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#1
So Pit,


Maybe this is a bit over ambitious since this forum is full of musicians who, allegedly, stay in their room and never socialize, but, how do I get over this fear of approaching girls?

I'm pretty confident, as my friends tell me, but as far as talking to a group of unknown girls, well, I start thinking too much.


What does a pitbrother do?
#3
Buy a cape. Seriously.

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#5
Wingman: That's what you need. Trial and error broski. I had the same issue until I had a friend join me. It's just comes naturally after a couple times. Just see them as a friend first, not f-ck buddies.
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#6
You go up; Treat them like people, because that's what they are. Be confident and be yourself. Bam
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#8
Just practice, like anything else in life. Get out there and do it. Fail a lot, and get better at it. There's no magical tricks homie.

Good luck.
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Ok. But then what?


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#11
Capes work. Mainly all it takes is confidence. And alcohol.

But you probably should post in the relationship thread... As this is relevant to relationships and you'd get more serious replies there.
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#12
Alcohol.

No seriously, lots of alcohol

Well maybe not too much......

But then you might not be drunk enough which would again result in a lack of confidence

.........


I need a drink.
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#13
Cowboy up. Women are like sharks: they can smell fear. Conversely, they're attracted to confidence. Every girl I have ever known has agreed with this.
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#14
Just go for it, is the best advice i can give. I mean, they aren't gonna kill you, and the worst situation is that you'll look stupid but honestly, who cares? There are so many girls out there, you can't possibly fail at talking to all of them.

Trust me, you'll make good friends with them, if you aren't like the rest of these pitmonkeys...
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#16
Firstly, take care of the "thinking" bit by drinking, I know it's cliche but you seriously stop giving a toss about potential rejection after a few beers.

There's no real secret, all I did to meet people at Uni the start of the year was go up, smile, say "Hello I'm (whatever the hell your name is,) what's yours?" and then ask them about their course, but it could be school/college/work for you, just stuff that would seem like pointless small talk. You should start to feel OK about the whole thing after 5 minutes of conversation.
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this.

and not like we say you should be a wuss. its just that when you think about it this way, it just becomes easier. they'll see the part your friends see.

trust me. im pretty unfit and stuff, but i get bombshells.
#19
at first, DRINK DRINK DRINK

then eventually you won't need to turn to your alcoholism for support in talking to girls, you will have an AA group for that

cheers dude
#21
Don't overthink it; impulsiveness is key.
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#22
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Ok. But then what?

You won't even need to talk to girls with a cape on. You'll be beating them all off with an iron pole, and probably even the police a little later on.



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#23
Show them pictures of your body hair. Or better yet, show them the real thing.
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Albert Ellis (September 27, 1913 – July 24, 2007) was an American psychologist who in 1955 developed Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT).

...

Ellis had exaggerated fears of speaking in public and during his adolescence he was extremely shy around women. At age 19, already showing signs of thinking like a cognitive-behavioral therapist, he forced himself to talk to 100 women in the Bronx Botanical Gardens over a period of a month. Even though he did not get a date, he reported that he desensitized himself to his fear of rejection by women.


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#25
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You won't even need to talk to girls with a cape on. You'll be beating them all off with an iron pole, and probably even the police a little later on.



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#26
Pick a topic and then talk. I'm really socially anxious and even I pulled it off... well, actually she did most of the talking, but still.
#27
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yes, this.
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Albert Ellis (September 27, 1913 – July 24, 2007) was an American psychologist who in 1955 developed Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT).

...

Ellis had exaggerated fears of speaking in public and during his adolescence he was extremely shy around women. At age 19, already showing signs of thinking like a cognitive-behavioral therapist, he forced himself to talk to 100 women in the Bronx Botanical Gardens over a period of a month. Even though he did not get a date, he reported that he desensitized himself to his fear of rejection by women.


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Albert_Ellis_(psychologist)

Yes, but have you ever seen the chicks that go to botanical gardens?
#29
Pretend she has a dick.

...modes and scales are still useless.


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Pretend she has a dick.

Or even better approach the ones with one!
#31
Make portal references.
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#32
But in all seriousness, if you can sing Only One Word Comes To Mind by Biffy Clyro to a girl, she'll be yours for the night.

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#34
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Make portal references.


YES.


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#35
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One of my mates approaches every good looking girl he sees. He only gets about 25% of them. That's a win in my book.

Wasn't that the plot of an episode of King of the Hill? I'm pretty sure that was Boomhauer's secret to getting chicks.
#36
Ask girls stuff. Seriously, ask them anything about themselves. This way, they're doing most of the talking and it's about them so you'll learn about them and additionally it shows that you're a good listener!
#37
I've always made friends with them first. I think women are attracted to me because they're young dumb, I don't have a personality around them a lot of times, and they mistake my intentional vagueness as mystery and I become a blank canvas to them, so they paint whatever they want into my personality. It works, but I don't think it will work when I'm like 28, but young girls, they're ****ing stupid.
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#38
"Hello! My name is ________! I request your name? Oh, that's a beautiful name __________, just like yourself! Will you go eat brunch with me? I will appreciate your company. Thank you."

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I've always made friends with them first. I think women are attracted to me because they're young dumb, I don't have a personality around them a lot of times, and they mistake my intentional vagueness as mystery and I become a blank canvas to them, so they paint whatever they want into my personality. It works, but I don't think it will work when I'm like 28, but young girls, they're ****ing stupid.


Yeah, those 8 year-olds just think what they want
#40
Stop caring.
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