what is the best way to work out the strum pattern for songs. i can never find any online and i try to listen to it but i can never find out what it is.

anyone got any tips on how to find out what it is because i think it is really holding me back.
You need to focus on the feel of the song. If you're trying to pick it out in like an academic mindset you're going to have trouble. Just try to match up with the feel of it. Once you're in the groove you'll do it without having to try.
Yeah, just go with whatever sounds best to you. No need to copy it exactly like the original song, just make it sound good
"I'm not retreating, I'm initiating an offensive manouvre in the opposite direction!"
it depends on the type of music your going for.
Metal has alot of galloping in it