Poll: Education vs. relationship
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Education
60 73%
Relationship
22 27%
Voters: 82.
#1
Ok, Pit, I'm not in this situation yet but I fear that I will have to deal with in the near future.
Here's the hypothetical situation:
Suppose that you are starting to finish high school and want to continue you studies in a foreign university. The foreign university is located geographically in a climate that is your favourite, you love the people there and most importantly, the university is better than any in your current location.

On the other hand you have your significant other, who you've been with, say, two and a half years and it is the strongest and best relationship you've ever had. If you leave for the foreign university, this relationship will probably end unless you can withstand several years of long-distance calls and e-mails saying "I love you" and seeing each other about two times a year. In other words, you risk losing the Best thing that has ever happened to you, so it basically comes down to your own interests and the relationship itself.

So, which one is it? A life in your favourite climate with top-notch education with a risk of losing what people might call "the one" or would you settle with a weaker education in your current location and keep the relationship going?

And yes, I realise that using "the one" is very naive. People get divorces even after 30 years of marriage but then again...they might not.

tl;dr - better education and place of residence vs. the best relationship you've ever had

And I apologize if the text is a bit incomprehensible, English is not my native language.
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#3
I would choose the education, because that sounds like a great place to be in, and it would give you the chance to meet many other new people that could potentially be another "one", while if you stay where you are right now and happen to lose that person, you're screwed a bit more.
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#4
Pros Education:
New country
nice climate
good education
new friends
fun experience

Pros girlfriend:
safe
#5
I can withstand 4 years of long-distance calls and saying "I love you" by e-mail. At least, I could if I'd ever been in a relationship. I'm sure if you care about her enough, you'd deal with it.
Plus, she can come to visit
#7
just got out of my relationship, rarararar i was to clingy! (i saw her once a week!)
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#8
i guess it depends on how much you really love her.

long distance relationships are just terrible

what does she think about it?
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#9
Education. There will be other girls, but girls dont lead to good jobs unless you count porn. Education will get you a good job, a house, money and more women than you could ever imagine.

(Slight exaggeration)
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#10
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just got out of my relationship, rarararar i was to clingy! (i saw her once a week!)


you sound gutted


newaiiyaahhhh on topic - education mafka.. unless your doing something pointless at uni
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#11
Your significant other wouldn't be very significant if she didn't want to continue the relationship if you went away. If you genuinely feel for each other, three years at a University will not stop you. Sure, you won't be as happy but at the end of the day, it will truly test how strong your love is and knowing that is very valuable.

You've answered your own question. I vote education.
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#12
Education, hands down. If you break up in an amicable way, it leaves things open to possibly get together in afew years time. Education > relationship, easily. And I know how you feel; come september/october im going to uni, we've already decided we're not gonna stay together, but it's still gonna be the hardest thing i ever have to do.
#13
You can change your girlfriend easier than you can change your education. Sure you can lose a girlfriend and be sad and stuff but losing a decent education and possibly ruining the rest of your life is a much higher risk not worth taking. If she couldn't put up with the fact that you need to be away for her for a decent education, then she is not "the one." If you choose education, then either way you "win." You get to see if she is worth it, if not it doesn't matter, you still have your education. Besides, if, god forbid, you'd ever break up, at least it wouldn't be as tense as being in the same country =D I hope no-one ever comes into contact with a dilemma like this though, love can deceive people sometimes and make them choose wrongly.
#14
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You can change your girlfriend easier than you can change your education. Sure you can lose a girlfriend and be sad and stuff but losing a decent education and possibly ruining the rest of your life is a much higher risk not worth taking. If she couldn't put up with the fact that you need to be away for her for a decent education, then she is not "the one."

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#15
I for one couldn't move, but what do you mean by a 'weaker' education?
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#16
Lol, so many sensible answers in the Pit is a rare sight indeed. I actually think I knew the answer myself before posting this thread...just wanted some reassurance. Thanks, guys But do keep posting!
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#17
I think everyone's overseeing one important thing: why does it have to be a university in another country? Why not something local?

Think about that, and once you do you'll find the answer to your problem.
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#18
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I think everyone's overseeing one important thing: why does it have to be a university in another country? Why not something local?

Think about that, and once you do you'll find the answer to your problem.


Because the foreign climate is his favourite as oppose to some local climate which is not a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.
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#19
i'm actually surprised at the lack of lackaslaidal answers from the pit tonight...


so, just to be a black sheep,

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#20
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I can withstand 4 years of long-distance calls and saying "I love you" by e-mail. At least, I could if I'd ever been in a relationship. I'm sure if you care about her enough, you'd deal with it.
Plus, she can come to visit


No you couldn't, it ****s you up. Don't even try and do it.
#21
Because I'm not very fond of the climate or the overall society here. Most importantly, though, the universities here cannot compare to those in foreign countries.

EDIT: @ evening_crow
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#22
If he really loves the girl, climate or whatever shouldn't even matter. I live in Ireland, where its almost always dreary and some people just looking for a fight most of the time...I wouldn't mind going somewhere warmer ofr calmer, but just to leave behind someone I love (and I'm assuming TS has other friends) I couldn't do.
And a local university isn't going to be a weaker education, it all depends on how hard you work, and for you to put in the effort to get the result you want when you leave.

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#23
What country are you in and what is the university/country you are planning on moving to?
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#24
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What country are you in and what is the university/country you are planning on moving to?


It's not real, it's just if it ever happens. Any hot country?
#25
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It's not real, it's just if it ever happens. Any hot country?


He must have some idea if he made the thread since it's a possibility of ocuring soon.
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#26
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What country are you in and what is the university/country you are planning on moving to?

I live in Estonia. Yes, you may say "WOW snowz and stuff" but most of the time it's actually like...cold and wet all winter with little or no snow but luckily cold and wet all summer too, with little or no sun.

I have not yet decided on the exact location, but I would definitely like to reside somewhere around the Mediterranean region - southern France or Spain or smth. like that.
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#27
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Because I'm not very fond of the climate or the overall society here. Most importantly, though, the universities here cannot compare to those in foreign countries.

EDIT: @ evening_crow

If you had already thought of this, why did you ask in the first place?
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#29
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If you had already thought of this, why did you ask in the first place?

I don't even know why...I guess I needed some reassurance or that little something to make...w/e, I'm just a sad little guy without any opinions of my own.
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#30
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I live in Estonia. Yes, you may say "WOW snowz and stuff" but most of the time it's actually like...cold and wet all winter with little or no snow but luckily cold and wet all summer too, with little or no sun.

I have not yet decided on the exact location, but I would definitely like to reside somewhere around the Mediterranean region - southern France or Spain or smth. like that.


Ok, foreign universities may seem better, yet in truth, possibly not. Its just because you feel away from that place.
Now, that leads to what you gotta think what's more important, you caring and loving this girl who decided to spend the 2 and a half years with you, or for you to leave it just because the weather is ****ty.
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#31
Your relationship is unlikely to last forever, whereas if you have a bad education now, it will be difficult to find a good job without re-educating later in life which takes a lot of time and costs a lot of money. If she really is "the one" she will understand you wanting to get the best out of your education. If not, there's plenty more fish in the sea and there's probably some better swimmers.
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#32
Education. Most teenage relationships don't survive through university anyway. My graduating class had 8 people in >2 year relationships. 2 have survived the summer and first semester, mine and my friends, and ours only survived for very strange reasons that aren't common to most people.
If you choose relationship it is very very probable that you will end up going your separate ways anyway
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#33
Dude, stick with the girl.

Always stick with the girl.
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#34
My parents survived a long distance relationship while my dad studied, they're still happily married after nearly 30 years and have 3 kids. Love lasts at a distance, it'll be a good way to see how much she cares.
#35
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Go for education, if she's the one, your relationship will survive.


Very true. If you're so close to her, she'll understand the situation fully, and want you to get a decent education. Where do you want to go to university, anyway?

And surely a bunch of average women will make up for the special one.
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