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So i've ran out of friends to play music with and i'm starting to get more serious about joining bands etc.

There are sites where you can advertise creation of bands and so on and I was wondering how successful these can be? My main worry is that i'll start a band and when we first start I won't like them or they won't be what i'm looking for. Is it worth doing something like this? Can someone give me tips on how to avoid problems if I do go through with this.
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Do you mean online projects or meeting musicians on the web to play IRL with?
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London eh? No chance to find other musos. I'll tell you a little story.

I was on my way to have a cup o' tea with my mate Queenie, the Queen. She had a totally awesome Marshall stack that she had to show me. The reason I was in London was to find other musos, and I had no luck so far. Even though they say London is one of the music centres of the world, the economic recession had hit hard, and everyone had sold their instruments to buy tickets to the soccer games.

With no instruments there was no music, no bands anywhere. I once heard a totally awesome natural harmonic and I ran to find it, but it was actually Big Ben. The Glastonbury festival had been downgraded and was now a Tupperware convention. The Royal College of Music was now offering cooking classes.

And good luck on with the internet man, there's nobody there either.

BTW; the Queen can totally shred.
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London eh? No chance to find other musos. I'll tell you a little story.

I was on my way to have a cup o' tea with my mate Queenie, the Queen. She had a totally awesome Marshall stack that she had to show me. The reason I was in London was to find other musos, and I had no luck so far. Even though they say London is one of the music centres of the world, the economic recession had hit hard, and everyone had sold their instruments to buy tickets to the soccer games.

With no instruments there was no music, no bands anywhere. I once heard a totally awesome natural harmonic and I ran to find it, but it was actually Big Ben. The Glastonbury festival had been downgraded and was now a Tupperware convention. The Royal College of Music was now offering cooking classes.

And good luck on with the internet man, there's nobody there either.

BTW; the Queen can totally shred.


Don't judge yet. He could be from London, Ontario, which I can testify (and I'm sure Chris would back me up on this), is kind of a shitty town.

But if he's from London, England, he should be ashamed of himself.
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Brian Vollmer from Helix lives in London Ontario. Mind you... he has a band...

My current and my last band have both been formed from the internet. It's actually, as far as I'm concerned, a far better vehicle for getting what you want than anything else.

Everyone has a finite circle of musical friends. If you're in a large city, pretending to know everyone in the scene (at least the broad sense of the word scene) is at best an overstatement, and at worst, arrogant.

Going to jam nights and networking with other bands is good, but how many musicians will you actually meet over a period of how many weeks?

Ads in the paper.... you used to have to pay by the line. A three line ad doesn't give you much else to say other than: Guitarist available. Rock. Exp. - call chris (123) 456-7890.

Fliers in music stores.... good, but kind of at the mercy of whatever traffic comes through the store.

On the internet, I've been able to tell people:
-exactly who I am and what I am looking for
-exactly what kind of project I'm putting together and how serious we are
-exactly what I expect from them, and what they can expect from me in return
**AND allows me to provide a demo for people to hear me!

In short, anything people might want to know can go in an on-line ad. You potentially reach almost every single musician in your area. The wording of the ad serves to (well... helps to) make sure that only appropriate people take the time to contact you. And the best part.... it's free. Demos can be exchanged electronically. How could it be better?

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I know it sounds crazy, but try to learn to inhale your voice. www.thebelcantotechnique.com

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Idk how good online collaborations will work... but actually they can be fun to learn new stuff... Marketing a band online if your al lfrom the same area is the best imo. But I have herd very succesful collaboration projects.

Just keep in mind collaborations usually only involve a few songs then its done.

And its hard to make a decent band with you all in different areas since songs are recorded and they can redo as much as they want. Basically meaning if you ever got togther to do a tour or play live they might not play as well/clean as they did in the recordings.


EDIT: Disregard most of what I said, CT did a much better job answering your question.
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Don't judge yet. He could be from London, Ontario, which I can testify (and I'm sure Chris would back me up on this), is kind of a shitty town.

But if he's from London, England, he should be ashamed of himself.


Location on his profile states "London, London and South East, United Kingdom".

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London eh? No chance to find other musos. I'll tell you a little story.

I was on my way to have a cup o' tea with my mate Queenie, the Queen. She had a totally awesome Marshall stack that she had to show me. The reason I was in London was to find other musos, and I had no luck so far. Even though they say London is one of the music centres of the world, the economic recession had hit hard, and everyone had sold their instruments to buy tickets to the soccer games.

With no instruments there was no music, no bands anywhere. I once heard a totally awesome natural harmonic and I ran to find it, but it was actually Big Ben. The Glastonbury festival had been downgraded and was now a Tupperware convention. The Royal College of Music was now offering cooking classes.

And good luck on with the internet man, there's nobody there either.

BTW; the Queen can totally shred.


Right...

If you people are done with all the joking/general unhelpfullness i'll tell you why I can't find any other musicians.

It's because i'm 15 and greatly dislike socialising. There's no one at my school who even likes metal, let alone anyone who can play to the standard i'm looking for. So please, remove your head from the arse/sky or if your arse is in the sky then remove your arse from the sky and try being helpful. If not you can get back to whatever it is you actually do to help around here.

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Do you mean online projects or meeting musicians on the web to play IRL with?


To clear this up, i'm looking for a real band to play with. I do occasionally make songs/help people with songs on a different forum but I want to actually play live music. Sorry if I wasn't too clear.

EDIT:

CT:

Thanks that's really helpful. My main worry is that i'll end up with some physco or someone who isn't as good as he says he is. Is it uncorteous to ask for some sort of preview of their playing?
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If you people are done with all the joking/general unhelpfullness i'll tell you why I can't find any other musicians.

It's because i'm 15 and greatly dislike socialising.


If you greatly dislike socialising, it's going to be incredibly hard to form a band of any sort. A band at its most basic level is a group of people. If the people don't get along, the band will fall apart, no matter how good the music is that is being made.

Although I highly doubt that nobody in your school likes/plays metal, you still have the option to look for players in other schools who can.
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#12
TS: I personally don't see much coming out of an online collaboration, but it's possible. Me and my old singer arranged and recorded a song over MSN messenger once actually haha, but that was an extraordinary example.
Of course, it is perfectly normal to ask someone for a preview of their playing. Nobody should expect you to just take their own word for their abilities.
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If you greatly dislike socialising, it's going to be incredibly hard to form a band of any sort. A band at its most basic level is a group of people. If the people don't get along, the band will fall apart, no matter how good the music is that is being made.

Although I highly doubt that nobody in your school likes/plays metal, you still have the option to look for players in other schools who can.


When I say that I dislike socialising it means that I don't often go and meet new people. I don't know many people and the majority of my age are more interested in parties and girls then making serious music. I can get along with people, I just don't actively seek out new people.

You know little about London I see. This isn't the 70's and 80's anymore. No one in my school listens to true metal, I am sure. 100% sure and even if they do few have the ability i'm looking for. I don't know people from outside school. Do you know how precise it is to look for a teenage band playing real metal in West London is? Kids don't listen to real metal for the most part anymore. The internet is kind of the only place to find them now.
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When I say that I dislike socialising it means that I don't often go and meet new people. I don't know many people and the majority of my age are more interested in parties and girls then making serious music. I can get along with people, I just don't actively seek out new people.

You know little about London I see. This isn't the 70's and 80's anymore. No one in my school listens to true metal, I am sure. 100% sure and even if they do few have the ability i'm looking for. I don't know people from outside school. Do you know how precise it is to look for a teenage band playing real metal in West London is? Kids don't listen to real metal for the most part anymore. The internet is kind of the only place to find them now.



Wow, and you dare tell people to pull their heads out of their asses? Man, how the irony hasn't killed you yet is way beyond me.

See, the problem is that you're a closed minded, elitist little snob, with a bad attitude. Why people aren't crawling out of the wood work to work with such a clearly miserable little brat is beyond me, because as we all know, people just love being around negativity.
You don't like meeting new people? Well, get used to playing by (or with) yourself, because even assuming you find some like minded twits to make music with, the only way to succeed is to network. And guess what? Nobody cares how many friends you have on facebook, if you're an awkward, pimply slob in person.
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Wow, and you dare tell people to pull their heads out of their asses? Man, how the irony hasn't killed you yet is way beyond me.

See, the problem is that you're a closed minded, elitist little snob, with a bad attitude. Why people aren't crawling out of the wood work to work with such a clearly miserable little brat is beyond me, because as we all know, people just love being around negativity.
You don't like meeting new people? Well, get used to playing by (or with) yourself, because even assuming you find some like minded twits to make music with, the only way to succeed is to network. And guess what? Nobody cares how many friends you have on facebook, if you're an awkward, pimply slob in person.


I'm sorry, you don't know anything about me. I've shown sincerity to people who have been helpful/not rude and all you've done nothing. Alan's first post was rude and presumptive and I called him out on that.

There's no irony at all.

You know nothing about me or my life, I simply asked a question and expected some decent feedback (particularly from a moderator) instead I get flamed for being lazy. Elitist? Where did you get that idea? Because I don't like playing music with people who aren't up to a certain standard? Because I play metal? Close minded? Where did you get this idea? I didn't even mention facebook.

You aren't hardcore, tough or any of the things your posts make you seem. You're just rude and unhelpful. I'm trying to find reasons as to why you're actually in this forum if all you're going to do is insult me.
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I'm sorry, you don't know anything about me. I've shown sincerity to people who have been helpful/not rude and all you've done nothing. Alan's first post was rude and presumptive and I called him out on that.

There's no irony at all.

You know nothing about me or my life, I simply asked a question and expected some decent feedback (particularly from a moderator) instead I get flamed for being lazy. Elitist? Where did you get that idea? Because I don't like playing music with people who aren't up to a certain standard? Because I play metal? Close minded? Where did you get this idea? I didn't even mention facebook.

You aren't hardcore, tough or any of the things your posts make you seem. You're just rude and unhelpful. I'm trying to find reasons as to why you're actually in this forum if all you're going to do is insult me.


I help those who help themselves. You've said yourself that despite living in a huge city with a gigantic music scene, you don't like being sociable. We're insulting you because you've said some incredibly stupid things.
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I help those who help themselves. You've said yourself that despite living in a huge city with a gigantic music scene, you don't like being sociable. We're insulting you because you've said some incredibly stupid things.


You have no idea about London. London is a huge city sure but it can't simply be shoved together like that. London's metal scene is tiny for starters, secondly not everyone from London lives near to me. London's music scene consists of wannabe popstars trying to become the next big thing or indie bands trying to copy every other type of band there is. This is not the 60's, 70's and 80's anymore. The 'london is the musical capital' idea is nonsense. You don't think i'm helping myself? I'm asking about setting up bands via the internet. Is that not helping myself? You have no idea about who I am and know nothing about me.

I have minor autism, I find it difficult to socialise/connect with people. Oh, and in case you were wondering, yes it's been diagnosed by a real doctor from an early age. I have difficulties with people but desperately want to be in a real band. Yet you insult me for trying to meet people? Come on figure it out. I'm not negative, in fact i'm hardly any of the things you mentioned rudely about me. I remember when UG was a fairly nice place to be, people were helpful and didn't try to come in with a hardcore E-attitude to insult people.

You help people who help themselves.. I.E. you don't help anyone.

Would you care to quote me on these 'incredibly stupid things'? I can think of quite a few up your end.
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You know little about London I see.


I can't see it from the eyes of a shy kid, but I do know facts.

People move to London in the hopes of making it big in music. A lot of popular Aussie musicians see moving to London as the next step in their career. Many music labels have central bases in London. London has a massive population, increasing the chances of running into someone with the same music tastes 100% possible. A simple google search for "london metal music" reveals a massive list of metal organisations, magazines and bands.

The truth is that if you can't find anyone in a place like that, you're obviously not looking hard enough. One of my bands broke up because the singer/songwriter wanted to move to London and form a band there. He's now gigging weekly.

So my post wasn't rude, it's just truthful. You're looking for someone to answer "yeah man London sux for metal!", but it's not true.

Edit: This post came in before you mentioned autism.

Although you may find it a challenge to relate to people with autism, all the autistic musicians that I have met have been absolutely awesome. This one bassist I played in a cover band was just insane, truely the best bass player I have ever met. He could play songs by ear perfectly. I saw him once do a jam with a girl who was playing classical music, a piece he had never heard before. Not only did he stay with all the changes, he created basslines that harmonised and intertwined with the melody of a classical piece. Crazy!

I'm not the only person who has been impressed by autistic musicians, and so whenever you play with experienced players and it becomes obvious that you are autistic, they will treat you with upmost respect.
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I can't see it from the eyes of a shy kid, but I do know facts.

People move to London in the hopes of making it big in music. A lot of popular Aussie musicians see moving to London as the next step in their career. Many music labels have central bases in London. London has a massive population, increasing the chances of running into someone with the same music tastes 100% possible. A simple google search for "london metal music" reveals a massive list of metal organisations, magazines and bands.

The truth is that if you can't find anyone in a place like that, you're obviously not looking hard enough. One of my bands broke up because the singer/songwriter wanted to move to London and form a band there. He's now gigging weekly.

So my post wasn't rude, it's just truthful. You're looking for someone to answer "yeah man London sux for metal!", but it's not true.


Yeah in hope of making it. I am after metal, you don't 'make it' in metal, you play some awesome music and that's it. I don't care for labels or indie. Also, the population comment also makes little sense. London is pretty huge and amongst the huge population there are so many cultures and sub-cultures etc. etc. I'm not interested in becoming a grime artist or an indie guitarist/bassist. If you find me a 'true' (must be true, I hear the -core scene here is thriving ) teenage heavy metal band in West London i'll bow down and call you my master. The fact is you won't do it, heavy metal is alive and kicking all over the internet.. but in the real world. Please, it's like finding a needle in a haystack.

Not trying hard enough? Am I not trying now? I started this thread to try and get information about finding people to play with. I joined up with a guitar course to try and see if I could find someone to play with. Ziltch, there weren't any teenagers on it and none of them liked metal. How old is your singer? What music does he play? I'm pretty sure he's not a kid trying to play traditional metal.

And your post was rude. Sarcasm was totally unneccesary and pretty arrogant assuming you knew all the various details. Maybe you could try being more like CT and acting like a moderator. Just a suggestion.
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Here's some steps you can take;

1. Identify what you mean by "true metal". It's an extremely broad statement.

2. Decide whether you want to be in an originals band or a cover band. With your extremely narrow definition of "true metal" I will guess that you don't listen to many different types of bands and it may be in your interest to make a Tribute band.

3. Trying hard is more than making a post on a web page stating that there is no "True Metal" band in one of the centres of music for the world. It's actually getting out into your local community and meeting other people.

4. It's good that you've set some goals for your career. However limiting it to not include "labels" or "indie" can be detrimental. Watch the documentary "Dig!" for what happens.
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Here's some steps you can take;

1. Identify what you mean by "true metal". It's an extremely broad statement.

2. Decide whether you want to be in an originals band or a cover band. With your extremely narrow definition of "true metal" I will guess that you don't listen to many different types of bands and it may be in your interest to make a Tribute band.

3. Trying hard is more than making a post on a web page stating that there is no "True Metal" band in one of the centres of music for the world. It's actually getting out into your local community and meeting other people.

4. It's good that you've set some goals for your career. However limiting it to not include "labels" or "indie" can be detrimental. Watch the documentary "Dig!" for what happens.


1, True metal is broad.. I think I mentioned that I wanted to play heavy/trad metal earlier. I say true metal because my greatest worry is that i'll get stuck with someone who wants to play nu metal or metalcore which i'm greatly apposed to.

2, I listen to all types of bands, really I do. Hip Hop, Funk, Metal. Honestly, i'm very open minded when it comes to music. However as a live band I want to play metal. That's always been my goal.

3, I just struggle, okay? Difficult to explain. PC froze last time I tried to in my edit lol.

4, okay.

See this is the kind of help i'm after. Genuine guides, whilst what you may have said earlier may be true (though put slightly rudely imo) it was useless to me.
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the arctic monkeys were discovered on the internet, but were already a band, not a band formed OVER the internet if thats what you mean.
#23
Okay, so now you've identified that you like a broad range of metal, identify whether you want to be in an originals band or a tribute band. Put up a "guitarist available" on local websites and area listing the bands you want to sound like (your influences).

Metal is extremely competitive, I don't even want to comprehend how hard it would be to get forward in the industry.
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#24
OK you live in the UK and are whining about true metal. ACHEM
Viking skull, Orange Goblin, Electric Wizard, Airbourne... Hmmm So pretty much all of today's traditional heavy metal underground and uprising scene is happening. Ever read Classic Rock Magazine or Kerrang! both based in UK.

It's understandable that you have social problems but what YOU need to understand is that being a musician is all about being social. If you are cold and refuse to meet and play with new people, not only will you have no-one to play with, but beyond that if you can't be social around people your jams and songs will be hard to arrange, sound too loose or too rigid. All aspects will be reflected in your music.
You're a 15 year old kid who listens to heavy metal. No offense, but that happens alot around these forums... take a good look at yourself mate...
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OK you live in the UK and are whining about true metal. ACHEM
Viking skull, Orange Goblin, Electric Wizard, Airbourne... Hmmm So pretty much all of today's traditional heavy metal underground and uprising scene is happening. Ever read Classic Rock Magazine or Kerrang! both based in UK.

It's understandable that you have social problems but what YOU need to understand is that being a musician is all about being social. If you are cold and refuse to meet and play with new people, not only will you have no-one to play with, but beyond that if you can't be social around people your jams and songs will be hard to arrange, sound too loose or too rigid. All aspects will be reflected in your music.
You're a 15 year old kid who listens to heavy metal. No offense, but that happens alot around these forums... take a good look at yourself mate...


You're kind of just repeating what that other guy said before.

I don't refuse to meet new people, I have difficulty meeting new people. I can't help that, honestly.

Also, you over-estimate the size of true metal. Most kids my age who listen to 'heavy metal' really just listen to nu metal or metalcore. Yes, many people my age do listen to true metal here but I swear I have never met anyone my age (even on the internet) who lives in London and listens to true metal. I'm one of those 'hardcore' metalheads. By that I don't mean hardcore as in 'tuff guyz' I mean that I search deep into it and listen to weird stuff. Kerrang and Classic Rock magazine don't really do anything for me. I'm subscribed to Terrorizer. The majority of true metal is listened to by unnaturally hairy men who are 20+ years old. That's all I ever see at gigs ever, endless hair, it's terrifying.
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Okay, so now you've identified that you like a broad range of metal, identify whether you want to be in an originals band or a tribute band. Put up a "guitarist available" on local websites and area listing the bands you want to sound like (your influences).

Metal is extremely competitive, I don't even want to comprehend how hard it would be to get forward in the industry.


Sorry for the double post but my PC will crash if I edit it in.

That's exactly what i've been thinking about doing! That's why I posted here, I just wanted to check if that was a good route to take. Originals and covers, not a strict cover band but of course i'd like to play other bands' songs.

I don't care about industry or any of that crap. I just want to play awesome, beautiful metal music. Everyday on my bike on the way to school I dream about being on-stage. There is NOTHING I want to do more. Perhaps you don't understand or perhaps you do but I have difficulties with stuff like this, always have, always will. People are just getting in my face without knowing the full situation.

I believe as Dream Evil put it..

'Don't need no flashy house, no car or ugly wife, the only thing I want is what my parents don't.'

All I want is to make music, it's all i'm good at, all I think of.
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#27
In that case you should have started saying "I want to meet new band mates in London, what are some ways to do that".

Threads made around here whining about a "lack of musicians in their area" are treated very poorly, as you have found out.

But hopefully you have found something out along the way.
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In that case you should have started saying "I want to meet new band mates in London, what are some ways to do that".

Threads made around here whining about a "lack of musicians in their area" are treated very poorly, as you have found out.

But hopefully you have found something out along the way.


http://www.joinmyband.co.uk/classifieds/ad.php?t=78247

This is my ad. What do you think?

The thread wasn't made to whine about that. the thread was made to ask about the internet. It was hijacked by people who picked out that point. Either way, I certainly never 'whined' about it.
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The ad looks good, but I'd remove the part about "no commercial success", it implies that you aren't looking for serious musicians.
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#30
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I don't refuse to meet new people, I have difficulty meeting new people. I can't help that, honestly.


This is not true.

You can work on your behaviour and change it. If you would rather not have as much difficulty meeting new people, work on it. It'll obviously help with musical networking and life in general.
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the thread was made to ask about the internet.
Well it took 23 minutes on join my band to get a response... what do you think about the internet now?

It may not be what your looking for... but still.
#32
I agree with Damascus 100%

IMO, the only way you can't change anything about yourself is if you haven't already given your full effort. In your case you haven't done much at all so there's a lot of things that you can do. Not to be rude, but it doesn't sound like you've done anything except assume. You never really know until you get yourself out there and do something about it.
#33
Mr isabiggles, despite the fact that you claim to be bad at socialising, I have evidence to the contrary.

Through this thread you have understood the objections against you and addressed them in a mature, thought out way. You have also identified your own flaws and dealt with them. If you are in fact 15, your writing style and expression of ideas is fantastic. You have adapted to ideas put to you and dealt with them.

That's a pretty hardcore social skill set you have there. If you are in fact autistic, you've obviously identified your flaws and learnt to deal with them through other methods.

I think that because you were diagnosed at an early age, people might have been trying to stop you from doing things because of your "problem" and this has severely affected your confidence. This lack of confidence has affected your socialising, not a condition that you exhibit no signs of anymore.

Remember, Eminem was diagnosed with brain damage when he was young too, which resulted in similar effects.

And you're not the only one with a condition as such.

Confession: I have brain damage, but notices anymore
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#34
wtf is this? saturday morning special?


...merry kung fu to all, and to all a good fight...
#35
Alan just unleashed so much epic win that i think only a roundhouse kick from an 90s TV star could stop him

Anyone watch Married with kids?
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Alan just unleashed so much epic win that i think only a roundhouse kick from an 90s TV star could stop him

Anyone watch Married with kids?


great show.
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Mr isabiggles, despite the fact that you claim to be bad at socialising, I have evidence to the contrary.

Through this thread you have understood the objections against you and addressed them in a mature, thought out way. You have also identified your own flaws and dealt with them. If you are in fact 15, your writing style and expression of ideas is fantastic. You have adapted to ideas put to you and dealt with them.

That's a pretty hardcore social skill set you have there. If you are in fact autistic, you've obviously identified your flaws and learnt to deal with them through other methods.

I think that because you were diagnosed at an early age, people might have been trying to stop you from doing things because of your "problem" and this has severely affected your confidence. This lack of confidence has affected your socialising, not a condition that you exhibit no signs of anymore.

Remember, Eminem was diagnosed with brain damage when he was young too, which resulted in similar effects.

And you're not the only one with a condition as such.

Confession: I have brain damage, but notices anymore


The internet is different for me.. I don't feel like i'm talking to people, rathe responding to written words. In real life I tend not to do so well but.. whatever. My writing just comes from endless trawling on the internet. I tend to type more than talk so find it easier to express what I want to say this way.

Oh and I do still have signs of autism. Remember it's not severe autism. I've learnt to 'fit in' with people etc. but still have the incredibly annoying, pointless symptons. They don't effect me so much. A lot of people claim or want to have autism because they think they'll be the next buckethead. It's really not like that at all.

I've gotten two replies.

One is from a metalcore band which.. i'll frankly say i'm not interested in playing with particularly as they list Trivium as one of their influences. I'm looking into another one though. I can't help but notice that the entire world seems to want a bassist to play for them

Also, the thread OP seems to have been misinterpreted. I am not saying that there are no musicians to play with in London. I am saying that because of my pants social activity the best way to look would be via the internet but first I wanted to see if that was a good idea.
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I feel some of your pain pal, i play older music, older than me anyways and everyone has either never heard of the music or just can't be botherd playing it, most people i know play metal or something acoustic and sing songy. I need a band to...

But seriously, you should definately going out there, being a musician, an artist, you need to get out from your shell. Meet new people, be expandible, play your best! Although this sounds easier said than done, its the other way about. if your a naturally freindly person, this becomes more and more easier each time.

CONFESSION: i have aspergours, probably what you said you have, its a mild autism but with social difficulties, emotion showing is hard, etc.
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I've gotten two replies.

One is from a metalcore band which.. i'll frankly say i'm not interested in playing with particularly as they list Trivium as one of their influences. I'm looking into another one though. I can't help but notice that the entire world seems to want a bassist to play for them


Hey it's 2 more than when you started the thread though.

Also with these ads, don't take their influences too seriously. Quite often when people list their influences, they won't sound anything like them. I have no idea why. I could also infer from Trivium that the guys are into the more popular metal bands in general and you could find a lot of common ground to make music.
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Hey it's 2 more than when you started the thread though.

Also with these ads, don't take their influences too seriously. Quite often when people list their influences, they won't sound anything like them. I have no idea why. I could also infer from Trivium that the guys are into the more popular metal bands in general and you could find a lot of common ground to make music.


I'm getting some options.. right now I have..

1, Deathcore/metalcore band who just need a bassist (i.e. me) to complete the line up and have a practice space etc.

2, a random guy a bit older who asked if I was interested on facebook, still no reply.

3, Another bassist who appears to have a high skill level, good attitude and similar music taste. However no full line up and he lives in South East London which is quite far away from where I live.

Maybe some more will come, maybe not. I'll probably just wait until I get replies from those last two but I really don't want to make a bad decision and leave after one practice.
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your just a simpleton that cant understand strategy apparently.

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all hail king of the penis sucking(i said balls. you said dick for some reason?) Isabiggles
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