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Old 02-20-2015, 09:33 AM   #1
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Question Is it wrong to tell your friends their band sucks?

Some of my buddies have recently started a band in the guitarist's bedroom, and I go to their practices because I have nothing better to do. Anyway, they suck really bad. I tell them they are good because I don't want to hurt their feelings. But here's the thing.. They're about to make a Facebook page and start booking gigs.. I feel like you shouldn't tell your buddies their band sucks. But I really want to stop them before they go up on stage and embarrass themselves and me.. What's your opinion?
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Old 02-20-2015, 09:40 AM   #2
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Ask others what they think. If you think they suck 'cause of style then probably best to keep your mouth shut, but if you think they aren't tight or are weak at their instruments then put it that way. Don't go and right out say, "hurrrr you guys suck so bad stop bein ******z". Critique them and see where it goes.
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Old 02-20-2015, 09:40 AM   #3
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They must be stopped. Or perhaps ensure the audience is drunk.

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Old 02-20-2015, 09:43 AM   #4
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Nah man, you gotta be honest with your friends! Before they commit social suicide by sharing with facebook.


Maybe not tell them they 'suck', but just find one thing you like about them/at least 'close' to being decent, and then lay them out the list on why they fail.



Do they have any songs up online?
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Old 02-20-2015, 09:47 AM   #5
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don't tell them. let them learn on their own. don't be the one to crush their dreams.

who knows though, they might be well liked one day.
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Old 02-20-2015, 09:57 AM   #6
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Depends. do you hate them because your an asshole?
You said you dont play guitar, so how can you know if they are any good?

don't tell them. let them do whatever they want.
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Old 02-20-2015, 10:02 AM   #7
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Why don't you ditch them, and then order them rubbish pizza?
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Old 02-20-2015, 10:04 AM   #8
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Old 02-20-2015, 10:08 AM   #9
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If they're just really sloppy players and seem like they need more practice I would tell them that they don't seem ready yet and that they should keep practicing for a while. If I just thought the style of music sucks I'd nicely let them know it's not really my style, but I wouldn't try to stop them from sharing it with the world if that's what they want to do.
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Old 02-20-2015, 10:27 AM   #10
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Old 02-20-2015, 10:31 AM   #11
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Book them a fake gig 2 hours away so they have to spend a ton of money on gas.

Then act like they deserved it and you were "taking back what's yours"
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Old 02-20-2015, 10:43 AM   #12
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There's nothing wrong with telling your friends you don't like their music. But holy shit-

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But I really want to stop them before they go up on stage and embarrass themselves and me.. What's your opinion?

Firstly, unless they actually suck such that they sound unpleasant that no one could actually enjoy it (e.g. can't keep time, really dissonant), carry on telling them your honest opinion but leave your friends be because they might have some fans.

Secondly, why are you making their efforts to pursue music about you? Are you genuinely worried about them embarrassing you?

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Book them a fake gig 2 hours away so they have to spend a ton of money on gas.

Then act like they deserved it and you were "taking back what's yours"

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Old 02-20-2015, 10:48 AM   #13
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i think its wrong of you not to tell them, i mean, if i was really bad at something i'd expect my friends to have the decency to tell me just how shit i am and that i should give up before i embarrass them
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Book them a fake gig 2 hours away so they have to spend a ton of money on gas.

Then act like they deserved it and you were "taking back what's yours"

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But I really want to stop them before they go up on stage and embarrass themselves and me..

How do they embarrass you? You're not in the band. Or is this like that time with the guy dressed as an emo lesbian, that just by walking with someone you are afraid people will judge you? Stop caring about what people think bro.

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Old 02-20-2015, 11:15 AM   #16
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Old 02-20-2015, 11:21 AM   #17
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Old 02-20-2015, 11:23 AM   #18
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Old 02-20-2015, 11:46 AM   #20
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Join the band and make them not suck anymore. How you may ask? Well you could help them get better at what they do or you could try and break up the band.

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