#1
Ok, so if anyone wants to help me with a personal predicament, please read this. If you are just going to leave some dickish comment, please don't bother and just leave. I really need help...

Ok. For the longest time, I've been trying to understand my parents. I've seriously taken everything they've said into consideration, and lived by what they tought me. The tought so long ago that. "Pain is subjective. What may be painful for you might not be painful for someone else and vice versa. Treat everyone with the same respect as you would want to be treated."

My parents CONSTANTLY contradict that by saying I'm an emotional mess and I get frustrated or upset over the supidest things.

Obviously, in my mind, I'm like:

I don't want to turn this into a relationship discussion, but it involves my girlfriend. See, we've been seeing each other for about 3 months now, and we've "officially been together" for a month today. We've gotten pretty close. Well, on December 22nd, I found out she was leaving the following day for the duration of my Christmas break. Like anyone else would be, I was pretty pissed off and upset because we couldn't spend Christmas and New Years Eve/Day with each other, the most family oriented holidays of the year.

But I tell my parents about it, I'm just whining and I need to get over it.

Be honest with me, you would be pretty pissed off too.

Another thing is Facebook. Oh my God, I cannot STAND Facebook anymore. You put any thing up as your status that someone doesn't like, they'll give you hell for it. Today is me and my girlfriend's 1 month anniversary. So, I put something up as my status along the lines of "1 month down, forever to go. ", And all the comments I got said "Wow, that sounds pretty emo." Obviously I'm going to retaliate, and my parents give me hell for that! I just don't get it...

Am I taking all of this wrong? I mean, obviously if my dad calls me an emo and says I'm a useless piece of shit, obviously he's right? (Also, people look at me weirdly all the time because their parents don't use such derogatory terms towards them. My girlfriend is scared to come over to my house because of my dad.)

Sorry for the blog post, so to make this some sort of a discussion, can anyone help me understand why people do this to ONLY me? I swear, if anyone says ANYTHING about their significant other on Facebook, 1245 people like the status with 5434564 comments saying "Awe!!!" and so on, but if I say anything, it's always a negative comment.

Why? I need serious help, Pit.
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11/28/09
#2
Your dad seems like a dick. Although we cannot judge any of this because you will be either concious or unconsciously bias. Sorry man but I can't tell you anything because I only know your side of the story. Although I am a strong believer that your parents should definitely treat you with respect; verbally and in parenting(setting rules, punishments etc.) as long as you do the same to them. But either way they shouldn't really swear at you, its not a good way to show anger to children.
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#4
Puberty?

Your emotions are all messed up dude, get over it, stop moaning
sounds harsh but it needs to be said

oh and yeah... "Relationship Thread"
#5
Grow a pair.

Problem solved.
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#6
I'd be upset over the christmas thing but then I'd realise it was her decision or something she was forced into. Do you still feel pissed when you think about that or the facebook thing now? Or is it just in the moment kinda thing? If it's in the moment I wouldn't worry. If it's on your mind for a while and you don't calm down...There's a problem.
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#7
No matter what all the "grown-ups" in the Pit are saying, parents aren't always right, and being young doesn't make you stupid/immature. And your parents cannot abuse you. keep that in mind.
Everyone, especially teenagers, gets upset about petty things from time to time, so don't worry. You have every right to be upset.
#8
From what I see, your parents are probably trying to make you work harder on stuff or to grow up.

My parents sometimes makes remarks about me being lazy and stuff, well, just my mother, but it's nothing really and she only says it sometimes, my parents don't whine for anything on me since they know I'm mature.

What bothers me though, is that you said that they would whine over your emotions. Seriously? I would understand if they called you a lazy ass, but direct insulting? They're kinda wrong on that. Even my parents never did that, and yet they still don't do it with my little brother who's in puberty.
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I'd be upset over the christmas thing but then I'd realise it was her decision or something she was forced into. Do you still feel pissed when you think about that or the facebook thing now? Or is it just in the moment kinda thing? If it's in the moment I wouldn't worry. If it's on your mind for a while and you don't calm down...There's a problem.


Yes... I do feel pissed about the facebook thing. Because that happens to EVERY status I post... Because they all involve my girlfriend. I think thats all it is.
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Last edited by KGB_INC at Dec 28, 2009,
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Yes... I do feel pissed about the facebook thing. Because that happens to EVERY status I post... Because they all involve my girlfriend. I think thats all it is.

If that's a source of negative feelings doesn't the solution seem obvious? Stop using it.
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If that's a source of negative feelings doesn't the solution seem obvious? Stop using it.


Ok, Say I DID delete my facebook. I still get everything I get on there in normal everyday life. The only place I CAN come to without being criticized is here, unfortunately.
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11/28/09
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Am I taking all of this wrong? I mean, obviously if my dad calls me an emo and says I'm a useless piece of shit, obviously he's right? (Also, people look at me weirdly all the time because their parents don't use such derogatory terms towards them. My girlfriend is scared to come over to my house because of my dad.)

Err...no.
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Ok, Say I DID delete my facebook. I still get everything I get on there in normal everyday life. The only place I CAN come to without being criticized is here, unfortunately.


inb4 criticism. Dude, I know it's tough, but if you can, and I know this sounds super cliche, try to get into the habit of not letting it bother you, and then you won't get pissed at them, and they'll have less reason to piss you off. Worked for me.
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Ok, Say I DID delete my facebook. I still get everything I get on there in normal everyday life. The only place I CAN come to without being criticized is here, unfortunately.




and how does that make you feel?

honestly though what JohnnyV said pretty much hits the nail on the head

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#16
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Err...no.

I was being sarcastic. My bad...

And I honestly try my hardest to not let stuff bother me... Sometimes it just gets to be too much. : /
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11/28/09
#17
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I was being sarcastic. My bad...

And I honestly try my hardest to not let stuff bother me... Sometimes it just gets to be too much. : /


Yeah...obviously I don't have your parents, and can't make any judgements, but just saying, when I finally stopped giving my parents ANY reason to continue being mad at me, they pretty much stopped.
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#18
First things first... You ARE and emotional wreck, and you need to slap yourself in the face and stop caring so much about what other people or your parents think, and don't even talk about your shit with them, because they obviously aren't much help. You need to depend on yourself and no one else, and who cares if someone gives you a bad comment on facebook? Man up and grow a pair!
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#19
Dude, your dad sounds like an asshole. Be yourself and only yourself. **** everyone else. If you have a girlfriend, then you're atleast doing something right. You seem to be letting your emotions out too much though. Try to stand up for your self and be more assertive.
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First things first... You ARE and emotional wreck, and you need to slap yourself in the face and stop caring so much about what other people or your parents think, and don't even talk about your shit with them, because they obviously aren't much help. You need to depend on yourself and no one else, and who cares if someone gives you a bad comment on facebook? Man up and grow a pair!


First things first, who are you to judge who and what I am? This is the best example I have. Criticism from people who don't even know who I am.

I don't give a shit about what people think about me. I honestly don't.

But hey, let's have everyone you know, including your own fucking family abuse you and your emotions every day of your life, and lets see how you turn out. Then I'll tell you to "man up and grow a pair", and you'll realize it's not that easy.

I came here asking for people to help me understand, not for more of what I get everywhere else, so fuck off.

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Dude, your dad sounds like an asshole. Be yourself and only yourself. **** everyone else. If you have a girlfriend, then you're atleast doing something right. You seem to be letting your emotions out too much though. Try to stand up for your self and be more assertive.


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11/28/09
Last edited by KGB_INC at Dec 28, 2009,
#21
I assume its your friends that are giving you shit, don't worry about that I know my friends and I are ALWAYS talking shit to each other whether it be facebook or in real life its no big deal.
Your dad does sound out of line but it depends on the context it was said.
Was it sarcastic? If not, he is completely in the wrong.
Seriously, the best thing you can do is not let it bother you and realize that its not true.
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I assume its your friends that are giving you shit, don't worry about that I know my friends and I are ALWAYS talking shit to each other whether it be facebook or in real life its no big deal.
Your dad does sound out of line but it depends on the context it was said.
Was it sarcastic? If not, he is completely in the wrong.
Seriously, the best thing you can do is not let it bother you and realize that its not true.

No, he's dead serious about everything he says.

And I know it's not true, just doesn't really help me with all the other shit I get...
KLH & KGB
11/28/09
#24
Your dad sounds like my dad, except I don't even have a girlfriend. He just swears at me because he can.
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#25
Ts, You sound extremely childish and whiny.

Seriously, follow your dads advice and quit bitchin about everything.

About the facebook thing: Negative people attract negativity. Just think that over for a bit..
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Sorry for the blog post, so to make this some sort of a discussion, can anyone help me understand why people do this to ONLY me? I swear, if anyone says ANYTHING about their significant other on Facebook, 1245 people like the status with 5434564 comments saying "Awe!!!" and so on, but if I say anything, it's always a negative comment.

Why? I need serious help, Pit.


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Get a hold of yourself, you're an Evil Bastard goddammit!
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