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#1
I have nowhere else to turn right now.

Ok, so me and my girlfriend have been going out for a year, and we've been friends for like 3 years. She has had some serious issues in the past, she became kind of a sIut for a little while because of the people she knew through her sister (we'll get to that) and she hurt herself to the point she almost died a bunch of times for 2 years, which led to a mental hospital visit eventually (not before her drunken mom beat the hell out of her for having a panic attack). Things have since vastly improved, and old "friends" are long gone, and she is herself again.

Ok, fast foward to now, her family is awful, they are seriously all drunken self loving morons on both sides, they are the cause of every problem she's ever had, they treat her like a slave. She lives a few states from me now and was staying with me for a month, when her aunt who lives in NJ (i'm in NY) called and demanded she come "home" because I am "no good for her" even though i've helped her whole family straigten out somewhat, and that "she doesn't know me" (we've known each other forever) . The family in NJ hates me, they hate her, they insult my family for no reason, and demand she doesn't see me. My family cares about her like she's a daughter, and has done everything to help her. Things where she is now are awful, and I miss her terribly, I don't think she can take much more of the mess she's in, shes at the breaking point and so am I.

I'm thinking about going down there and getting he one night and just leaving. I dunno where we'd go, maybe west ( I have family out there) but my family is i serious debt, and hers is a mess and neither of us can take it anymore. Her aunt wants to call the cops, but I checked on the laws with my dad whos a state worker and it turns out theres next to nothing she can do, even if we do run away.

Should we make an attempt to get away?
I'm truly scared for her, and I miss her. As cheesy as this sounds, I really love her more than anything, and it kills me to see her so unhappy.


IN B4 TL;DR
#2
tl;dr

THERE ARE THESE THINGS CALLED RELATIONSHIP THREADS.

But seriously, that's kind of a bad situation, I'd call it quits brosilini.
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#5
Quote by ConeShred
tl;dr

THERE ARE THESE THINGS CALLED RELATIONSHIP THREADS.

But seriously, that's kind of a bad situation, I'd call it quits brosilini.



Yeah, I forgot sorry, Im upset right now.

I didn't mean to offend or whatever.
#6
Quote by geetar_man0
is this really the place to go for advice?



Well everyone I know says go get her, but I don't exactly want to go to jail.
#7
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#8
Quote by geetar_man0
is this really the place to go for advice?



Quote by Versailles_X
I have nowhere else to turn right now.


That means yes.

Yeah, it's cool. I didn't get offended. This is The Pit. On the internet. I don't get offended.
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Varg/J Mascis/GG Allin are all the same person.

There are two types of people in this world: people who like Bolt Thrower, and people who suck.

Death by diamonds and pearls.
#9
It may be tough, but I get the impression you're both quite young?

Seriously consider the implications of what you do.
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#11
Quote by Versailles_X
Well everyone I know says go get her, but I don't exactly want to go to jail.

how old are you two?

if she's 18 then she can choose to come with you

but let me guess.....neither of you are 18

or at least you are but shes not
#12
Quote by metacarpi
It may be tough, but I get the impression you're both quite young?

Seriously consider the implications of what you do.


Not too young to make big choices, besides I have my entire family backing me.
#13
Quote by geetar_man0
how old are you two?

if she's 18 then she can choose to come with you

but let me guess.....neither of you are 18

or at least you are but shes not



We're both 17
#14
Quote by Versailles_X
^ No, sadly things really are this ****ed right now.


If you're serious about picking her up and going west, you really need to lay some ground work. Ensure that you have a place to stay with the family you say you have out there, and spend the time with them looking for work or changing your educational institute if you can.

You need to lay a ground plan, cos if you run off half cooked, you're both going to end up in more trouble.
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Pooping is well good though, to be fair.


I've got a handle on the fiction.

I'm losing my grip, 'cos I'm losing my fingers.
#16
Quote by Versailles_X
Not too young to make big choices


Quote by Versailles_X
We're both 17


Inappropriate, but
Quote by GLP_Arclite
Pooping is well good though, to be fair.


I've got a handle on the fiction.

I'm losing my grip, 'cos I'm losing my fingers.
#17
yeah thats a pretty sticky situation....

can you drive when your 17 in the states?
do you have a car?
are you allowed by law to go and get her if she will willingly come with you?
#18
Well this could be like those romantic movies where two people in love take a huge risk and against all odds end up perfectly fine and dandy

But this is reality so it will go bad

Be prepared for the worst
#19
Quote by geetar_man0
yeah thats a pretty sticky situation....

can you drive when your 17 in the states?
do you have a car?
are you allowed by law to go and get her if she will willingly come with you?


Yes you can drive legally at age 17 in the states, and yes he is allowed.
*A list of all my gear*

Varg/J Mascis/GG Allin are all the same person.

There are two types of people in this world: people who like Bolt Thrower, and people who suck.

Death by diamonds and pearls.
#20
Quote by metacarpi
If you're serious about picking her up and going west, you really need to lay some ground work. Ensure that you have a place to stay with the family you say you have out there, and spend the time with them looking for work or changing your educational institute if you can.

You need to lay a ground plan, cos if you run off half cooked, you're both going to end up in more trouble.


I graduated early, and she can at any time thanks to moving to a state with a dumbass credit system.
#21
Quote by Versailles_X
I have nowhere else to turn right now.

Ok, so me and my girlfriend have been going out for a year, and we've been friends for like 3 years. She has had some serious issues in the past, she became kind of a sIut for a little while because of the people she knew through her sister (we'll get to that) and she hurt herself to the point she almost died a bunch of times for 2 years, which led to a mental hospital visit eventually (not before her drunken mom beat the hell out of her for having a panic attack). Things have since vastly improved, and old "friends" are long gone, and she is herself again.

Ok, fast foward to now, her family is awful, they are seriously all drunken self loving morons on both sides, they are the cause of every problem she's ever had, they treat her like a slave. She lives a few states from me now and was staying with me for a month, when her aunt who lives in NJ (i'm in NY) called and demanded she come "home" because I am "no good for her" even though i've helped her whole family straigten out somewhat, and that "she doesn't know me" (we've known each other forever) . The family in NJ hates me, they hate her, they insult my family for no reason, and demand she doesn't see me. My family cares about her like she's a daughter, and has done everything to help her. Things where she is now are awful, and I miss her terribly, I don't think she can take much more of the mess she's in, shes at the breaking point and so am I.

I'm thinking about going down there and getting he one night and just leaving. I dunno where we'd go, maybe west ( I have family out there) but my family is i serious debt, and hers is a mess and neither of us can take it anymore. Her aunt wants to call the cops, but I checked on the laws with my dad whos a state worker and it turns out theres next to nothing she can do, even if we do run away.

Should we make an attempt to get away?
I'm truly scared for her, and I miss her. As cheesy as this sounds, I really love her more than anything, and it kills me to see her so unhappy.


IN B4 TL;DR

Is she 18? You can't take a minor away from her legal guardian. Then again, I'm not a lawyer.
Banging on a trash can
Drumming on a street light
#24
Quote by GuitarGod_92
Just do not reinact Romeo and Juliet.


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#25
Quote by BigFatSandwich
Is she 18? You can't take a minor away from her legal guardian. Then again, I'm not a lawyer.



Thats the thing, she's not with her legal guardian, shes with a bitch who thinks she is her legal guardian.
#27
Quote by ConeShred
Yes you can drive legally at age 17 in the states, and yes he is allowed.

well now its just a case of whether he wants to go through with it...

but like i think it was metacarpi said....dont just go and do it...make sure you plan it out
#28
Well dude, sounds like a bitch of a situation. If I were in your shoes I would wait till I myself or her was 18 then take action. Until then cool your jets bud. Go relax, get a drink and watch tv.
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#29
Quote by jmonko
Well dude, sounds like a bitch of a situation. If I were in your shoes I would wait till I myself or her was 18 then take action. Until then cool your jets bud. Go relax, get a drink and watch tv.



I would love to, but this can't go on for six months.

DId I meantion her mom's boyfriend is an abusive ex marine?
I mean, everywhere you look, it gets worse.
#31
Quote by Versailles_X
Thats the thing, she's not with her legal guardian, shes with a bitch who thinks she is her legal guardian.

Then alert the proper authorities? You can't just take the law into your own hands. It never ends well.
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Drumming on a street light
#33
Tell her to hold on for six more months, then both of you leave. But, like they said, plan what you'll do first. Don't run off together with no care in the world. Set up a plan for both of you to get good educations and go to college. Have set plans to stay with family members. Etc...
#34
This all reminds me of this song:


They made up their minds
And they started packing
They left before the sun came up that day
An exit to eternal summer slacking
But where were they going without ever knowing the way?
They drank up the wine
And they got to talking
They now had more important things to say
And when the car broke down, they started walking
But where were they going without ever knowing the way?
Banging on a trash can
Drumming on a street light
#35
Quote by BigFatSandwich
This all reminds me of this song:


They made up their minds
And they started packing
They left before the sun came up that day
An exit to eternal summer slacking
But where were they going without ever knowing the way?
They drank up the wine
And they got to talking
They now had more important things to say
And when the car broke down, they started walking
But where were they going without ever knowing the way?

And that reminded me of this song

She packed my bags last night pre-flight
Zero hour nine a.m.
And i'm gonna be high as a kite by then
I miss the earth so much i miss my wife
It's lonely out in space
On such a timeless flight

And i think it's gonna be a long long time
Till touch down brings me round again to find
I'm not the man they think i am at home
Oh no no no i'm a rocket man
Rocket man burning out his fuse up here alone


It kinda fits
#36
Fly by night away from here
Change my life again
Fly by night, goodbye my dear
My ship is a comin' and I just can't pretend
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Varg/J Mascis/GG Allin are all the same person.

There are two types of people in this world: people who like Bolt Thrower, and people who suck.

Death by diamonds and pearls.
#37
Quote by Oroborous
And that reminded me of this song

She packed my bags last night pre-flight
Zero hour nine a.m.
And i'm gonna be high as a kite by then
I miss the earth so much i miss my wife
It's lonely out in space
On such a timeless flight

And i think it's gonna be a long long time
Till touch down brings me round again to find
I'm not the man they think i am at home
Oh no no no i'm a rocket man
Rocket man burning out his fuse up here alone


It kinda fits

And that song always, always reminds me of this:
Banging on a trash can
Drumming on a street light
#38
Quote by BigFatSandwich
And that song always, always reminds me of this:


Same here.
Quote by GLP_Arclite
Pooping is well good though, to be fair.


I've got a handle on the fiction.

I'm losing my grip, 'cos I'm losing my fingers.
#39
Quote by Oroborous
And that reminded me of this song

She packed my bags last night pre-flight
Zero hour nine a.m.
And i'm gonna be high as a kite by then
I miss the earth so much i miss my wife
It's lonely out in space
On such a timeless flight

And i think it's gonna be a long long time
Till touch down brings me round again to find
I'm not the man they think i am at home
Oh no no no i'm a rocket man
Rocket man burning out his fuse up here alone


It kinda fits

And that reminded me of this:
Last edited by GuitarGod_92 at Jul 7, 2009,
#40
Quote by BigFatSandwich
This all reminds me of this song:


They made up their minds
And they started packing
They left before the sun came up that day
An exit to eternal summer slacking
But where were they going without ever knowing the way?
They drank up the wine
And they got to talking
They now had more important things to say
And when the car broke down, they started walking
But where were they going without ever knowing the way?



Holy **** I haven't heard that in a while.
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