I need social help, Pit. (not a blog, I'm actually looking for help)

#1
I've noticed lately that while I do still like my friends, they seem to be acting very immature lately and also don't seem to be anything like the people I met years ago. Nowadays, I find myself trying to tune them out half the time because they're going on about something I have absolutely no interest in or they're making themselves look like idiots (at that point, I usually do look for other friends nearby. they really do make me wonder why I even bother sometimes). It's not that I think I'm better than them, we're just so... different. I feel extremely alienated, but I don't know what to do. Technically, I could "just" become closer with my other friends. But I don't know if I have it in me to leave them. These are the kids I've known and hung out with since grade school, and it's not that I can't meet new people - in fact, I meet new people all the time. I'm just... afraid. I don't know if I'll ever be comfortable being around a new group of people that are more like me with the knowledge that I've left so many others behind. I guess what I'm getting at here is, I'm not sure if I really want to be around my current group of friends anymore, but I'm afraid to leave them because I'd have to deal with the guilt of completely ditching a group of people I've known for a very long time.

I know this all sounds like a bunch of bitching and moaning, but I'm really getting stressed out by this whole thing. I have no idea what to do.


Any serious suggestions, Pit? I know this isn't the place to ask, but if any of you have it in you, please try to give a serious reply.
#2
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I've noticed lately that while I do still like my friends, they seem to be acting very immature lately and also don't seem to be anything like the people I met years ago. Nowadays, I find myself trying to tune them out half the time because they're going on about something I have absolutely no interest in or they're making themselves look like idiots (at that point, I usually do look for other friends nearby. they really do make me wonder why I even bother sometimes). It's not that I think I'm better than them, we're just so... different. I feel extremely alienated, but I don't know what to do. Technically, I could "just" become closer with my other friends. But I don't know if I have it in me to leave them. These are the kids I've known and hung out with since grade school, and it's not that I can't meet new people - in fact, I meet new people all the time. I'm just... afraid. I don't know if I'll ever be comfortable being around a new group of people that are more like me with the knowledge that I've left so many others behind. I guess what I'm getting at here is, I'm not sure if I really want to be around my current group of friends anymore, but I'm afraid to leave them because I'd have to deal with the guilt of completely ditching a group of people I've known for a very long time.

I know this all sounds like a bunch of bitching and moaning, but I'm really getting stressed out by this whole thing. I have no idea what to do.


Any serious suggestions, Pit? I know this isn't the place to ask, but if any of you have it in you, please try to give a serious reply.


#3
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#4
Cool Story Bro.


EDIT:

Same thing happened with me quite a few weeks ago. All my usual people started being idiots so i adjusted myself and started to hang around with a different group. Thus equalling Happiness
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#5
Okay, so far this is what I expected. Hopefully at least one serious, well-thought-out reply will come along eventually.
#6
Welcome to maturity. I have no idea how old you are, but I'm guessing somewhere between 14-16?

You're probably just one of us, the people that get mature a bit earlier. I'm fairly certain your friends will follow your example pretty soon, but if you just can't stand it, try to just... cut down on them a bit. No need to completely leave them, just be a bit more absent. It worked for me, so it's really the only thing I can offer as advice.


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#7
Puberty sucks don't it????

Edit: That is a serious response.
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Okay, so far this is what I expected. Hopefully at least one serious, well-thought-out reply will come along eventually.

fine ignore my post.
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#9
Get new friends? Theres a whole world (or at least, a whole high school) of kids that would love to be your friend who aren't annoying or immature
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#10
I have went through many friend groups in my life

Just try and make time for both group of friends
#11
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#12
tl;dr

But maybe they all hit puberty and you haven't yet? Would these conversations you're not interested include boobs? Maybe vagina?
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#13
Id go for the new friends... if I had any friends to get rid of

I'm so LONELY!!!
#14
You sound like a dick. Good luck making new friends.
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I've noticed lately that while I do still like my friends, they seem to be acting very immature lately and also don't seem to be anything like the people I met years ago. Nowadays, I find myself trying to tune them out half the time because they're going on about something I have absolutely no interest in or they're making themselves look like idiots (at that point, I usually do look for other friends nearby. they really do make me wonder why I even bother sometimes). It's not that I think I'm better than them, we're just so... different. I feel extremely alienated, but I don't know what to do. Technically, I could "just" become closer with my other friends. But I don't know if I have it in me to leave them. These are the kids I've known and hung out with since grade school, and it's not that I can't meet new people - in fact, I meet new people all the time. I'm just... afraid. I don't know if I'll ever be comfortable being around a new group of people that are more like me with the knowledge that I've left so many others behind. I guess what I'm getting at here is, I'm not sure if I really want to be around my current group of friends anymore, but I'm afraid to leave them because I'd have to deal with the guilt of completely ditching a group of people I've known for a very long time.

I know this all sounds like a bunch of bitching and moaning, but I'm really getting stressed out by this whole thing. I have no idea what to do.


Any serious suggestions, Pit? I know this isn't the place to ask, but if any of you have it in you, please try to give a serious reply.

Same thing happened to me, Now I hang out with people who are more like me, if you don't like hanging out with them, then they aren't your friends. If it kills you so much, just moderate the time you spend with them.
#16
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I've noticed lately that while I do still like my friends, they seem to be acting very immature lately and also don't seem to be anything like the people I met years ago. Nowadays, I find myself trying to tune them out half the time because they're going on about something I have absolutely no interest in or they're making themselves look like idiots (at that point, I usually do look for other friends nearby. they really do make me wonder why I even bother sometimes). It's not that I think I'm better than them, we're just so... different. I feel extremely alienated, but I don't know what to do. Technically, I could "just" become closer with my other friends. But I don't know if I have it in me to leave them. These are the kids I've known and hung out with since grade school, and it's not that I can't meet new people - in fact, I meet new people all the time. I'm just... afraid. I don't know if I'll ever be comfortable being around a new group of people that are more like me with the knowledge that I've left so many others behind. I guess what I'm getting at here is, I'm not sure if I really want to be around my current group of friends anymore, but I'm afraid to leave them because I'd have to deal with the guilt of completely ditching a group of people I've known for a very long time.

I know this all sounds like a bunch of bitching and moaning, but I'm really getting stressed out by this whole thing. I have no idea what to do.


Any serious suggestions, Pit? I know this isn't the place to ask, but if any of you have it in you, please try to give a serious reply.



Try hanging out with different people then, you don't have to make a huge thing about it, just do it and see what happens.

Friends come and go.

EDIT: sorry I would type a better response but im feeling lazy right now
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#17
Awaiting mirror thread.

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#18
Be friends with all of em. You don't need a specific group =/.
My friends still are kinda immature and all they talk about at lunch is firin' their lazorz and some red vs. blue crap that I couldn't care less about. It's much like the pit....
Just hang out with other peeps a bit but don't just abandon the other group. That just makes you an asshole. That also leaves you screwed if the other kids don't like you at all xD.
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#19
rape, fap or you could just float from group to group to keep your friend base wide, and who knows, maybe your friends wil eventually change and grow up. But don't ditch your old friends.
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#20
Okay, so it seems the general consensus is to just hang out with that group of people a little less often and hang out with my other friends a little more often, to the point where it pretty much balances out. Sounds good to me. Thanks to all that helped.


And for those of you who called me a dick, thanks for not realizing that the whole reason I was having a hard time figuring out what to do was because I couldn't bring myself to take the douche-y route out of the situation.
#21
Yeah, nevermind that you've been hanging around with them for years, you're clearly better than them. Ditch them, find some cool people instead and never speak to them again. It worked for a former friend of mine now it can work for you too, TS!
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