#1
Ok I am going to try to make this as short as possible. I was in a band in highschool for 4 years. We played talent shows and small things like that. I left the band when I joined the Army. Now I am out of the army and back in my home town. I recently got a message on facebook from the lead singer of the band I was in. They had since gone thru a few lead guitarists and settled on one. He unfortunately went to prison for possession with intent. I was asked if I would be willing to play with them for a few months until they could find a suitable guitarist. The reason being they have a few gigs coming up over the next few months.

So on one hand I am thinking well this really isn't my thing anymore and I don't paricularly have a lot of room in my schedule I have a job a wife and two kids. Different from when I was in highschool.

And on the other I am thinking well its an old friend and I would love to see her make it and if it's only for a few months why not.

I could make time but I would definitely be on a tight shedule. So would you do this? And what are your thoughts.
#2
If you really want to do something, you'll make time to do it. If scheduling is a concern, make it clear at the start that you can only practice on a certain night, at a certain time to a certain time, and no more. They should be fine with this (as most bands practice this way anyway). Discuss with your wife a night that's good for her to look after the kiddies and perhaps give her a different night to pop out whilst you look after the kids. All good.
And no, Guitar Hero will not help. Even on expert. Really.
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#3
Sounds good in theory. Lol.

Keep in mind I know these people and it's a concern that they are not always as pro active as they could be. I am just concerned they will end up looking at me as a permanent solution.

But as you said as long as I am clear on it and stick to my guns no harm. I spoke with my wife she doesn't mind so long as I am not partaking in any other things associated with rock and roll lol.

On a sidenote the band leader owns a plexi I would get to play thru. So that makes it worth it lol.
#4
Meh works for me. Although you say they're not as "pro-active" as they could be, a lot should be said for any band that has stuck together for 4+ years. None of my bands have ever done that, and I've been in many, many bands.
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#5
Yeah they definitely have the drive. It's actually been almost 10 years as I was in the army for 6 after I left them.

They have some really good music IMO and I am actually excited to work with them again. I guess the motivation and drive they have kinda made me decide man if they really need me it would be a real dick move to turn them down. Especially since I don't have anything really to lose so long as I schedule it right.

So meh we will see what happens. I am sure a guitarist will turn up for them within the year until then I will have some fun with it.

Plus who knows it's been a long time they have real gigs now they grew up too these aren't the teenagers I used to play with lol.
Last edited by Dangertux at Apr 4, 2011,
#6
Give it a try. I bet your wife will totally dig it if she gets to see you do a gig. Chicks dig rock stars, even if they are married to you.

I work out a one day a week band commitment with my wife, and we still have friction over it. But then again I have one "kid" who is getting married this fall, so I am past having little ones. But those early years are critical for making a family work, so be careful and don't "F" up your family to play rock god. I spent 8 years in the Navy with a lot of deployments to crappy places around the world. It was all I could do during those years and the ones shortly after to keep a family together, and a band wasn't in the picture.

Just keep in mind what's important.
#7
First of all, thanks for your service!

I'd ask the wife. See how she feels! IF she's fine with you helping a friend, then go for it, but if she'd rather you didn't then no worries.

I'm not saying to be her b****, just that if you're concerned about how it will go now that you have a wife and children, see what they would think about it.
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#8
Well I have already done a few practices with the band since I made this post originally. We work well together and have a gig at the end of the month.

Practicing hasnt really cut into my time with the kids since its only twice a week and after they go to bed.

As far as my wife digging on the rockstar thing she has always looked at my musical interests with sort of a mild mannered neglect.

And I def feel you on the deployment thing. I missed both of my kid first Christmas and birthdays. Definitely not something I am looking to do again for any reason.