#1
Now there may be a thread about this already, something like "what others think about you", my search function was acting funny right now and it wasn't going through.

But this is much deeper than that.

Something that has been on my mind, or rather, dominated my mind, is the thought of how others perceive you. It's something that I've always struggled with growing up. I've always done things according to how others will think of me. It's not so much what I'm doing, or how I'm doing it, but what others are thinking of me at the time I'm doing something.

I was just wondering if anyone else has struggled with this before? I feel like I'm cooped up, waiting for the door to my cage to open, so that I can fly out and be free.

[an afterthought]

But one would argue that waiting for the door to open is pointless, because one should do something about the closed door instead of waiting for something to happen. But how does one muster up the strength to do something about the closed door? I'll just stop right there...
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#2
Well sometimes I do things that will be considered "normal" for people but I also like having my own, I guess sense of style in the way I think. I guess I do that subconsciously but most of the time I get paranoid around people and I have to find a way to be alone.
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#3
i have a very dry and sarcastic sense of humour, and so most people who don't know me too well think i'm an asshole. (though i very well could be. i'm not sure.) also, i tend to laugh when in overly-emotional situations, such as tragedies. again, most people write it off to me being a total asshole, but what i really laugh at is people's reactions to those tragedies.
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#4
I'm probably looked upon as a freak. I've got albinism, so I have white hair and pale skin.
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#5
Large loud and intimidating.
At least that's what I've been told. Don't particularly care how others perceive me.
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#6
I'm ginger, never that much of a serious guy and ever since I saw Truman Show I always think "how would other people see me doin *what I'm doin*??" so sometimes I do things differently on purpose because "it'd look better from their pov"

People prob think I'm a nutcase anyway, I'm barely serious unless I really like people or I know I can trust them
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#7
Others perceive me as kinda quite, and weird but to be honest I don't want to change it cuz that's just how my personality flows.
And I seem to attract weird people so its all good
The only thing I would change about myself is that I say the wrong thing at like the worst time possible fairly often
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#8
Wait, PAUL GILBERT ISN'T DEAD!!!!!!!

And I couldn't care less about myself. I just try to treat others how I would like to be treated and all my friends are supportive of my decisions and I'm supportive of theirs. Tis a win-win situation you see
#9
I have no idea how others perceive me. From the looks of it I don't make good impressions so I'm caring about it less and less.
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#10
Do whatever makes you happy and don't worry if other people think less of you for it.

Unless you're a pedophile, in which case you might want to keep those urges under control.
#11
Some people find me scary, i don't really know why, but if i had to guess, i think it is because i go on rants quite alot, but it is hard to make me really angry, and i don't lash out on people that i care about.
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#12
I thought I wasn't normal thinking about this sometimes... guess there is other people that think about this too.

Every time I throughly think about what others think of me, I get depressed. It's just not something I like to think about.
#13
I've been thinking about this a lot latley, usually when I'm bored at work or when I'm stoned.

It's a weird thing to come to terms with. I've got to know myself a bit better through some deep thought about the subject. At first I didn't like how people percieved me, but then I realised that wasn't actually who I am because I was high as balls and viewing myself as a completly different person. It's hard to explain.

I'm glad others have been pondering it aswell recently.
#14
People who don't know me will say that I never talk, which is true. I think my friends see me as a bit more outgoing, relaxed and funny at times but apart from that I really don't know.
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#15
Don't know how they perceive me nor do I really give a shit
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#16
It's really hard to get on in this world because of what people may or may not think about us, i guess the right attitude is somewhere inbetween "haters gonna hate" and trying to be liked...
#17
I know that most people perceive me as a loud, smartass, opiniated asshole.

But there are also people who get to know me and find out that I am actually a nice, caring and loving guy -- most of the time.

But seriously, who cares what people think about you. Be who you are, even if who you are isn't considered a positive thing. If you're a nerd, be a nerd. If you're a jerk, be a jerk. If you're a slut, be a slut.

Because if there's one thing I've learned about people, is that people are always full of shit, no matter how they appear on the outside. Everyone's full of shit.
#18
Thanks for the responses, guys. Hopefully some day I can get to that point ^
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Do whatever makes you happy and don't worry if other people think less of you for it.

Unless you're a pedophile, in which case you might want to keep those urges under control.

Why do you only take exception to pedophiles? How about people throw out the whole solipsistic / hedonistic worldview and start worrying about doing what is right or good?

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But seriously, who cares what people think about you. Be who you are, even if who you are isn't considered a positive thing. If you're a nerd, be a nerd. If you're a jerk, be a jerk. If you're a slut, be a slut.

What horrible advice. If something about you is flawed, you should seek to improve upon it.
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#20
That's why creativity is so important, because if you succeed at creating something you're happy with, the product you're left with is what understands you better than anything.
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#21
I know that what I do isn't always perceived as normal or anything but I definatly don't want to change my entire being for someone else's liking.. because isn't the whole point of someone liking you is liking you for who you are? That's my logic anyways. I know I'm not the best person and I know many people don't care much for me and I accept that. Besides, I don't really trust anyone that much in the first place so it all sorta balances itself out.

Sorry if what I said didn't make sense.
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People who don't know me will say that I never talk, which is true. I think my friends see me as a bit more outgoing, relaxed and funny at times but apart from that I really don't know.

This is pretty much exactly me too. I'm gradually getting more social, but it's a long process.
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What horrible advice. If something about you is flawed, you should seek to improve upon it.

No it's not, if you like being what you are, then why should you change to conform to what society expects you to be? What I said was hyperbolic, of course, but it's still very true.
#25
Jesus Christ, where do I start?

Mad
Weird
Awkward
Sarcastic
Cynical
Stupid
Bit of a tool

And the list goes on.
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#26
I have a relatively dry sense of humor - most of the time, my jokes are taken seriously unless I say it with an inflection so it sounds purposefully humorous or sarcastic. I modify my behaviour depending on who I am talking to, but I don't talk to any people. I tend to hide the real me because the real me isn't overly healthy. However, I have a couple of people who I'm pretty close to the "real me" with. People outside of friends perceive me as a quiet guy who avoids confrontation as much as possible
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#27
I often wonder this. But I don't want to ask, so I just assume I kick ass.
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#28
Most people just think i'm a dopey stoner, good for occasional comic relief. It kind of annoys me because it means people don't mind/quite like being around me and get a laugh out of it but don't ever ask me to come and do things.
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#30
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Because if there's one thing I've learned about people, is that people are always full of shit, no matter how they appear on the outside. Everyone's full of shit.


If what you're saying here is that basically everyone is human and flawed somehow I agree. But everyone being full of shit, I don't know. There are those who aren't, and they are the people that are worth your time. They're still only human so I agree with you. But that doesn't mean everyone is FULL of shit, so I disagree.

I also have quite dry humour. People who don't know me or have similar humour often don't get when I'm joking. Seems to be a common theme to this thread. Weird.
#31
Most think I'm quiet and smart. I am, but in the right mood I get cooky and talkative. Also, I realized that most of the things I do are because I want to put the right impression on who I am when I'm around people. Most tell themselves they don't care what others think, but in saying that, quite often they're saying they care if you care that they don't care even though they do care what you think.
#32
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No it's not, if you like being what you are, then why should you change to conform to what society expects you to be?

Being a fuck up, criminal, idiot, asshole, creep, failure, perv, spazz, imbecile, or whatever doesn't become good just because you are OK with being that way, or even worse enjoy it. Societal norms aren't arbitrary. They exist for a reason.

The fact that people have perversely distorted the concept of self improvement into some kind of evil is insanity.
#33
Some girl told a friend that I was asshole because i never talk to people in my classroom, and some other friend was angry because he thinks i never pay attention, but they don't know about my ADD