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the key to letting go of the past is to realize and accept that you are off better without your ex. some people are cold-hearted like that and youre better off without that guy. after my ex broke up with me i quickly realized that i was better off without her probably, so i got over that with relative ease. youre ex is not worth the time on your mind.  |
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11-14-2011, 06:42 PM
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Possibly. Hopefully it doesn't backfire and just make me crave the bruising even more. I feel like I'm in a meditative/vegetative stage already 24/7  Quote:
Maybe you're right. But as I mentioned, I seem to get the satisfaction from doing it to myself specifically. There's just something about bashing myself up and seeing the results. Seeing as I'm pretty physically inactive though, perhaps I should see what some type of sport would do for me. Even though I hate sports and think they're really boring. Oh well  Quote:
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Stay busy! Never good for your mind to be a slave to thoughts of him, so keep it occupied with other stuff.
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11-14-2011, 06:44 PM
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Everyone else in the class is experiencing the same trouble as you right? Could you try and get together and ask the University to do something about it, or ask the teacher to start writing stuff down? Quote:
There's nothing wrong with contemplating the past but you can't let what happened then rule over you now. If you don't put all you can into the present, you'll just end up regretting it in the future, and then the cycle will just continue.Quote:
Just give her some space for a while bro, I guarantee that she'll be happy to still be friends with you at least. EDIT: ^It's all about consciously replacing your bruising with something else to give you the same rush, fail. It might not be any of the suggestions we gave you, but you've got to keep looking for it. BTW what happened to that guy who you thought was wanting for you to be his project?
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11-14-2011, 06:49 PM
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Well, you know, it can't hurt to give it a go. I mean, doing has really had a very positive effect on me. You may not get the same satisfaction out of it but if you're anything like me you'll become much more peaceful (outside of training of course >_>) and not want to do that sort of thing anymore. Also, you know, it's a lot of fun Not forcing you of course but i'd really recommend that over anything else. Team sports are meh, it's difficult to see yourself develop personally in them... but you know, different strokes.
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11-14-2011, 06:58 PM
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Just seems like everything is falling apart in my life right now and I'm getting more and more lonely with each day that goes by..  I hope things start to look up again soon
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11-14-2011, 07:00 PM
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Sorry I have missed some of your guys post, I will try to get to them after class when I have a moment to sit down.
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11-14-2011, 07:03 PM
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It'll all be ok bro. Just do some of the things you love and enjoy yourself until it blows over.
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11-14-2011, 07:20 PM
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No problem Andrea. I like helping people, and I especially like helping people who truly need it.
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11-14-2011, 07:37 PM
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You're welcome, Andrea.
@devourke Everyone's had problems with that guy. Nobody has acted on it yet. Frankly, i don't think they care. If i can get a hold of a few people in the group that do, i'll mention it to my tutor.
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11-14-2011, 07:38 PM
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Oh, he's eased off a bit since finding a new interest. "Nice guys" are so full of shit Quote:
Can't hurt to try, I guess. I should probably start getting myself in shape for that kind of thing now...
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11-14-2011, 07:47 PM
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Stressed. Check RT for issue. Could use hugs.
Happy new thread guys
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11-14-2011, 07:59 PM
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You should report back after you do that.
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11-14-2011, 08:14 PM
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Sounds like your mom is being a bit too involved if you ask me. IMO i think your relationship should be between you and your girl. Do what you think is right, and if that means a long term relationship, then go for it.
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11-14-2011, 08:55 PM
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Mtshark, when I get home I will give some advice. I was in this same situation before. I am still in class and posted from my blackberry.
I am actually little worried about wielding class. I am sort of behind and there is only 3 weeks left of it. I thought I had more time but the semster is creeping to an end.
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11-14-2011, 09:07 PM
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I forget what this thread is about....
but right now me and my gf of two years are going through a tough time....we might not make it much longer....and i am depressed about other stuff...i was kicked out of my smart kid school last year....and i ahte myself....can i has a hug? |
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11-14-2011, 09:21 PM
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Going to be the best.
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11-14-2011, 10:55 PM
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I have been in your situation before. Here is the deal on this. Your mother has right to be little concern here. She is just looking out for your best interest. That's doesn't matter here though. Neither does your girlfriend. What matters here is you and how it is affecting you. If you can stay level head,calm, and collected then you can handle this relationship. If you can't and if it starting affected your everyday affairs and how you react then it's time to walk away. You aren't married and not in a committed long term relationship. You can step away at any time remember that. If you can handle it and stay normal/sane then get it a shot. If you can't handle it walk away or be very cautionary when taking steps with her. If causing unnecessary grief, don't stay in it. Remember your own being comes first. Quote:
http://profile.ultimate-guitar.com/...n89/blog/86797/ Also the more professional you look when you go apply for jobs and interviews, the better chance you have getting a job. When youre off the clock and hanging out be yourself, but look professional when you are doing a job.
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11-15-2011, 01:31 AM
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Thanks I just feel like I shouldn't even be alive. I'm a terrible musician, terrible writer, terrible friend, terrible son, terrible lover, can't get a job, can't go to Uni etc etc. I know I'm a waste of space, and I feel bad about feeling that. Barely anything can get me to smile anymore. I seem to say and do the opposite of what my brain tells my body. What's worse is that I'm not a loner. I've got friends and family who care about me, so I feel like I'm trapped here cause anything I do to hurt myself will hurt them 5x than it will me. And I love them a lot but at the same time I sometimes wish they'd go away and let me die in peace. I'm leaving to go to a place that I don't like before the end of November and I feel like I won't get to give a proper goodbye to my friends. I may hate on Dubai a lot, but all my friends are here which makes it 10x more important than any other place. Then there's the issue with my mom spending about $1000 to get my dad out on bail, a man who I loathe, and he gets out tomorrow. I can't even get booze in the house anymore because she'll start bitching about it. I feel like I felt at the start of this year, like everything's falling apart and I've got front seat tickets. I can't change anything but I can just watch as everyone makes huge decisions for me because I'm not "old enough" or "mature enough" to. Which is total bullshit, because if it weren't for me my mom and I would be on the streets. If it weren't for me she wouldn't have the cash to bail out that dipshit. But no, I can't be counted as an adult...and oh wait, I'm not really a ****ing child either? Half the people around me are insane man.
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11-15-2011, 01:38 AM
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That sucks bro. Maybe you should just try being selfish and lean on your friends more more, because they obviously care enough that they won't mind. That sucks about your Mum as well, why was your Dad in jail? And where are you moving to?
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Yeah I tried. My friend and I came up with this idea that I should crash at his place until a week after new year's. But his stepdad would never let me do that since he's got this whole "it's my house and he's not family" ideal. Which is only right, I have no business butting in there in the first place and he's only looking out for everyone. My dad was in jail over credit card debts, which he paid for by taking out credit card debts, rinse, repeat. Then he went ahead and borrowed money from a powerful family here (And he wasn't borrowing small amounts either, I think the grand total was something around $2 million...). So yeah, that'll get you a free room in jail anywhere. We're moving to Syria. EDIT: By the way, I'm sorry about being such a bummer at the start of the thread guys I don't mean to.
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