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Old 11-04-2012, 04:26 AM   #41
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i'll pay, but i won't say stop if she tries to reach to her pocket, they usually do.
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Old 11-04-2012, 04:39 AM   #42
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Old 11-04-2012, 04:40 AM   #43
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I'm astounded how many of you let the woman pay. I feel like this isn't an accurate survey because it's mostly guitards who live in the pit. Is the normal world actually like that? Do women pay?

Not in my world.

First date, the guy pays. It's just the traditionaly polite thing to do isn't it? It makes you look like a cheapskate if you don't at least offer to pay on the first date, which would probably lessen the chances of a second date.
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Old 11-04-2012, 04:50 AM   #44
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My usual intent is to pay myself, but if she insists to split shit I'm not going to refuse.
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Old 11-04-2012, 05:07 AM   #45
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My usual intent is to pay myself, but if she insists to split shit I'm not going to refuse.


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Old 11-04-2012, 05:38 AM   #46
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If it's your first date then yes, you pay. If you're boyfriend/girlfriend then it's either 50/50, or whoever's idea it was to go out in the first place who pays. e.g. If you really want to go to a baseball game and your gf doesn't really want to go.. then you're paying.

There are different rules for dating a chick, vs being in a relationship. Girls will LOVE to scream about how dating works, about how there are double standards and about how they can't help that they are hopeless romantics... but they also LOVE when you throw the rules out the window...

It all comes down to the same thing, Chicks are crazy and just want to feel secure in your masculinity. Set your own rules, and show confidence. Yes you have to pay for a first date, but you should only go out with a chick if you liker her enough to pay for her in the first place... Technically if may not be fair and you don't have to like it, but that's the game, and chicks LOVE it when they feel special.

They'll also get pissed at you for the same thing, but that's another story...

As a girl, I agree with this. Us bitches be crazy.

A lot of girls will offer to split it, but if it's the first date pick up the bill anyway. If they don't offer you might not want to consider dating them again, they shouldn't expect you to pay so paying is a big gesture and puts you on a good footing to begin with.
If things progress you'll find her paying for different activities when you go out or alternating who pays etc, because it's only fair.

Also, if the date goes badly or you're far less interested in her than she is in you, offer to split the bill. It will be a good indicator that there won't be any more dates.
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Old 11-04-2012, 05:50 AM   #47
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man i only have like £20 max to go out with and i usually expect to have some left over, if I'm paying for everything we'd probably end up going into my debit card
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Old 11-04-2012, 06:36 AM   #48
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Never been to a date so I wouldn't know. However I can't imagine paying for everything.
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Old 11-04-2012, 06:42 AM   #49
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Fuck that! I'm as romantic as they come, but romance isn't paying for stuff!

Plus I am poor and a feminist, so she can foot half the bill. What is this? The 40's?!


EDIT: And people talk about confidence and masculinity and all that, as though paying for everything somehow shows that.

You know what else shows confidence? Being upfront and forward. I remember, on a first date on Valentine's Day last year, I was a dirt broke and I forgot to book a restaurant for our first date and ended up with a pretty fancy, lake-side place.

Anyway, it was 40 quid a head for a 3 course meal. I literally say, "I have fuck all money and I'm not hungry. Wanna just share a meal?" She said, "I'm the same - OK!"

The bill came. 40 quid. I told her I couldn't afford to pay for it all so did she have 20 quid; of course she had 20 quid! This the 21st century where women have money!

And yes, I actually had sex with her that night and, yes, we continued seeing each other after that.

CONCLUSION: A first date that could have potentially cost me £80 cost me £20. Result!
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Old 11-04-2012, 06:43 AM   #50
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People still date? With my last GF we never went on a "date", overpriced food, crowded and boring, we just did a lot of fun stuff for free
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Old 11-04-2012, 07:34 AM   #51
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No because i have no money usually....

When i take a girl out we usually just hang out at a park or something and talk....
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Old 11-04-2012, 07:57 AM   #52
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I usually pay for myself. In fact, the only people who buy me things are my friends because it's generally understood that I'm paying for their stuff next time. Everyone is too broke to insist on paying for others
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Old 11-04-2012, 08:02 AM   #53
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It usually depends. I always offer. I usually win the little "Oh, you don't have too... are you sure? Well, okay, I suppose." debate. I probably only go dutch like 25% of the time.

That's a massive amount of dates with the Dutch you have there.
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Old 11-04-2012, 08:02 AM   #54
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I don't go on dates like that. Strolling around town talking and having fika is my kind of thing. Because Sweden.
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Old 11-04-2012, 08:11 AM   #55
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i usually just giver her 10 dollars and she blows me.
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Old 11-04-2012, 08:59 AM   #56
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I've been on very few "dates" as they would normally be defined, but I always pay. If I can't pay, I suggest to do something else.
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Old 11-04-2012, 09:01 AM   #57
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It depends on the girl, the place we're at, the stage of our relationship, etc.
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Old 11-04-2012, 11:41 AM   #58
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Old 11-04-2012, 11:53 AM   #59
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Only time I haven't paid for everything on the first date(s) was with one smoking hot polish chick. She paid for everything on the first which threw me completely. I fet like such a mug.
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Old 11-04-2012, 11:58 AM   #60
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My girlfriend pays most of it.
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