you can do to help a clinically depressed person. That's a job for a therapist or doctor. The only thing you can do is get him to one of the people qualified for it.
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Old Yesterday, 04:25 PM   #5482
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Why do girls always want attention? My gf is driving me crazy at some points. She sometimes says it will have to come from two sides, but I often get the feeling I need to put more effort on the relationship. Paired with all the 'you will stay with me forever, right?' nonsense, I sometimes get the feeling as if I'm being led on. Just now she refused to have sex with me after some foreplay, claiming she was suddenly 'tired', even though I did everything basically. When I got a little pissed she said she's scared of saying no to sex, because of my reaction, but it's not about that at all. Why tell me shit and then not do it? Can she not see I put a lot of effort into her? I have no idea how to word this incoherent rambling to her, but the gist of it is as follows; I heel like I spend more time and effort into her than she does to me.
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Old Yesterday, 04:47 PM   #5483
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Old Yesterday, 04:54 PM   #5484
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Why do girls always want attention? My gf is driving me crazy at some points. She sometimes says it will have to come from two sides, but I often get the feeling I need to put more effort on the relationship. Paired with all the 'you will stay with me forever, right?' nonsense, I sometimes get the feeling as if I'm being led on. Just now she refused to have sex with me after some foreplay, claiming she was suddenly 'tired', even though I did everything basically. When I got a little pissed she said she's scared of saying no to sex, because of my reaction, but it's not about that at all. Why tell me shit and then not do it? Can she not see I put a lot of effort into her? I have no idea how to word this incoherent rambling to her, but the gist of it is as follows; I heel like I spend more time and effort into her than she does to me.



Sounds like she is clingy and it's finally starting to annoy you. She also might be taking advantage of you, whether she realizes it or not, due to some emotional insecurities or something.


I'd get out of that relationship if things don't change pretty soon. You're probably just going to get more and more annoyed.
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Old Today, 02:13 AM   #5485
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Sounds quite a bit like my last relationship, which ended about 6 months after things started to become unstable. Looking back, I wish I would have ended it much sooner, as I felt like I was suffering every single day of those last months. I guess I would say don't put yourself through a bunch of shit because you think you can save the relationship. It sounds like she could be emotionally unstable and possibly shouldn't be in a relationship at the moment.


I saw her today and we ended up getting in another fight because I raised my voice to her. She was nagging me about showing more affection, emotion, and when I talk to her about the stuff I like (Cars, music, CNC machining) it bores her. If I don't talk about stuff then we will sit there in silence until she makes a disgusted face or something. She won't speak up about her life because she thinks it bores me even though I tell her I'd love to listen. So we just sat in my car for three and a half hours and talked/silence and then the fighting. She called me poison.. But she apologized a few minutes later and acted as if nothing happened.

Anyways thanks for the reply. There's no point keeping the relationship going I guess is there?
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Old Today, 02:20 AM   #5486
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Not one for leaving cliffhangers, but I'm such an idiot.

Don't have the time/courage to openly admit what I know I did, but I needed to vent this before I went to bed.
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why, when I'm single, nobody is interested, but now that I have a girlfriend, I've been asked on 4 dates and this 1 girl made some very suggestive comments at the bar last week, they sounded pretty good in my drunken ears. Thank god I'm faithful to my girlfriend
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Old Today, 07:55 AM   #5488
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Not really a 'relationship' question, but one I'm sure you've been asked before in regards to relationships: What's the best way to help someone who's suffering from depression?

A friend of mine has always sort of suffered, but nothing major and he always kept it fairly well hidden. Lately though, we've became closer friends, talking and hanging out more. His depression has come back fairly bad lately, and it's causing him to develop an eating disorder, and as a result, has lost nearly 2 stone in as many months. He always said that his depression was to do with his upbringing, before most of us knew him.

As I see him as one of my best friends, I want to help him in anyway I can, but I'm just lost on what to do, so any advice would be greatly appreciated.


Part 2 of my response to this. Search up for "adventures in depression" by hyperbole and behalf, both part 1 and 2. Read it . Its the most beautiful piece of description of depression.
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Old Today, 09:29 AM   #5489
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I saw her today and we ended up getting in another fight because I raised my voice to her. She was nagging me about showing more affection, emotion, and when I talk to her about the stuff I like (Cars, music, CNC machining) it bores her. If I don't talk about stuff then we will sit there in silence until she makes a disgusted face or something. She won't speak up about her life because she thinks it bores me even though I tell her I'd love to listen. So we just sat in my car for three and a half hours and talked/silence and then the fighting. She called me poison.. But she apologized a few minutes later and acted as if nothing happened.

Anyways thanks for the reply. There's no point keeping the relationship going I guess is there?



Sorry to hear that. It sounds like both of you are trying to keep the relationship alive without any real reason to, besides that it feels good to be in a relationship. I know exactly how that feels and it can be scary to let go, but if you can't be with her without fighting and awkward silences, then it's probably time to end it.
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Old Today, 11:49 AM   #5490
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I saw her today and we ended up getting in another fight because I raised my voice to her. She was nagging me about showing more affection, emotion, and when I talk to her about the stuff I like (Cars, music, CNC machining) it bores her. If I don't talk about stuff then we will sit there in silence until she makes a disgusted face or something. She won't speak up about her life because she thinks it bores me even though I tell her I'd love to listen. So we just sat in my car for three and a half hours and talked/silence and then the fighting. She called me poison.. But she apologized a few minutes later and acted as if nothing happened.

Anyways thanks for the reply. There's no point keeping the relationship going I guess is there?

No, she sounds like a toxic person. Tbh, she just sounds bored with the relationship overall, making shit excuses about it, too.
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Old Today, 02:30 PM   #5491
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Not one for leaving cliffhangers, but I'm such an idiot.

Don't have the time/courage to openly admit what I know I did, but I needed to vent this before I went to bed.


boy you best find the time and courage cos you know how much we hate cliffhangers
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Old Today, 04:10 PM   #5492
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Sounds like she is clingy and it's finally starting to annoy you. She also might be taking advantage of you, whether she realizes it or not, due to some emotional insecurities or something.

I'd get out of that relationship if things don't change pretty soon. You're probably just going to get more and more annoyed.


Yeah, I see what you mean, but it mostly isn't like this at all. I really do love her and I know she loves me too. It's her first 'real' relationship though, so it probably just takes a while for her to adjust to having to deal with me as well. I'm not one for ending things if they don't really go the way they should. I'd rather talk stuff out, so that's what I usually do. Last night I was just a little annoyed with her - and that's probably also because we see each other a lot. I get along with her really well and I would hate to lose her over small and insignificant thing. It takes some to get used to each other and I think relationship-wise, this relationship is getting to the next level, with talking of moving in together and even other stuff. We get by fine and if there's any arguments, I always make sure I talk them out, even if she doesn't really feel like it at first. In general, stuff is going fine and to be honest, I don't really mind the clingyness all that much - only if it becomes too much.
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boy you best find the time and courage cos you know how much we hate cliffhangers


the first movie was bad enough.. it doesn't deserve a shitty sequel. and sly's a bit too old at this point to come out of cliff hanging retirement
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Old Today, 05:42 PM   #5494
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Thanks for the replies man, you too @Ace. The guy's about to be doing a PhD in physics, so he's got plenty to keep him distracted with work, but I know what you mean about him wanting to shut himself out from the world. It doesn't really help me knowing that I'm pretty much useless in helping him, but he's going to start seeing a counsellor again so that should hopefully help. I'll check out that adventures in depression too, it sounds like it should give me a better insight so I can be more understanding.

Thanks guys
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