#1
Now I never considered myself particularly needy - i'm just finishing the first term (semester?) of university and i got to thinking about my time here

obviously starting uni, you meet lots of new friends etc, however, sometimes i feel like i am missing out on something and ring people to see what they are up to. i was seeing this girl who claimed i was "needy".

now, i am struggling to find a happy medium between being socially active, and somewhat needy. if i don't make the effort then i will just be sat in my flat all day, unless someone rings me to go out

anyway, any thoughts on the topic Pit? feel similar?
#2
I never call anyone to do anything. So I guess I'm not needy, but I would be if I tried to make friends
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#3
Yeah i never call anyone for outings, but then again my group has one or two de facto 'initiators' of outings/hang outs.

I've tried to be the initiator of msn conversations of late...does that count as needy?
#4
you see, to me, that seems the opposite end of the scale

needy ---------------------------------------------------------------------- anti-social

i wanna be here............................^
#5
well dont call people to see what THEY'RE doing, call people and tell them what YOUR doing.
if they want to join in they can, but if they dont want to its not awkward, its fair enough.
#6
I just sit in my room at uni hating everybody. Stops me having to socialise with the drunk screaming girls always sat around in the kitchen.

And believe me, screaming drunk girls are not as fun as they sound.
#7
Quote by fender_696
you see, to me, that seems the opposite end of the scale

needy ---------------------------------------------------------------------- anti-social

i wanna be here............................^


Give and take then. Needy people tend to ask things of everyone and offer nothing in return. There is a blance needed in friendships.
#8
Quote by fender_696
Now I never considered myself particularly needy - i'm just finishing the first term (semester?) of university and i got to thinking about my time here

obviously starting uni, you meet lots of new friends etc, however, sometimes i feel like i am missing out on something and ring people to see what they are up to. i was seeing this girl who claimed i was "needy".

now, i am struggling to find a happy medium between being socially active, and somewhat needy. if i don't make the effort then i will just be sat in my flat all day, unless someone rings me to go out

anyway, any thoughts on the topic Pit? feel similar?

Don't take the word of one girl. Have you heard that you're "needy" from more sources than just her?
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#9
Quote by stephen_rettie
well dont call people to see what THEY'RE doing, call people and tell them what YOUR doing.
if they want to join in they can, but if they dont want to its not awkward, its fair enough.
well yeah, that's what i tend to do....

like, hey, i'm up for going to (insert club name). you up for it?

it's not that it's awkward with mates, it's just this girl said i was needy, and it made me think about how i hate feeling left out of social events, and wanna be included in everything!
#10
Quote by fender_696
well yeah, that's what i tend to do....

like, hey, i'm up for going to (insert club name). you up for it?

it's not that it's awkward with mates, it's just this girl said i was needy, and it made me think about how i hate feeling left out of social events, and wanna be included in everything!

No one likes to be left out of social events. Dude, do not take the word of one girl. Believe it or not, some of them are immature and have no idea what they're talking about. To be completely honest, it doesn't sound like there's anything wrong with you.
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#11
I am needy.
My friends love it.
Or rather, put up with it.
wen i ask they say that they fall into the habit smhw ........but nyways i think there is a connection smwhere. Now i being a teetollar will not give into this habit nyhw

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#12
Woah, You are totally reminding me of myself a year ago. Weird. Although, I was 'clingy' instead of 'needy.'

Just be confident in yourself. Trust me, if you think you're socially abnormal, you're not. You, like almost everyone else, just need human contact. There's nothing wrong with calling friends just to see what they're up to. Its the people who are unaware of their abnormalities who have something to worry about.

And sometimes absolutely nothing is going on except for getting drunk alone in front of the TV.
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#14
Quote by snipelfritz
Woah, You are totally reminding me of myself a year ago. Weird. Although, I was 'clingy' instead of 'needy.'

Just be confident in yourself. Trust me, if you think you're socially abnormal, you're not. You, like almost everyone else, just need human contact. There's nothing wrong with calling friends just to see what they're up to. Its the people who are unaware of their abnormalities who have something to worry about.

And sometimes absolutely nothing is going on except for getting drunk alone in front of the TV.
it's not a confidence thing really, i just wanna be out all the time! like, i just get restless and bored sat around on my own. i dunno. it's not that i don't mind chilling out during the day, doing work, watching tele etc. but come nighttime, it's a different story!

which, to be fair, i probably shouldn't, as the workload has suddenly picked right up