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Old 09-02-2014, 02:31 PM   #1
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poll:right decision or not?

i really wanted to open a pool about that question so i'm sorry if there is a minor violation in this thread.

here is the summery of what has been said:
me:
quick question:

so im 20 years old and i've had the 'opportunity' to date a girl who i find quite attractive but lack the 'day to day' conversation on topics which interest me and we met a couple of times,most of them in her room (in her house..duhh),i've felt like i'm using her because it seemed that she is interested in me and i'm find her personality quite not appealing(to put it mildly).
on the advice of her (she)friend (which also introduced us to each other) i've decided a while ago to let her go because her pain could be potentially worse then what i can gain in this situation(mostly selfish things).

i'm interested to know what would you had done(big grammar error sits somewhere in this sentence) in my situation :|

not me:
Not having things to talk about doesn't translate over to not find her personality appealing. You need to elaborate.

me:
its the little thing that sum up:
her favorite hobby is dancing, i hate dancing
she is childish in mind(and in age 'eyebrows'(18)) and i'm have an adult mind(well that sound even weirder)
she thinks math is stupid, im in my final year of electrical engineering
she has no solid opinion on topic that matter,i do
in a SINGLE sentence :we have 3 years apart us but it feels more like 5-7

not me:
But did you get along?

me:
we had a little chemistry but it just wasn't good enough to be serious in my point of view.
what interest me is to know what other fellow male mind would do in this situation

not me:
Not everyone you see has to be gearing for marriage, in my opinion. If you were different, but still enjoyed each other's company, I don't see why you couldn't have stuck around, assuming this was known.

Not everything has to be serious

Hey, can I ask you a question?
Obvs
What are you looking for?
Oh, nothing serious
Really? I'm glad you said that because I'm not really looking for anything serious either
*Marvin Gaye*

Alternatively:
Hey, can I ask you a question?
Obvs
What are you looking for?
Oh, Nothing serious
*Homer Simpson walks backwards into the hedge*

me:
its more of an abusment... i knew that the RELATIONSHIP wont stand more than a couple of months and didnt want her to get high hopes... i'm starting to thing that maybe i've got the wrong advice...maybe there was foul play in the adviser side..
but then again...it happend a couple of weeks ago and i've since tried to date the one who advice me because i find in her what lacked in the first one but she didnt wanted me |;
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Old 09-02-2014, 02:35 PM   #2
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Old 09-02-2014, 02:35 PM   #3
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Old 09-02-2014, 02:47 PM   #4
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Old 09-02-2014, 03:48 PM   #5
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Yeah man. Letting her go for now is good bro. I wouldn't date anyone that wasn't as mature as me. You're 20 and you're in your final years of school, about to get a killer job: you're ready to get serious. Dating someone mentally younger than you, especially at your age, is uber dangerous. You're looking to start getting a career, a life plan, your own apartment/pad, and eventually settle down. If she isn't ready to start doing that kind of thing too (I say start because she's 2 years younger), that isn't something you should go for.

She sounds like she might need some maturing before you should be interested again. I'm 18 now, so I'm having to start doing "adult" things now. She should be an adult with you.

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Old 09-02-2014, 03:49 PM   #6
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Old 09-02-2014, 04:00 PM   #7
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If you don't enjoy staying with her I'd say it had been for the best to let her go.

I haven't seen her though, and her appearance might have altered my decision.
Without seeing her, I'd say you made a good choice.
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Old 09-02-2014, 04:08 PM   #8
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those last paragraphs are a mess, i cant even begin to understand what you're trying to say

You don't have to like the same things in order to "work" in a relationships, if you both liked exactly the same things it'd be so boring after a week
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Old 09-02-2014, 04:08 PM   #9
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just because you *burp* asked...here is a snippet:

http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=2u3w969&s=8#.VAYjvPmSxOw

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Old 09-02-2014, 04:12 PM   #10
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Old 09-02-2014, 04:12 PM   #11
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Old 09-02-2014, 04:46 PM   #12
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Old 09-02-2014, 04:46 PM   #13
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"Whats the point in being around someone if you don't really like them?"

i've haven't been in a fruitful relationship so i guesses the experience gained could be a major gain against all the odds of making her feel bad

as i said,the worst part is that in the same week that i had to tell her its not going to work(after a month of seeing each other) i've been told by the one who introduced us that she enjoys being with me and everything but just don't have that spark feeling with me(don't find me attractive enough)... rough week for all 3 of us

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Old 09-02-2014, 04:48 PM   #14
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sounds like you're interested in her enough for anything serious. if she's convinced you two will have something serious, don't do it. like you said, it won't last long and you'll hurt her (unless it turns out great, but you seem to doubt that). if she's willing to have a fling that isn't so serious, i would go for it. in my limited experience, if she's looking for something serious she won't settle for less.
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Old 09-02-2014, 04:56 PM   #15
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letting her go is always the right descision
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Originally Posted by sbhsbh2
just because you *burp* asked...here is a snippet:

http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=2u3...=8#.VAYjvPmSxOw

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Yeah now I'm positive you made a good choice.
No offense to any of you, though still.
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Old 09-02-2014, 05:02 PM   #18
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But yeah, let her go. Bitches be crazy.
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Old 09-02-2014, 05:35 PM   #19
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That was pretty hard to follow, but basically you were with a girl you weren't really attracted to, apart from physically? So you broke up with her?

Yeah of course that was the right decision. You were with a girl you didn't really like, why on earth would breaking up have been a bad choice?
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Old 09-02-2014, 05:54 PM   #20
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i guess that that relationship had too many shortcomings to live.

on a whole other note,without sounding obsessive,if a girl truly enjoys my sense of comedy,my style,and quite frankly adores me professionally but don't find me romantically attractive(go figure),i lack the romantic spark in her opinion(so she choose not to go for it because as she says "im not sure about this") how low are the chances of a change in her mind?
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