Poll: Do you forgive being cheated on?
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View poll results: Do you forgive being cheated on?
Yes
41 18%
No way
193 82%
Voters: 234.
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#1
Reading some stuff earlier today, I realized many people end up forgiving and staying with their lover after they cheated on them.


So would you forgive and stay with the person? For the threads sake, let's say the act took place a couple of occasions and was full blown cheating, no if and or buts. Let's also say you've been with this person for a long time, and you have always believed they were your soul mate.

Personally myself, no way, once that boundary is crossed, it can never be the same. My soul mate wouldn't betray me like that.
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#5
If it's someone I love, truly, unconditionally love, they'd have to work their ass off to get me to stay with them. Even if that happens, it's hard to get over someone just because of an act.

But at what level did they cheat? Multiple affairs, one sexytime, kissed? If it's something low degreed, I'd consider it. Otherwise, no way.
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#6
its hard to say such a thing unless you're in that situation. its never personally happened to me, but its happened ot people i know and am always shocked when someone says they are staying with that person... i'm really not sure what i would do.
#9
I did the mistake of forgiving my ex, but she still did it and then left me. Um I guess I would say that if she was not going to do it again, then I would understand (we are human I guess) however if it looked like she might do it again, I'd headbutt her ass out of the door.
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#12
No, definitely not.

Everybody else I've been with has cheated on me (Not shitting you, either) and I'm quite sick of it by now. If she cheats on me, then that's it. I'm not going to look like a fool by taking her back.

Anything more than a hug is cheating in my opinion. Kissing is a definite no no, sex is like the ultimate betrayal.
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#13
Yeah, why not. I can't hold onto burdens forever.

I wouldn't be dating her anymore though, but i'd forgive her.
#15
Forgive them, sure, I'd think that's better than holding a grudge...gotta move on. But that doesn't mean I'd stay with them. If she cheats, I'm likely to forgive over time but I'll want absolutely nothing to do with her.
#17
I would punch them in the face and tell them to **** off.

Though id probably forgive them in 20 years.

Cheating should be punishable by death.
#18
If it was someone I loved (which I assume is the case), I'd forgive her without a second's thought. I believe in free(ish) love, after all, and if she wanted it, who am I to tell her otherwise?

Always assuming she wanted to stay together, of course.

And obviously things won't be the same, but I'll do my best.

Also, how can I not forgive someone I love? I could forgive them for almost anything.
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#19
I dont really know but I'm leaning towards no assuming we have an exclusive realtionship.
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#21
Well, it would depend on the ground rules set before the relationship started.


Honestly if a girl wanted to have an open relationship (as in, we are free to see other people as well) I'd be cool with that.

But, if it was understood that our relationship was supposed to be exclusive and she broke that promise, it's over. In a heartbeat.

If I can't trust a person, I sure as hell don't want to be in a relationship with them.
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#23
No. Well, from my perspective, if she cheats then that means she doesn't love me anymore so I would end the relationship there for sure.
#25
No


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#26
Quote by RobinTrower12
No. Well, from my perspective, if she cheats then that means she doesn't love me anymore so I would end the relationship there for sure.



This.


Someone who really loves a person doesn't cheat on them. No if's, and's or but's.
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#27
Ive been cheated on a LOT of times. Ive never forgiven, but then I find out they move on and end up cheating again. If you forgive a cheater, you're pathetically desperate... even if you really were in love with them, you'd be setting yourself up for failure.
#28
trust can be broken, and trust can be rebuilt. it won't be the same for a while... but if the person is truly sorry, and never does it again... i say forgive and don't forget.
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#29
It more comes down to 'why' she cheated for me. No matter what the answer the result would be a long look at the relationship and determaining whether staying in it is a good thing.

Under any circumstances I like to believe I could eventually forgive them for anything. Though immediate forgiveness is definitely not likely.
#30
If you forgive someone who cheated on you, the only reason I could see doing that is to avoid facing the fact that your love isn't true, and they may not be the one for you. Forgiving doesn't make it all better, because they could go behind your back once, so why won't they again?
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#31
I hope I would be able to. But there's a huge amount of different factors which would affect my forgiveness, or lack of.
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#32
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I would punch them in the face and tell them to **** off.

Though id probably forgive them in 20 years.

Cheating should be punishable by death.

This
#33
Undoubtedly. I'd like to think I'd be all fucking manly and fair and whatnot, but having to tell them it's over and get over them would probably just seem like unnecessary effort.
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#34
Maybe after a looooong while I can forgive,

but if someone cheats on me then that's it, I would call her every name in the book and tell her to get out of my life. I would never take back someone who cheated on me, simply because after such a thing I'll never be able to trust her again.
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#35
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its hard to say such a thing unless you're in that situation. its never personally happened to me, but its happened ot people i know and am always shocked when someone says they are staying with that person... i'm really not sure what i would do.



This, and i think its like that for most.....
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#36
Never. Really, never.
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#37
i didn't when my ex cheated on me.

actually i think it's pretty much impossible to forgive imo
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#38
I'd throw her out. Even if I was in her house.
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#39
I would, only if they begged for forgiveness and never did it again. If those requirements haven't been met, she can get her ass right on the curb.


EDIT: Of course, it's never happened to me, so I probably wouldn't forgive her, but IDK.
#40
Quote by ShaggyDan
It more comes down to 'why' she cheated for me. No matter what the answer the result would be a long look at the relationship and determaining whether staying in it is a good thing.

Under any circumstances I like to believe I could eventually forgive them for anything. Though immediate forgiveness is definitely not likely.

this is a better description of my previous post... i've taken girlfriends back, and i've kicked them to the curb. it truly matters about how you feel about the person after finding out about the cheating
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