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#1
No, I'm not gay.
That you want a career as a musician? They constantly try and stop me taking music as a GCSE, and are now using the fact I have GCSEs in a years time as a reason not to do anything musical, telling me i should work towards becoming an accountant. I asked them if I'm allowed to post an ad on the internet saying I'm looking for a band, and they tell me that I'm not allowed a band until I've finished my GCSEs, because having a band will make me fail, despite being top set for everything excluding maths - which I'm in extension set. They use my GCSEs as an excuse to stop me doing just about anything - playing guitar as much as I used to, using the internet for more than an hour a day and I don't even start the GCSEs until next year anyway. I didn't really care, because they let me go busking - as long as I don't tell them I'm saving for a new amp. But telling me I'm not allowed a band and repeatedly telling me wanting to have a career with guitar 'it's a waste of time and effort, and metal is **** anyway' is really beginning to piss me off.

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#2
Maybe it´s because they are right?
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#3
Like this:


"Mom, dad, I'm gonna be a rockstar. If you don't support me, I'll form band called 'Decaptitated Babies'"


I wonder if that's already a band name...
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#4
that's simply idiotic, playing music and being in a band gives you plenty of skills that are needed in the real world, creativity, initiative when looking for gigs, business, in terms of selling your music.
Hell, I learned more about life when I was in my band trying to promote our music than I did in my entire time at school.
Why do they want you to be an accountant? because they think it's a "well-paying, safe" job?
#5
GCSEs.

All you gotta do, is get 5 A* to C's.

After that they mean very little if anything.

"work towards becoming an accountant"

Bastards. Nothing else to say.

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that's simply idiotic, playing music and being in a band gives you plenty of skills that are needed in the real world, creativity, initiative when looking for gigs, business, in terms of selling your music.
Hell, I learned more about life when I was in my band trying to promote our music than I did in my entire time at school.
Why do they want you to be an accountant? because they think it's a "well-paying, safe" job?


Well said bro.
#6
Threadjack: How the fuck do I tell my parents that I'm gay??
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#7
On a certain level, they're entitled to be distgruntled you want to be a musician as it's hardly a secure job. They're just looking out for you. But as long as you're keeping your options open, doing well in school and so on - it shouldn't really be a problem.
#8
Quote by CoreysMonster

Why do they want you to be an accountant? because they think it's a "well-paying, safe" job?

exactly that.

i want a career i want not what they want, but there so desperate to have someone in the family have a 'well-paying, safe' job that they just wont let me

"The mind is its own place, and in itself

Can make a Heav'n of Hell, a Hell of Heav'n"

- John Milton, Paradise Lost
#9
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Threadjack: How the fuck do I tell my parents that I'm gay??


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#10
Your parents are trying to do whats best for you.

I went through a similar thing, and had similar (a lot more aggressive) reactions to you.

Now i'm older and have moved out, i see their reasoning, and am grateful for their love. Even though i do still see their actions as wrong.
Yes, they were trying for the wrong thing, and i did what i wanted myself anyway, you've gotta understand that they're doing their best to ensure you have a good life. A rich one.

Maybe they just dont realise that you truly do mean to have a career in music (in which i wish you GOOD LUCK!!), they're trying to lay foundations for your life.

All i can say, is try to do everything YOU want to do, and still do ****ing well in those exams.

My stepdad bought me my favourite guitar for doing well in mine.

And i love that guitar more than almost anything these days.

Try coming to a similar agreement with them!
#11
Say 'MUM, DAD, CREDIT CRUNCH!!! ACCOUNTING IS NOT A SAFE JOB ANYMORE!!!!'

Then smash some plates with a hammer, pull out your crack pipe and refer to your grandparents as 'arse-rocking fuckpieces.' That should get the message across.
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#12
you tell them to go **** themselves, although maybe not quite in those words.

"work towards becoming an accountant" bugger that say that's not what you're interested in.

It's been said already but GCSEs seem like a really big thing at the time but really they mean nothing so long as you get a few decent grades and stay in education they won't mean anything against more advanced qualifications like A-levels etc.
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#13
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After all this, the answer is so simple, thank you Jackolas, thank you.
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On a certain level, they're entitled to be distgruntled you want to be a musician as it's hardly a secure job. They're just looking out for you. But as long as you're keeping your options open, doing well in school and so on - it shouldn't really be a problem.



+1, but seriously, of all jobs to want him to pursue, a freaking accountant?? why not an engineer, it's more interesting and you are certain to get a job later that pays a buttload of money.
#15
Quote by metallicafan616
exactly that.

i want a career i want not what they want, but there so desperate to have someone in the family have a 'well-paying, safe' job that they just wont let me


I find it funny they want you to get involved with the financial system when it's such a sorry mess.

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#16
what do you want to be in your career?
a teacher or in a band?
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#18
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what do you want to be in your career?
a teacher or in a band?


both, preferably touring band though.

"The mind is its own place, and in itself

Can make a Heav'n of Hell, a Hell of Heav'n"

- John Milton, Paradise Lost
#19
you're good at everything except maths so your parents want you to be an accountant.

your parents are being petty i was in a band during my GCSEs and had several gigs over the exam period and still came out with nothing lower than an A. If anything it helped me get those results because i was constantly working, i didn't have the time to stop and be lazy.

however they are right about wanting a career playing metal. it's just not going to happen. even if you get into a metal band that gets signed to a major you're still going to end up in more debt than you can manage unless you get big like trivium or coheed + cambria. (i'm not using metallica because they were from a different generation of the music industry)

the only realistic way to earn a living as a guitarist is teaching and session work. (note the AND, you won't make enough money to survive doing just one)

your parents only want what's best for you but in the long run it's down to you, just don't be stupid and pin all your hopes on getting famous and rich
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#21
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exactly that.

i want a career i want not what they want, but there so desperate to have someone in the family have a 'well-paying, safe' job that they just wont let me



sorry but if your parents think that ANY career you pursue is going to give you a well-paying, safe job, then your parents themselves have no idea about the real world.

if you really want a career as a musician, you have to have a plan B, obviously, because or else you're gonna end up poor and miserable if you mess up, but that is your choice, not your parents'.

another thing, they'd rather you be unhappy and miserable working a job you hate for the rest of your life than maybe not having that much money, but being happy?
#22
I find it ironic that parents who "want the best" for their child often pressure them so much they make their kids miserable, has anyone ever thought maybe the parents want the best for themselves and their reputation as parents
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#23
Luckily my parents have never been like that.
When I did my GCSE's they just said do your best and despite only revising for music I did pretty well. And regarding being in a band, they told me that as long as I have enough money to live off then they're happy with what I'm doing.

But I know a lot of people in your situation and it really bugs me when their parents are like that. I understand they want the best for their kids, but sometimes the best isn't maximum education and a high-paid job.
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#24
You could use the banhammer on your parents.
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#25
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you're good at everything except maths so your parents want you to be an accountant.


no, im in the group who are doing GCSE work in year 9

and i want to be famous, living doing what i want, not rich.

"The mind is its own place, and in itself

Can make a Heav'n of Hell, a Hell of Heav'n"

- John Milton, Paradise Lost
#26
Quote by skater dan0
you're good at everything except maths so your parents want you to be an accountant.

your parents are being petty i was in a band during my GCSEs and had several gigs over the exam period and still came out with nothing lower than an A. If anything it helped me get those results because i was constantly working, i didn't have the time to stop and be lazy.

however they are right about wanting a career playing metal. it's just not going to happen. even if you get into a metal band that gets signed to a major you're still going to end up in more debt than you can manage unless you get big like trivium or coheed + cambria. (i'm not using metallica because they were from a different generation of the music industry)

the only realistic way to earn a living as a guitarist is teaching and session work. (note the AND, you won't make enough money to survive doing just one)

your parents only want what's best for you but in the long run it's down to you, just don't be stupid and pin all your hopes on getting famous and rich



very wise words.


I heard that Meshuggah are so poor and make so little money off of touring they have to pull unemployment money every couple of years, and those guys have been around since the 80's. in fact I think it was in an interview with their guitarist that I read that.
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no, im in the group who are doing GCSE work in year 9

and i want to be famous, living doing what i want, not rich.


Bloody hell you're only in year 9? They are being ridiculous, you'll make your own mind up in your own time.

Also GCSE's are ****ing easy, they are the best time to be in a band because the workload is pretty much non-existant. A-levels are more of a step-up if you want to do well and then you might not have time for a band with part-time work, I know I barely manage it.

And anyway, like someone before said, you work at your best when you are busy.

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#29
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Question: are your parents by any chance strictly religious?


not anymore.

"The mind is its own place, and in itself

Can make a Heav'n of Hell, a Hell of Heav'n"

- John Milton, Paradise Lost
#31
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Being in a band and being in a successful band are not the same thing.

You're right. It's the difference between living in a box behind your local Thrift store and living in a box behind WalMart.

Just tell your parents it's a hobby.
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#32
They are jsut looking out for you. I wish i done better in my gcse's
but now im lucky enough to have a fairly good job (that pays for my gear and car :p and still keep up with my musical commitments.
Point being, do what you want to do, but if youve got a good set of gcse's youve always got a fallback if things dont work out. But GCSE standard at year 9? hell, go and rock out kid
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#34
Simple.

Take the GCSE for music anyway, and instead of forming a band, buy some recording equpiment and record and mix an entire album by yourself. Release it on MySpazz, and then you'll get loads of people going: ZOMGZ YOU DID THAT ALL BY YOURSELF?! THAT'S SO COOOOOOL! YOU'RE AMAZING!

Show said comments to parents, then they should let you form a band.
#37
Who said playing guitar is about becoming famous and rich? Who said the only way to living a good life is thru being rich and famous, or just rich?

You guys are dip****s.
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#39
most people who play an instrument would love to make a career out of it, but only 1 in thousands of us will make it. listen to your parents, there doing you good, i wish i did and now im stuck in a deadend warehouse job
#40
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Who said playing guitar is about becoming famous and rich? Who said the only way to living a good life is thru being rich and famous, or just rich?

You guys are dip****s.



if he wants to make a living out of playing music, the highest goal obviously is to make music that not only you, but millions of other people like as well.

and no one said that you need to be rich and famous, but if you're gonna make music for a living you better make sure that people like it, because playing guitar isn't going to pay the bills.
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