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My girlfriend and I have decided that it is probably time to tell her parents that she is pregnant and that they are going to be grandparents. The only problem is that they aren't even on speaking terms with me and they all but disowned my girlfriend when she gave up her Muslim faith. She still sees them occasionally but we've both been putting off telling them shes pregnant for quite a while. It won't be long though until she starts to get a bit of a bulge so hiding it won't be possible for much longer.
Unfortunately neither of us can decide how best to break the news best so I ask you Pit for some serious suggestions. Joke suggestions can't go amiss either and if I'm honest I'm not expecting much from you lot but I've got solid advice from the Pit before so I'm giving it a try anyway.
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#3
Tell them you're gonna name it Muhammed, that should help a bit.
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#4
ah, parents like that are hard to deal with. A friend of mine was in the same situation, and her parents forced her into an abortion she didn't really want (she's 21). I honestly have no advice other than be tactful, expect a shitstorm, and be ready for anything.
#6
get hitched like muslims. however they do that
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#7
A pretty standard solution, but... marry her?
If you do it fast enough, you can probably fake the baby being conceived after the marriage.
#8
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How old are you? Cause that'll obviously have an effect on their response.


We are both 18.
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#9
:O A pit monkey who didn't cum blood!!!!!!!!

Seriously though- congratulations on the future dad thing.
With breaking it to her parents- i'd suggest ringing em first and saying you have some big news for them then break it to them when you next meet. Of course keeping a smile on your face the whole time so hopefully they'll be excited too?
#10
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get hitched like muslims. however they do that


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oh lord, take a look at the advertisement that was above this page when I opened it cepalm:







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#13
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oh lord, take a look at the advertisement that was above this page when I opened it
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#15
meet in a neutral place (restaurant or something) and tell them that you still want them to have the chance to be involved in the babies life.

it's a bit of a gamble but maybe the public place will stop them flipping.
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#16
Quote by ratracekid111
get hitched like muslims. however they do that
I disagree, I think they should do it like Buddhists.
#17
Why the **** are you getting kids at the age of 18?
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#18
You're both 18?

Sorry, but it's a horrible idea to have a kid at 18.


Just don't dude.
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#20
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Why the **** are you getting kids at the age of 18?

Z_cup_boy wrote on Oct 17th, 2009 2:01am:
you seem like a dick.


from your profile, and I agree.
#21
Dude, that sucks. I'm 18 and couldn't even imagine having to deal with a baby. For the sake of the kid don't get married just because she is pregnant, I mean be in the babie's life but if you decide you don't like her you don't have to deal with her, because 15 years down the line a problem now will be worse, and it'll be hell for the kid to have to deal with.

Trust me, my parents got married at 18 because my mom was pregnant.
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#22
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from your profile, and I agree.


and from IDread's previous posts I think he'll make a fine father.


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#23
Don't tell them. If they're ****s towards you both, there is no reason for them to be involved. Hopefully you guys both have jobs and can move out as well, seeing as that would make it easier.
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#24
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You're both 18?

Sorry, but it's a horrible idea to have a kid at 18.


Just don't dude.


There was already a thread where I explained all this but here it is again...

We both have good stable income.
We have significant savings
We live together.
Our relationship is very strong.
We have the support of relatives (other than her parents obviously).
We aren't idiots.

So overall we are in a pretty good position to have and raise a child.
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#25
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There was already a thread where I explained all this but here it is again...

We both have good stable income.
We have significant savings
We live together.
Our relationship is very strong.
We have the support of relatives (other than her parents obviously).
We aren't idiots.

So overall we are in a pretty good position to have and raise a child.

Given the circumstances, you may be in a decent position, but that doesn't mean you have to have it.

I mean, have the kid if you want, but definitely look at all the possible alternatives.

Congratulations, by the way .

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#26
Quote by IDread
There was already a thread where I explained all this but here it is again...

We both have good stable income.
We have significant savings
We live together.
Our relationship is very strong.
We have the support of relatives (other than her parents obviously).
We aren't idiots.

So overall we are in a pretty good position to have and raise a child.

sounds fine to me, so this is really just about breaking it to her folks.

I mean, I personally would think it best if you tell it to her parents with her, possibly with another relative you trust with you. that would
a. give them a reason to keep their cool
b. keep them from doing anything rash
c. you'd have back-up if they DID do anything rash.
#29
You could also take your parents with you when you tell them. That way they can all discuss it together.

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#30
Quote by MetalGS3SE
You could also take your parents with you when you tell them. That way they can all discuss it together.

excellent idea, +1 to this. it involves entire families.
#33
Quote by CoreysMonster
sounds fine to me, so this is really just about breaking it to her folks.


Yep.

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I mean, I personally would think it best if you tell it to her parents with her, possibly with another relative you trust with you. that would
a. give them a reason to keep their cool
b. keep them from doing anything rash
c. you'd have back-up if they DID do anything rash.


I'm definately planning on being there and she wants her aunt to be there as well so we have the trustworthy relative covered.
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#35
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There was already a thread where I explained all this but here it is again...

We both have good stable income.
We have significant savings
We live together.
Our relationship is very strong.
We have the support of relatives (other than her parents obviously).
We aren't idiots.

So overall we are in a pretty good position to have and raise a child.


Both of your parents have failed big time. Jesus Christ...
#36
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Youre 18 and have good stable income? Where do you work?


A wholefoods shop and sundays on a market stall.

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Both of your parents have failed big time. Jesus Christ...


Care to elaborate?
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#37
So when can we expect your NBD thread?
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#38
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So when can we expect your NBD thread?


NBD?
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#40
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NBD?


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