#1
This is not for the Relationship Thread.

What is the difference between lovers and friends?

If friends and lovers are people you care about, share parts of yourself with, interact with, love, fight, even have sex with, what's the difference?

I know there is a difference but it's really subjective. So subjective that, personally, I can't explain what makes them different. Any ideas?
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But I have sex with my friends as well.
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Personally, I think it's a bit creepy to love your friends
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there's a deeper feeling for eachother then with friends
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There's that 'feeling' with a lover, which it lacks with friends.

ITT: TS has not been love yet.
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lovers are the ones you **** more than once
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depends really; I think it's a lot like how you like a certain friend more than another friend, then you love them more essentially - so a lover imo is a friend that you like a hell of a lot, and love more than other friends, enjoy spending time with all the time, and may think about having sexual relations with.

however, being a randy virgin bastard, I'd have sex with a fair amount of women(If they asked) that I wouldn't particularly know or love.

so I agree TS, very subjective.
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You're in love if you still enjoy their company after you ejaculate.
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Being lovers includes more romantic feelings, I guess.


Yeah, but I bet a lot of married people (who'd consider themselves lovers) lose that romance after a while. I mean, you lose romance even if you're not married and you can still consider each other lovers. And you can be lovers without being romantic, what about those people who just get each other and don't need all that crap? And you can definitely be romantic with your friend, only it's like flirting.
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It is very possible for two friends to have sex without entering a full on relationship, but more often than not, they will want it again and at least one of them will want to start a relationship with that person.

Having said that, i have a close female friend who i have kissed quite a few times, we are both very close with eachother but do not want to start a relationship.
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And here I was thinking that a lover was the one you weren't friends with. I envisaged brief James Bond or Indiana Jones-esque encounters with the opposite sex, the sort where you never see them again afterwards.
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It is very possible for two friends to have sex without entering a full on relationship, but more often than not, they will want it again and at least one of them will want to start a relationship with that person.

Having said that, i have a close female friend who i have kissed quite a few times, we are both very close with eachother but do not want to start a relationship.


See? So what makes you friends and not lovers? What would be the difference if you had a friendship or a relationship? Would you treat each other differently?
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Yeah, but I bet a lot of married people (who'd consider themselves lovers) lose that romance after a while. I mean, you lose romance even if you're not married and you can still consider each other lovers. And you can be lovers without being romantic, what about those people who just get each other and don't need all that crap? And you can definitely be romantic with your friend, only it's like flirting.


That's why god created mistresses and fancy men. Yeah, you got a point there.

I think a lover should also be your friend, but a friend is not necessarily your lover. It's a thin line, really.
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See? So what makes you friends and not lovers? What would be the difference if you had a friendship or a relationship? Would you treat each other differently?


The difference is, i don't want to have sex with her, sure, the thought has passed through my mind on a few occasions, but it leaves as quickly as it comes, she fits friend criterea but there are a few characteristics that i like to have in a girlfriend which she dosen't have.

I'm not saying it in a bad way, i can talk to her for hours, and she is pretty, but it might just be because my feelings for her rarely ever surpass friendship, and the few times that it has, it goes away quickly.

EDIT: I know alot of people who think their lover is one of their best friends, not their ONLY best friend, because your friends are sort of your foundation, familiarity.
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