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So i'll keep this short, basically I was hanging out with my ex yesterday (as friends) and when I got home my mom yelled at me for seeing her. This led to my mom telling me to never date someone who doesn't come from a perfect family, no divorce, no death, no violence etc. Because the relationship I have with them will be identical to their parents. I think it's relatively unfair to say that in a day and age where the divorce rate is 50% and in truth, who can pick their family?

So do you think people will follow the relationship patterns of their parents? or can they change who they are and fix the mistakes their rents made? On a larger scale, are people destined to just turn out like their parents?
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#2
If I am I'll either be some chemistry nerd or working with a bunch of screaming toddlers.
Relationship wise would be.. alright I guess my parents have been married for over 20 years. But I don't thin I will turn out like them.
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So i'll keep this short, basically I was hanging out with my ex yesterday (as friends) and when I got home my mom yelled at me for seeing her. This led to my mom telling me to never date someone who doesn't come from a perfect family, no divorce, no death, no violence etc. Because the relationship I have with them will be identical to their parents. I think it's relatively unfair to say that in a day and age where the divorce rate is 50% and in truth, who can pick their family?

So do you think people will follow the relationship patterns of their parents? or can they change who they are and fix the mistakes their rents made? On a larger scale, are people destined to just turn out like their parents?



Does your mom go outside?
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#5
If someone wants to be like their parents they will be, if the don't then they won't.

Same as for the relationships.


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Does your mom go outside?


Apparently she lives in a village in the 1300s.
wen i ask they say that they fall into the habit smhw ........but nyways i think there is a connection smwhere. Now i being a teetollar will not give into this habit nyhw

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#7
Your mum's a moron. Date who you want, if you date the wrong person its your mistake to make not hers.
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#9
If you take a look around, most people are so much like their parents its scary.
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Apparently she lives in a village in the 1300s.


To be honest, you're not far off, she's pretty damn old and holds very conservative views. She's set in her ways I guess, I don't know why she's the one to talk anyway, her and my father haven't hugged or kissed in like, 10 years, and i dont think they even like each other anymore, but they've stayed married.
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#11
"perfect family"?

Puch that bitch in the face.

On topic, no I don't think that. People are different, and different things happen to them in their lives. Unless you plan on marrying your sister or something.
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To be honest, you're not far off, she's pretty damn old and holds very conservative views. She's set in her ways I guess, I don't know why she's the one to talk anyway, her and my father haven't hugged or kissed in like, 10 years, and i dont think they even like each other anymore, but they've stayed married.


I hope for your sake you do not end up like them.
wen i ask they say that they fall into the habit smhw ........but nyways i think there is a connection smwhere. Now i being a teetollar will not give into this habit nyhw

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#13
Haha, that is by far one of the worst pieces of advice I've ever heard.

I'd say hell no, my Mum and I have personalities that are almost polar opposites to each other and my while I'm every bit as eccentric as my Dad we have fairly different outlooks on life.
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Does your mom go outside?


Women dont go outside, they're too busy in the kitchen
#15
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I hope for your sake you do not end up like them.


I'm adopted, so i'm hoping genetics had something to do with their failures.
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#16
Your mum sounds like she wants to continue Hitler's work in eugenics.

Screw her, do whatever the hell you want to do, it's not upto her what you do or who you see.
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#17
girls (and guys i suppose) from 'perfect' homes are generally balanced, friendly, intelligent (generalising here) but i guess, to a degree, boring
now while a girl from a messed up family may have issues, she will also be a lot of fun
wink wink, nudge nudge

so i reckon it balances out

oh and in terms of parents i think we become opposites to extremist parents (heavy bible bashing parents = unreligious, or even anti-religious, children)

this is a lot of generalising though
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#18
Tell her she's full of ****.
Cause she is. She's full of ****.
Alot of it. Filled to the brim.
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"perfect family"?

Puch that bitch in the face.

On topic, no I don't think that. People are different, and different things happen to them in their lives. Unless you plan on marrying your sister or something.



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#20
People tend to mirror the actions they liked from their parents and overtly rebel against the ones they didn't like. IE, you, TS, are unlikely to be a fascist about your kids dating simply because your mom is. Or, someday you might see some validity to what she's saying and follow it, only to gasp and say "Oh my God, I've become both my mother and a cliche!" You'll do what you want; the only way you're destined to be your parents is if you're utterly brainwashed.

(That said, she does have at least some tiny point in that the single biggest risk factor for being abusive is growing up in an abusive home. Is she afraid the girl will hit you?)

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#21
Well my dads owns a computer store and my mom is a banker while i am a Communist. Nope dont think so.
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#22
You're adopted. Your mother doesn't love you.

had to be done.


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#23
You're adopted and she cares about the model of the 'perfect' family?

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to have a go at adoption or say that it produces ****ty families. I'd just expect that if your Mum has the outlook you said she has then she'd generally not go for that sort of thing.
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girls (and guys i suppose) from 'perfect' homes are generally balanced, friendly, intelligent (generalising here) but i guess, to a degree, boring
now while a girl from a messed up family may have issues, she will also be a lot of fun
wink wink, nudge nudge



A good point though is sheltering. I know a girl who honestly probably can't easily tell the difference between "this guy is friendly" and "I'm about to get raped." That's a bit too protective.

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#25
That's stupid dude... You end up being the way you want to be. Of course the environment and the people you are with may influence the way you act. But still at the end, it's all your choice to be who yo want to be.
#26
She's sort of hard to follow sometimes, I suppose there's a lack of connectivity there as well because i'm adopted. But i'm not here to rant about my personal problems, continue with the conversation.
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#27
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So i'll keep this short, basically I was hanging out with my ex yesterday (as friends) and when I got home my mom yelled at me for seeing her. This led to my mom telling me to never date someone who doesn't come from a perfect family, no divorce, no death, no violence etc. Because the relationship I have with them will be identical to their parents. I think it's relatively unfair to say that in a day and age where the divorce rate is 50% and in truth, who can pick their family?

So do you think people will follow the relationship patterns of their parents? or can they change who they are and fix the mistakes their rents made? On a larger scale, are people destined to just turn out like their parents?


No. Your mom sounds like a ****ing moron, stab her in the ears.
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#28
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#29
i think people are a result of their influences so theoretically if someone stayed at home all the time then yes they would be like their parents
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#32
Not, it's not a hard fast rule.

People pick up traits from their parents yes, but that's only because they live with them for so long. But ultimately, they also have their own little quirks.


Trust me, it's all in what you see.

I lived with and have endured a cuntbag of a mother who ... no matter what... every time there was a good trait that shined within me or sibling, it somehow miraculously was a "bellock" trait. However, if we did anything remotely not up to her standards "he's/she's his/her fathers son/daughter!!"

so don't listen to that horse ****. It's utter bull****. Yes we retain some of our parentages qualities, but it's only an "aside" not a plot line. If you or anyone winds up exactly as their parents, it's your/their fault... not a ****ing biological imperitive.

tell your mother to get over her anger for marrying the wrong man, to leave you alone... and to move the **** on.

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#33
A person's personality comes from their parents, but also by the way that the person lived their life, what context he lived in, what events that person lived. The personality can be altered by the super ego, which is that part of you that tells you what is right and what is wrong because you LEARNED from somewhere what you should, or shouldn't do.
If your friend learned how to treat people, and learned habits and how to respect others I don't think she should have that much of a problem.
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#34
Sounds like your mom's got some issues of her own to work through...

Perfect family? Doesn't exist.

Also, for the bit about having relationships just like your parents, I would say it definitely influences (abused kids go with abusive partners) your choices, but to say that someone will turn out exactly like their parents and have the exact same kinds of relationships is complete bull****.
#35
Well i noticed i act really similar to my dad, so maybe. But in a relationship there are two people and unless you marry someone exactly like your mom, it wont be the same as with your parents.
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#36
Parents are a big influence throughout childhood. You see what they do as "normal".

In my case, I've come to realize after 17 years both my parents are actually quite insane. Even acknowledging this, I'll probably carry out some of their "normal" mannerisms subconsciously until I smack my gob enough to stop.
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#37
In certain ways, yes, it is very likely, but what your Mum said was quite inaccurate. But you already knew that.
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#38
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So i'll keep this short, basically I was hanging out with my ex yesterday (as friends) and when I got home my mom yelled at me for seeing her. This led to my mom telling me to never date someone who doesn't come from a perfect family, no divorce, no death, no violence etc. Because the relationship I have with them will be identical to their parents. I think it's relatively unfair to say that in a day and age where the divorce rate is 50% and in truth, who can pick their family?

So do you think people will follow the relationship patterns of their parents? or can they change who they are and fix the mistakes their rents made? On a larger scale, are people destined to just turn out like their parents?


Get this through your mum's head any way you can.

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A PERFECT FAMILY.
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Get this through your mum's head any way you can.

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A PERFECT FAMILY.

You win!
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Get this through your mum's head any way you can.

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A PERFECT FAMILY.


That's what I tell my son when I present him the back of my hand for being so gay.
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