#1
Pit, I'm not coping with life well at the moment,

My girlfriend who I've had something for for some time and I recently started dating, but she claims not to be ready for a relationship and cant explain why, but says she still likes me, it just feels as though it's too shit to be happening. I know people say not to get to caught up with girls, but it IS hard, no one can deny that (especially when you have no desire for any other girl).

And before someone says "RT", there's more.

I feel more distant from my friends that I ever have before, they all invite me to gatherings, parties what not, but I feel less of a connection with them.

Honestly, all I feel like doing right now is getting fucked off my face on drugs (sounds tragic I know =( but I dont actually like this feeling so..) to escape, my usual limit is acid and e, but I don't give a shit any more.

So pit, how can I just...make myself feel better?

no tl;dr.
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#2
You have friends. Just be happy with that. You aren't on UG all day everyday.

Don't be a 12 year old.
#4
Find the problematic areas in your life and figure out how to altar them. Tell her how you feel about her, if she still declines, then you gotta move forward dude. It's just too depressing and draining to continue to care. Yeah, it is hard to move on with women everyones gotta deal with that shit.

At least you have friends dude. Make an attempt to socialize or you're going to becomes a loner.
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#5
Look it seems like your current mood is caused by this girl, which means your whole world really isn't collapsing though it may feel like that. Ride out the feelings man, it's never too much. The things human beings can withstand is incredible - in fact maybe you should spend some time getting perspective by learning about great things people have done in the past. When these emotions part with you a little more, you'll most likely feel more able to move on. They do pass. Things never stay the same so hang in there and you'll see.
#6
Get an IPhone they have an App for that... it's called the Prozapp.

Seriously, stop self medicating and see a doctor, the more you resist and continue finding you own pharmacist the worse you are gonna get. Stop the cycle now before you find yourself unable to...

I'll say a prayer for you...
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#7
I know what you're talking about as far as the girl thing goes and at the moment it probably does suck, but although you don't realize it right now, there are more girls out there (sounds overused but its true, i was in the same situation qutie recently actually). and as far as the drug thing goes, i think in your situation, drugs aren't the right choice and wont be beneficial for you. What you need to do is face reality instead of masking it and trying to forget about it through drugs.You should see counselor or talk to someone you trust. Life goes on my friend, so just try to keep your head above water and eventually you will find land.
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#8
So you have friends, a girlfriend and a vibrant social life? Yep your life sucks so much more than mine and those whiney Africans too.
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#9
I ****ing hate when girls do that. Then two weeks later they're dating some other guy

But yeah, there's plenty of stank puss out in the ocean
#10
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Don't be a 12 year old.


Is it possible for you to shut the hell up? Your response was decent until this little gem.

Shrinks! Shrinks! Shrinks! Help yourself out. Nothing is worth ending your life over at your age and in your position.
#11
Dude, I know how you feel. It really does suck and there isn't much you can do but forget about those kind of things and move on. For this I saw a doctor and got Lexapro prescribed for myself and it helps a ton. Just take it when you feel depressed or anxious and it just makes you feel relaxed and feel good.

Once you get over your problems, dont think about them again. It can make things miserable. And thasts really where things began for me.
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#12
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Is it possible for you to shut the hell up? Your response was decent until this little gem.


Is it possible for you to not get worked up at one comment? I told him not to be a 12 year old because, 12 year olds have angst. Which seems to be his problem.
#13
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Is it possible for you to not get worked up at one comment? I told him not to be a 12 year old because, 12 year olds have angst. Which seems to be his problem.

I'd say that's more the 14/15 mark but anyway... it was insensitive.
#14
i really fail to see a problem that would truly call for you to "throw it in"
im gonna go with what Le_bunny said. it probably has more to do with this girl than you think. When i was with my last girlfriend i completely alienated myself because my she made me so utterly depressed (she avoided me and completely ignored me, which made me feel like shit) that i couldn't stand to show my depressing self to my friends. problem was solved though (she dumped me! i had planned on dumping her within the next week, so she beat me to the punch but i was still relieved). The girl before that meant a lot to me at the time but it was mostly the physical aspect of it, and it got it confused with emotion so i was depressed when she just decided that she was going to move on to some other guy.

trust me, you will get over her and you'll less alienated from your friends. it's just that your feelings for this girl are effecting your feelings outside of the relationship and that includes around your friends (if that makes any sense).

i guarantee that you and i have both been through a lot worse. and if you haven't well you can be damn sure that you're going to be
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#15
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Is it possible for you to not get worked up at one comment? I told him not to be a 12 year old because, 12 year olds have angst. Which seems to be his problem.


What he is describing sounds more like the onset of clinical depression... loss of interest in friends, gatherings, etc. Angst? When his thread title is "I feel like throwing it in"?
#16
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Find the problematic areas in your life and figure out how to altar them. Tell her how you feel about her, if she still declines, then you gotta move forward dude. It's just too depressing and draining to continue to care. Yeah, it is hard to move on with women everyones gotta deal with that shit.

At least you have friends dude. Make an attempt to socialize or you're going to becomes a loner.


I see your point about the girl, but she says she still has feelings for me, so it's just frustrating. But I'll attempt to move forward.

Meanwhile with friends, I AM glad I have them and DO socialise, but I no longer feel as though I can tell them as much as I used to, and I don't know why =\

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Look it seems like your current mood is caused by this girl, which means your whole world really isn't collapsing though it may feel like that. Ride out the feelings man, it's never too much. The things human beings can withstand is incredible - in fact maybe you should spend some time getting perspective by learning about great things people have done in the past. When these emotions part with you a little more, you'll most likely feel more able to move on. They do pass. Things never stay the same so hang in there and you'll see.


It could be caused by her, but I felt how I do about my friends for a bit before she told me she couldn't be in a relationship, so I have no idea what that's about =( What do you mean about learning about great things people have done in the past though? Please expand?

@TOMMYB I dont have a girlfriend...that's the point.

Thank you for support others, it's getting hard to reply to all the posts :P But for those who said to see someone, it'd just be hard to tell parents you know?

And Jacob, I know it sounds angsty, but if you fucking must know, I have minor depression.
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Nonsense. I'm telling you, nothing makes the fairer sex swoon like an extensive knowledge of siege weaponry and medieval battle tactics.
#17
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So you have friends, a girlfriend and a vibrant social life? Yep your life sucks so much more than mine and those whiney Africans too.

Did you really read the post?
#18
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I'd say that's more the 14/15 mark but anyway... it was insensitive.


I apologize if I said it in an offending manner, but really I can safely bet that this is just angst.