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Old 01-19-2013, 10:29 PM   #1
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The "gay" accent

What do you think of when gay men talk with the stereotypical "gay" accent. Very effeminate, sometimes singing words, or if it's really stereotypical there's a slight lisp (although I've never seen the lisp IRL). Does it seem genuine to you, or do you feel like it's contrived or forced?

I don't think of it as just a stereotype at least from what I've seen. I go to a music school, and many of the studios here have a lot of gay guys (especially the vocal, woodwinds and violins/violas), and just about every gay guy I've met has that kind of effeminate and stereotypically gay way of talking. Some more than others, but it's always there. I also had a job where over 3 years I worked with multiple gay guys, and all of them had it, too.

I personally don't want to say that it's forced, as that'd be a hell of a coincidence. However, the idea that a person's sexual preference has an affect on the way they talk seems pretty strange to me.
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Old 01-19-2013, 10:31 PM   #2
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Does it seem genuine to you, or do you feel like it's contrived or forced?

Definitely seems like something that's forced to me.
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Old 01-19-2013, 10:32 PM   #3
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I never understood how they got that voice. I mean, either they were practically genetically born to be gay or they changed their voice to what they think suits them. It usually kind of annoys me but I won't treat them different because of it.
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Old 01-19-2013, 10:33 PM   #4
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I've always wondered this too - I presume it must be a choice by the person, to identify themself as gay, but I've always thought whether that means there is a turning point where they suddenly just decide to start talking in a completely unnatural (to their original) voice. Obviously some people will already have a voice like that, and maybe it's a gradual thing, but I can't imagine somebody's sexual preference being directly related to their natural voice.
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Old 01-19-2013, 10:33 PM   #5
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It can feel forced at times, but I'm sure it's simply from hanging out with others that speak the same way. It rubs off on the next mouth.


Which is nothing new for them.

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Old 01-19-2013, 10:33 PM   #6
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In secondary school, one of my best friends had it, he swore he was straight...

I didn't care, and everyone thought he was gay anyway he was; Very feminine.
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Old 01-19-2013, 10:35 PM   #7
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It rubs off on the next mouth.


Which is nothing new for them.


but yeah, it's definitely a learned behavior.
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I've always wondered this too - I presume it must be a choice by the person, to identify themself as gay, but I've always thought whether that means there is a turning point where they suddenly just decide to start talking in a completely unnatural (to their original) voice. Obviously some people will already have a voice like that, and maybe it's a gradual thing, but I can't imagine somebody's sexual preference being directly related to their natural voice.

It's like how whales are shifting the frequency of their songs down so that they can be distinguished from the droning of sea vessel engines. Only instead of sea vessel engines it's straight people.
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Old 01-19-2013, 10:37 PM   #9
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i've always wondered this. it doesnt seem natural, but just about every gay guy i've met has something up with their voice like that. so i have no idea.
it probably just has something to do with their flamboyantness. although not every gay guy i've met has been "flamboyant."

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Old 01-19-2013, 10:37 PM   #10
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Yeah, I've always thought that was a little weird too. It just seems odd that the majority of gay dudes would have that vocal inflection.

And, I know/have known straight guys with feminine voices and gay guys with totally normal guy voices. I dunno.
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Old 01-19-2013, 10:37 PM   #11
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I have a slight lispy quality to my speaking voice and i'm straight, also have no idea where it came from since no one I know has it.
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Old 01-19-2013, 10:37 PM   #12
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idk, I know a few straight people who talk like that
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Old 01-19-2013, 10:42 PM   #13
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the "gay accent" or whatever has more to do w/ childhood gender nonconformity than with actual homosexuality. the better question is why the fuck straight people are so concerned with how others speak.

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Old 01-19-2013, 10:43 PM   #14
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I thought it was do it with gay people being born with female hormones
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Old 01-19-2013, 10:43 PM   #15
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Idk, I never thought about that, though I know some straight guys who talk "gay". Maybe they identify better with fellow gay guys by talking like that.
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Old 01-19-2013, 10:46 PM   #16
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I feel it is forced so they have identity trademark saying yeah I'm gay. Out of all the gay people I know only two who talk "normal". Though they are so nonchalant about being gay you would never suspect it until they said something.
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There's this one guy that I know that talks like that. I've never actually met him though; I've only talked to him over the phone. He works for a promoting agency that sends us music, so it's a business relationship and therefore I can't ask him if he is gay or if he just talks like it.
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Old 01-19-2013, 10:49 PM   #18
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Every gay dude I've met (tons) have had a noticeably softer voice and/or that accent. Idk man, it's weird.
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the "gay accent" or whatever has more to do w/ childhood gender nonconformity than with actual homosexuality. the better question is why the fuck straight people are so concerned with how others speak.

http://homepage.psy.utexas.edu/home...111/project.htm

Is there anything straight people are allowed to express interest in?
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No, because it proves you're homophobic
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