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#1
Went to a buddy's house yesterday for his birthday. His mother's name is Rene and his father's name is Jerry. I've known them for a few years now and I always addressed them by their names.

Well, yesterday I was in his house and I went down the hallway and I went to the restroom and as I walked out Rene walks out of her room and says, "Josh (that's my name, I know I know I want to change my name to afrothunder666 too), I'd like to talk to you about something."

I'm like, "Sure Rene is everything alright?"

She replies, "Well, I'm, from the west coast and where I'm from we address people with "Ms." or "Mr.", and I'm not trying to say you're being disrespectful, but I'd like if you'd call me 'Ms. Rene'"

At this point I was kind of upset and a little offended (she made it seem like every time I addressed her I was saying "Hey bitch!" or "You there! Woman!"), but since I was taught to be 'respectful' and 'courteous' so I replied, "Yeah, sure thing, I'm sorry."

And I walked away and the rest of the night was very awkward I don't think I'm ever going back.

What do you guys/gals think? How were you raised to address people?
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#2
Why were you taking orders from a woman again...?
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#3
Clever. You're right, I should've said, "Listen here woman! I call you whatever the sam hell I want! You're lucky I call you Rene, I should call you bitch."
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#4
Babies - by their first name.
Kids - by their first name.
Young adults - by their first name.
People in their twenties - by their first name.
Age 30+ people, depending on how comfortable I am with them - either by their first name or by Mr./Mrs./Ms.
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Babies - by their first name.
Kids - by their first name.
Young adults - by their first name.
People in their twenties - by their first name.
Age 30+ people, depending on how comfortable I am with them - either by their first name or by Mr./Mrs./Ms.


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#7
i just don't say thier name or ms/ mr or anything i just try and grab thier attention, pretty much because of your exact situation.
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#8
I call everyone by their first names.
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She's a stuck up old shite with her head up her ass.

Tell her you'd like to be adressed as Sgt. Cockalot, see how she reacts.
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#12
I call people what comes to my mind first... usually its "Ah, ****....uhmm, (guess)..."

She sounds like a saggy vagcake about it though. Its a lot more casual and friendly to call someone by their first name, and whenever they make it a point to be called by a title, I realize they are self-righteous.
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Babies - by their first name.
Kids - by their first name.
Young adults - by their first name.
People in their twenties - by their first name.
Age 30+ people, depending on how comfortable I am with them - either by their first name or by Mr./Mrs./Ms.


Seems fair, but I always felt very comfortable with them. The bit that bothered me the most was she made it seem like I was disrespecting her by calling her by her name.

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i just don't say thier name or ms/ mr or anything i just try and grab thier attention, pretty much because of your exact situation.


Twas an awkward situation it was. You're smart.
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Sorry for the double post, but it looks like everybody is on board with me here (which makes me feel better about it, bottom line: she's a ***** and I'm still a good kid).
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#18
if their within like ten years of my age i just call them by their first name, but if their 30 or 40 or whatever, I usually add Mr/Ms. to it.
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Why were you taking orders from a woman again...?



more importantly, why was a woman out the kitchen?
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Sorry for the double post, but it looks like everybody is on board with me here (which makes me feel better about it, bottom line: she's a ***** and I'm still a good kid).

i definetly feel if you've been calling them by their first name this long shes being a huge *****...Probably to full of herself. I mean, I add ms or mr but thats because it's what i do.
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#21
Manners make thus man. Is this how the saying goes?

Well, good manners are extremely important in my opinion.
#22
Just be polite.

Everyone younger than me and my peers are called by their first name.

Starting from college grads (unless I'm told otherwise), starts to get a Mr./Mrs./Ms.
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#23
I don't really use any of them....I don't address many people in any way other than eye contact or something like that.....
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Babies - by their first name.
Kids - by their first name.
Young adults - by their first name.
People in their twenties - by their first name.
Age 30+ people, depending on how comfortable I am with them - either by their first name or by Mr./Mrs./Ms.*insert last name*
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I call my best friend's mom "mom".


this, but for some reason i still call his dad Dr."" even though he's told me to call him by his first name, force of habit i guess.
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#26
if i meet someone's parents i'll start off calling them mr *surname* and mrs *surname* unless when we were introduced they asked me to call them something else. most people will say "oh just call me *first name*" at some point anyway if you keep calling them by a more formal name.

i find it weird that she wanted you to call her ms rene, rather than ms/mrs *surname* tbh
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Babies - by their first name.
Kids - by their first name.
Young adults - by their first name.
People in their twenties - by their first name.
Age 30+ people, depending on how comfortable I am with them - either by their first name or by Mr./Mrs./Ms.

Pretty much this.
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Babies - by their first name.
Kids - by their first name.
Young adults - by their first name.
People in their twenties - by their first name.
Age 30+ people, depending on how comfortable I am with them - either by their first name or by Mr./Mrs./Ms.


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#29
If someone is in a position of authority over me, I'll give them a title, but otherwise it's their first name. If I'm in a formal situation, and I'm introduced to them with their last name, then I might take the hint, but I really don't see the point of titles. Respect is intangible and can't just be condensed into a two or three letter word. If I call someone "Mr" something then it doesn't mean I respect them.
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#30
I call everyone the way I was introduced to them.

A guy at my church who runs the music program and is going to eventually be Pastor, I'm allowed to just call him by his first name (everyone does, and he's only 5 or 6 years older than me)

but I dont
I call him "Mr. Howard"

...occasionally I call him Reverend Howard, but that's a joke.


most people's parents I call them "Mr." or "Mrs" whatever

a couple of my friends mothers I refer to as "mom" and they call me "honey" so...it works haha
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#31
Infant- first name
Child- first name
Teen- first name
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#32
I'm a well-mannered person and I've always been VERY polite to them if not overly polite. Now that I think about it, she's always been the kind of person who always wants to be answered to. Like she's the boss. I would feel awkward if I called my teachers or my doctor by their first name, but she's just my friend's mom. Not like she has any importance on my life.
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My natural instinct would be to use their first name, given the background you provided. But if she would rather use the Ms term, I would respect that 100%.

I very much doubt that it's anything personal to you, just a comfort thing by the sounds of things.

I'm sure you'll BOTH feel odd the first few times but eventually it will all be cool.

In short - if she's asking you to use the title Ms, you should do it out of respect.
#34
I don't address adults by mrs or mr or whatever, unless it's a lecturer (and so i call them mr, dr or proffesor etc - even then the ones i actually like I refer to by their first names).

It's silly that people want young people to call them by titles. you don't get respect just for being 40, lol.
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My natural instinct would be to use their first name, given the background you provided. But if she would rather use the Ms term, I would respect that 100%.

I very much doubt that it's anything personal to you, just a comfort thing by the sounds of things.

I'm sure you'll BOTH feel odd the first few times but eventually it will all be cool.

In short - if she's asking you to use the title Ms, you should do it out of respect.



You're right. If I see her again, I will address her by how she wants to be addressed.
I don't mind that at all. What I did mind was her acting like I was being disrespectful and she made it seem like I didn't have any manners whatsoever.
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#37
It seems to me that US or more strict than UK in social situations like this.

The often used 'Mam' for instants is not used as much over here. Maybe it is a generalization, But in film (hollywood) it seems USA people are more formal.
#38
I've never called a person "Mr." or "Ms." in my life.
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#40
What a bitch, I usually call friends parents by Mr/Mrs 'insert friends name here'. It's the best way as i very rarely know their real names.
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