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Old 03-10-2014, 10:22 PM   #4781
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that's fine man, nobody wants you to overshare. i'm also in the "get my shit together" phase, so i know what you mean. it's not self-pitying, it's just conveying facts. you're not like, "oh my life is total shit poor me poor me."

you can typically tell from someone's language. if when someone talks about their life, everything is passive and external, the person is displacing the responsibility from themselves to something or someone else. but you're saying you're getting your shit together. you're acknowledging that you're the problem (in addition to whatever external circumstances are actual problems) by saying you're getting your shit together.
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Old 03-11-2014, 01:28 AM   #4782
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It's important to note that I've NEVER been in a relationship. Ever.

I'm not sure how much longer I can sit on this and wait though. I've always been unable to muster up enough courage but right now, after seeing her in person, I feel like I have just enough to force myself to do it.

I am not one to do stupid things, and I definitely do not want to screw up any chance I have, no matter how slim they may be.

EDIT: Also what worries me is that we're at the age where relationships start getting serious and may quite possibly lead to engagement. Then it's game over.

2 of my former classmates are engaged.

The girl in question and her boyfriend have been together for about 3 years I think.


Welcome to manhood, where you respect the boundaries of other people. Sorry to say, but you just are going to have to suck it up and deal with it until she doesn't have a boyfriend. Quite frankly, it's underhanded to go after a taken girl when she's taken.

If it's game over, then be happy for her--anything else is jealousy and possessiveness.
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Old 03-11-2014, 01:29 PM   #4783
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Wrong girls meaning...?


I don't have a high opinion of women, generally. Unless they're awesome.

I met an awesome chick. But she's got a boyfriend. Hung out with her, lots of flirting back and forward. Some sex talk here and there. But she won't leave her boyfriend for me since I'm gonna be leaving soon anyway.

I feel kinda sad. Been in this country for 4 years, never met a girl like that, and now I'm about to leave.

Kinda got one-itis for her now. I blocked her off my FB and off my phone just to clear my head. She knows and she's pissed off, but I can't afford to give a shit.

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Old 03-11-2014, 01:39 PM   #4784
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Lol you want her because you know you can't have her. It's human nature.
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Old 03-11-2014, 01:46 PM   #4785
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Lol you want her because you know you can't have her. It's human nature.


I don't know if it's so simple. I've got plenty of chick friends who are not available and I don't hit on them. This one's one of those chicks you wanna wife the shit out of. And it's frustrating because I'm better than her boyfriend.
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Old 03-11-2014, 01:48 PM   #4786
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I don't have a high opinion of women, generally. Unless they're awesome.

I met an awesome chick. But she's got a boyfriend. Hung out with her, lots of flirting back and forward. Some sex talk here and there. But she won't leave her boyfriend for me since I'm gonna be leaving soon anyway.

I feel kinda sad. Been in this country for 4 years, never met a girl like that, and now I'm about to leave.

Kinda got one-itis for her now. I blocked her off my FB and off my phone just to clear my head. She knows and she's pissed off, but I can't afford to give a shit.


That's really kind of your fault. You knew she had a BF yet you still pursued and now you're more invested than you originally were.

And I don't know how much you wanna "wife the shit out" of a girl who strings along another man when she's already in a relationship with someone else. If she can do that to him, she'll have no problem doing that to you.

But hey, whatever floats your boat.

Edit: And she obviously does not share your opinion of being better than her BF. Otherwise, she'd left him for you. Girls are calculating.
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Old 03-11-2014, 01:52 PM   #4787
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I don't know if it's so simple. I've got plenty of chick friends who are not available and I don't hit on them. This one's one of those chicks you wanna wife the shit out of. And it's frustrating because I'm better than her boyfriend.


That's the difference, they're your friends and there's no pretense of relationship.
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Old 03-11-2014, 02:00 PM   #4788
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This may be a stupid question.

But why do I never meet girls I like? I meet quite a lot of people and they can be cool but nothing more. It's not that I think I'm better it's just I can't relate to anybody else and honestly I don't find other people interesting.

I'm so lonely.

For many years I've had no friends, now I have some friends... And I don't want them anymore. When people phone me up it's a hassle, I don't want to go out anymore, I've given up meeting a girl I like because I never really like any that I meet.

Should I become a recluse?

Unrelated but I'm going through a massive depression right now.

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Old 03-11-2014, 02:01 PM   #4789
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This may be a stupid question.

But why do I never meet girls I like? I meet quite a lot of people and they can be cool but nothing more. It's not that I think I'm better it's just I can't relate to anybody else and honestly I don't find other people interesting.

I'm so lonely.


I felt that way too for a long while. eventually that one person will come.
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Old 03-11-2014, 02:02 PM   #4790
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Old 03-11-2014, 02:07 PM   #4791
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I hope so.


Seriously though. you don't want ur friends anymore? is that their fault or is it yours? it seems like ur sad/depressed about something bigger then not meeting the people you want to meet.

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For many years I've had no friends, now I have some friends... And I don't want them anymore. When people phone me up it's a hassle, I don't want to go out anymore, I've given up meeting a girl I like because I never really like any that I meet.

Should I become a recluse?

Unrelated but I'm going through a massive depression right now.


Somehow I missed all of this..... A massive depression is ur only problem. It's hard, but people can get out of it. If you can get ur stuff together and get out of a depression, the rest will be a cakewalk bro.
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Old 03-11-2014, 02:07 PM   #4792
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This may be a stupid question.

But why do I never meet girls I like? I meet quite a lot of people and they can be cool but nothing more. It's not that I think I'm better it's just I can't relate to anybody else and honestly I don't find other people interesting.

I'm so lonely.

For many years I've had no friends, now I have some friends... And I don't want them anymore. When people phone me up it's a hassle, I don't want to go out anymore, I've given up meeting a girl I like because I never really like any that I meet.

Should I become a recluse?

Unrelated but I'm going through a massive depression right now.


Are you kidding? It's 100% related to that. It's the cause of not wanting to meet anyone or talk to anyone. That's a big part of depression. All people are going to see if a big dark cloud hanging around you that instantly repels anyone happy.

The problems you have that you post fairly regularly about (your depression issues and other mental ailments) are not something that are conducive, like at all, to being in a relationship. You just plain should not be in one right now because it won't be healthy for you, her, or both together. They're also problems that no one in this thread is qualified to help you properly with, so if you're not receiving treatment or therapy from a qualified person for it, then you need to do so asap.

With the depression though, it happens to everyone at some point to varying degrees. Medication is great and everything, but it's a crutch. A bandaid solution to the true issue that lies much deeper within you. Only you can grab that depression and kick it out of your life. Remember that.
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Old 03-11-2014, 02:13 PM   #4793
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They're also problems that no one in this thread is qualified to help you properly with, so if you're not receiving treatment or therapy from a qualified person for it, then you need to do so asap.


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Old 03-11-2014, 02:14 PM   #4794
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That's really kind of your fault. You knew she had a BF yet you still pursued and now you're more invested than you originally were.

And I don't know how much you wanna "wife the shit out" of a girl who strings along another man when she's already in a relationship with someone else. If she can do that to him, she'll have no problem doing that to you.

But hey, whatever floats your boat.

Edit: And she obviously does not share your opinion of being better than her BF. Otherwise, she'd left him for you. Girls are calculating.


Thing is, she knows I'm leaving. She's not going to drop her BF for 2 months with me. I've hinted many times that I just wanna fvck, and she's not said no, she's not said yes either.

But you're right otherwise. I feel strung along. I feel used. I hate it. I need to get my mind off of her. Can you guys give some advice on what to do?

I'm blocked her off FB and my phone. I wanna work out more, play guitar. I'm just afraid that I'll think of her when I got nothing to do.

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But some of them are really hot.
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Old 03-11-2014, 02:15 PM   #4795
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I was diagnosed as being depressed over 10 years ago, I'm doing all I can but if I wait for it get better before I get a girlfriend I will never get a girlfriend. I've been seeing a regular counselor for about a year and a half too. Part of getting over this is learning to be enjoy the company of others.

That comment at the end was tongue in cheek, but few of my friends even know I'm depressed anyway, they're all very cheerful people too. Maybe a girlfriend would know, but I'm generally pleasant to be around.

Damn I'm defensive.
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Old 03-11-2014, 02:59 PM   #4796
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I was diagnosed as being depressed over 10 years ago, I'm doing all I can but if I wait for it get better before I get a girlfriend I will never get a girlfriend. I've been seeing a regular counselor for about a year and a half too. Part of getting over this is learning to be enjoy the company of others.


What progress have you made since seeing the counselor? And if i recall correctly, your relationship with your father is sort of what lead to your depression? As long as that damage lingers, you will be incapable of holding a stable relationship anyways.

I know that depression is tough. But the only person standing in the way of a proper recovery, with inherent happiness being the goal, is yourself. You're stuck in the mindset that you have to be miserable and depressed because, well, that's just how it is. I'm depressed and can't do anything about it sort of thing. I promise you, if you start waking up every day and forcing yourself to be positive, and seeing the sunshine through the clouds, it will start to make a difference. Maybe this isn't anything different from what your counselor has been saying, but stuff like depression is deeply rooted in self worth and perception. The only person who can change your self worth and perception is you.
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I was diagnosed as being depressed over 10 years ago, I'm doing all I can but if I wait for it get better before I get a girlfriend I will never get a girlfriend. I've been seeing a regular counselor for about a year and a half too. Part of getting over this is learning to be enjoy the company of others.

That comment at the end was tongue in cheek, but few of my friends even know I'm depressed anyway, they're all very cheerful people too. Maybe a girlfriend would know, but I'm generally pleasant to be around.

Damn I'm defensive.


That's not a very healthy attitude mate..
You currently seem to be deluding yourself a bit. Getting a gf probably won't magically "fix" you. That's pretty much your own job

Put some effort in it (meaning yourself) and don't wait on an angel to fall through your roof and inevitably fall in love with you!

As for the friends:
The way I see it, there are two possibilities. Either you and your friends are just not compatible, in which case you're gonna need to find new ones on your own, or you're actually being a bit of a narcissistic twat because you got hurt too much and now you're telling yourself you don't need your friends etc.

If you want some real advice: start doing things that you know would be good for you but you normally wouldn't do because you're afraid, lazy or not in the mood, one at a time, once a day or once a week. Getting going is the hardest part.. once you got moving, it'll be easy!

so yeah.. ^what this guy said
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Thing is, she knows I'm leaving. She's not going to drop her BF for 2 months with me. I've hinted many times that I just wanna fvck, and she's not said no, she's not said yes either.

But you're right otherwise. I feel strung along. I feel used. I hate it. I need to get my mind off of her. Can you guys give some advice on what to do?

I'm blocked her off FB and my phone. I wanna work out more, play guitar. I'm just afraid that I'll think of her when I got nothing to do.



But some of them are really hot.


Your problem is that you're massively chauvanistic. You want her because you can't have her. Not saying yes is saying no.
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Old 03-11-2014, 05:10 PM   #4799
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Your problem is that you're massively chauvanistic. You want her because you can't have her. Not saying yes is saying no.


No.

I've told her, I just want to shag her. I don't care about her bf. If I met him, I'd probably not wanna bang her. And I'm not massively chauvinistic. I like her because she genuinely showed me that not all girls suck. And I want to reward her with my dick.

I know lots of chicks, friends and acquaintances, with boyfriends. I don't want to bang them. I'm attracted to the girl above for who she is.
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No.

I've told her, I just want to shag her. I don't care about her bf. If I met him, I'd probably not wanna bang her. And I'm not massively chauvinistic. I like her because she genuinely showed me that not all girls suck. And I want to reward her with my dick.

I know lots of chicks, friends and acquaintances, with boyfriends. I don't want to bang them. I'm attracted to the girl above for who she is.


I've put the massive chauvinism in bold for you. Not caring about her boyfriend is not respecting her choice to be with somebody who isn't you. The idea that you are any sort of reward for her is outright ludicrous.
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