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Old 12-11-2012, 04:12 PM   #1
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Serious thread about personality

Hey, until now, I have just submitted threads because of boredom or for lols. This time I could really use some external opinions.

I'm an asshole. I don't have friends (as mentioned in one of my previous threads), actually I do have few, but they are kind of guys who can tolerate my direct assholeness and asshole-kindof jokes on them.
I didn't even realize I am before one of them told me I was quite an egoist, asshole, and that even guys from the local bands didn't like me because "I think I'm the best guitarist in the world" (but I WAS the best shredder of all the local guys!). I guess they were right since I haven't spoke a word with any of them for about a year...

This wouldn't be a problem if I realized what makes me an asshole, and if I could fix it...
So what do you consider to be "asshole-ish" behavior, and how could I prevent myself from doing that stuff?

TL;DR
I'm an asshole. How do I stop?
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Old 12-11-2012, 04:13 PM   #2
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stop being such an intolerable twat

asshole

EDIT: srs tho, i used to be an asshole

now i don't talk
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Old 12-11-2012, 04:14 PM   #3
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Keep your opinion to yourself.

Basically do all the things you said you wouldn't do 'because **** the system'
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Old 12-11-2012, 04:16 PM   #4
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Old 12-11-2012, 04:17 PM   #5
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The golden rule, bro.

Also consider how your actions will directly and indirectly affect others. Don't talk about how awesome you are at something. Don't be judgmental, let other people be other people and just be cool with everyone you talk to.
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Old 12-11-2012, 04:17 PM   #6
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Old 12-11-2012, 04:18 PM   #7
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The golden rule, bro.

Also consider how your actions will directly and indirectly affect others. Don't talk about how awesome you are at something. Don't be judgmental, let other people be other people and just be cool with everyone you talk to.

This.


It sounds lame, and thats because it is.

But people won't hate you.
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Old 12-11-2012, 04:18 PM   #8
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all the things you're doing right now:

stop doing them.

not being an asshole is as easy as not being an asshole.
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Old 12-11-2012, 04:18 PM   #9
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You're deluded that you're the best and that you're the only person that matters. Stop being such a narcissistic prick.
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Old 12-11-2012, 04:20 PM   #10
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I sometimes try to be cool with everyone, but I have a compulsion to try to be funny, and that compulsion always finds it's way out. And then I start making personal jokes, get a few laughs, and most of the time other people just conclude I'm a jerk...
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Old 12-11-2012, 04:20 PM   #11
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How can you say you don't know how you're being an asshole if people have told you how you're being an asshole? Just stop doing everything they said you are doing. It's not really hard.
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Old 12-11-2012, 04:22 PM   #12
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I sometimes try to be cool with everyone, but I have a compulsion to try to be funny, and that compulsion always finds it's way out. And then I start making personal jokes, get a few laughs, and most of the time other people just conclude I'm a jerk...

Maybe it's because you're trying to be funny about things that aren't a laughing matter?

To stop being an asshole really is as simple as it sounds.
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Old 12-11-2012, 04:22 PM   #13
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I sometimes try to be cool with everyone, but I have a compulsion to try to be funny, and that compulsion always finds it's way out. And then I start making personal jokes, get a few laughs, and most of the time other people just conclude I'm a jerk...

Don't make jokes at the expense of others all the time. There are other ways to be funny.
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Old 12-11-2012, 04:23 PM   #14
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Stop bragging about yourself. Compliment and congratulate other people. Don't assume that every joke you make is funny and consider that it might be insulting to other people/offend the person it was aimed at.
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Old 12-11-2012, 04:25 PM   #15
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I sometimes try to be cool with everyone, but I have a compulsion to try to be funny, and that compulsion always finds it's way out. And then I start making personal jokes, get a few laughs, and most of the time other people just conclude I'm a jerk...

That really only works if you're 12 or good friends with the person you're making fun of. Just don't do.. that.
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Old 12-11-2012, 04:27 PM   #16
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Why not just ask people around you?

Just be honest with them and say "I'm trying to improve my personality. What am I doing that bugs you?"
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Old 12-11-2012, 04:33 PM   #17
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Hey, until now, I have just submitted threads because of boredom or for lols. This time I could really use some external opinions.

I'm an asshole. I don't have friends (as mentioned in one of my previous threads), actually I do have few, but they are kind of guys who can tolerate my direct assholeness and asshole-kindof jokes on them.
I didn't even realize I am before one of them told me I was quite an egoist, asshole, and that even guys from the local bands didn't like me because "I think I'm the best guitarist in the world" (but I WAS the best shredder of all the local guys!). I guess they were right since I haven't spoke a word with any of them for about a year...

This wouldn't be a problem if I realized what makes me an asshole, and if I could fix it...
So what do you consider to be "asshole-ish" behavior, and how could I prevent myself from doing that stuff?

TL;DR
I'm an asshole. How do I stop?


I'm kind of in the same boat. I've always kind of known I was a dick, but I didn't realize quite the extent of it until recently.

It's kind of hard to just all together change your personality. If it is that big of a deal to you, it's just something you are going to make a real conscious effort to change. When you are having a conversation with somebody you will have to learn to filter what you say. You will also have to learn to filter your body language.

The alternative is just to accept who you are. Make small changes to the way you interact with people. Learn to say **** you with tact.
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Old 12-11-2012, 04:38 PM   #18
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perhaps you should seek a therapist, if you have the means.
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Old 12-11-2012, 04:38 PM   #19
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People often don't remember what you say, but they always remember how you make them feel...
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Old 12-11-2012, 04:40 PM   #20
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Assholes are just Little Bitches + Aggressive











tl;dr stop being a little bitch
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