VIRUSDETECTED

In my band, our bassist isn't good. And to be blunt, he isn't even mediocre. He can hardly keep time, and he can hardly hold a steady thump. We've found a better bassist who's a very close friend to replace him, and we've all agreed to axe our current bassist.

I have no problem talking to him and explaining it all to him, but I don't know what to say to him. I was thinking along the lines of, "Man, it's been real, but you're holding us back musically, and that just won't do."

I thought I'd run it by you guys to get some suggestions.

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exect4500

sounds like a plan.

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Lancelundy

"You need a few more years to get to the level we want to go to. We have all been in your position before, and we feel bad, but it's the truth"

SteveHouse

You could be a bunch of polesmokers and just stop talking to him. But don't. Cookies for actually talking to him about it and being nice about it.

If he's got any sense in his head he's hopefully noticed that he isn't very good by now.

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dtank

tell him the usual thing...

"its not you...its me"..... ohhh wait

Anarion614

You sound like you have the right idea, pretty much. Just be nice, be cool, be honest.

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Themilkmaker

i wouldnt be offended if that was said to me. good choice.

brooklynsoulja1

heres an idea.... txt it

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Harry Heck

you could always put him on cowbell.

atthedrive-thru

instead of insulting him personally, like "you aren't good enough for the band, you're out", just put it nice but blunt, "we've found a better bassist to play with, sorry" lol

strat0blaster

Just do this -

"It's not working out. Sorry, but we've gotta part ways with you."

No lie, no foul - just honesty. It isn't working out. This way, you don't have to tell him he sucks if you think he does.

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SteveHouse

Combine this with Lancelundy's proposition and I think you've got a winner.

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Siege of Power

Yea, just be respectful, and be as little of a douche about it as you can
hopefully he wont be too full of himself and not realize

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Austyn6661

This.

No point in making him feel bad. If you insult his playing, he might lose interest, and that's bad. Always.

VIRUSDETECTED

Thanks a ton and a half guys, you've made my job 100% easier.

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ChevyChe 23

I have to disagree with that. I got booted from my last band for poor singing at the time and them kicking me out gave me the push I needed to get better. Keep in mind I'm the kind if someone starts talking smack I quit forever.

Lesson is, if he truly likes playing bass, it will only push him to get better.

q1w2e4r4

...did you mean that?

Is that slang where you come from?

Oh, wait! I get it!
Like, keep it real, right?

Oh, just say that.

VIRUSDETECTED

Yes it's slang, and don't mock how I talk. I could careless what you think, but you're not helping my situation at all, so don't waste space in this thread with your useless remarks. How I talk is different from how you talk.


On a higher note, I'm aiming for the, "It's not working out" line, and if he wants more, then I'll say the, "You're not where we're at musically, we're sorry, you'll get there."

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dullsilver_mike

Don't even joke about that!

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