Poll: Can you bring yourself to love a mentally challenged person?
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View poll results: Can you bring yourself to love a mentally challenged person?
Yes - Explain
43 23%
No - Explain
86 46%
Don't know
56 30%
Voters: 185.
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#1
I'm watching this Chinese TVB series that's really addictive called Flower World, Flower Sister (romantic/comedy/drama). The main plot is where a guy finds out he is in love with a mentally challenged girl with the latter also having feelings for the former. When he finds out, he hates himself so much and he can't bring himself to love her. I can't imagine being in that situation but I honestly wouldn't know what to do.

What would you do?



A Clip of the first episode - sorry, no subtitles
Opening Theme

Some notes about the challenged girl in question in the above series:

- She's scared of thunder and lightening
- She takes care of her younger brother and sister by cooking and housekeeping so she's not confined etc.
- She understands a lot of things but she's just a little slow
- She makes teddy pigs as a hobby
- She understands the concepts of love and other emotions (otherwise she wouldn't have fallen for the guy)
- She knows how to read and write but I think on a slightly lower level than most
- She works at a catering establishment run by her uncle by delivering (only close proximity)
- She can use a cell phone
- She has another mentally challenged female friend so she's independent in that sense

So, I'm not talking about a seriously mentally challenged girl. You can see from the clips about the way she acts and her habits - sorry that there's no subs.
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#5
Love as in romantic love? I don't think I could.

Although I feel guilty for it now, thanks.
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#7
This series is so good and the more I watch it the more I'm finding it really difficult to answer. I'm waiting for the new episodes to air so I get to find out what happens. Stupid TVB doesn't broadcast on weekends
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#8
Romantically, no. Otherwise, probably.

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#9
How mentally challenged is she? Because I can't see a romantic relationship working out in many instances of retardation, but I'm friends with an autistic guy, he's super cool. Its much more possible to love one in a familial way. I don't think romantic love could work because it likely wouldn't be reciprocated in way that we could understand.

I'm gonna go ahead and give an uplifting, 90's sitcom-y "yes", though.
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#10
Yeah it'd be weird to romantically love someone like that. Tis the sad truth.
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#12
No. How did he not know she was mentally challenged? Lolwut
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Romantically, no. Otherwise, probably.


Well the guy ends up great friends with her and her family (only younger sister and younger brother because their parents died a long time ago). He then suddenly finds out he dreams about her also and later really loves her. It's hard to explain the difference between love like a sister/brother and romantically love someone in that situation.
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#14
Probably not. Not trying to be a dick, but I can barely make out what they're trying to say most of the time
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No. How did he not know she was mentally challenged? Lolwut


No no, he knows. That's the thing. He hates her at first though.
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#18
Nope.
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#19
Well, it depends on what you mean by "mentally challenged". Is she mildly autistic? Or is it like, full blown down syndrome?
#22
Yea if she wasn't goin uhh and durr all the time. I mean most girls I know are seem to be pretty slow anyway,
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#24
Absolutely. It all depends what love is predicated on for you. My aunt is mentally retarded (fully). I have no feelings of love or anything for her. She can't talk, doesn't understand anything, etc. But someone who's slow, but can understand things and show affection? Yeah.

But in terms of a sexual relationship, it's a tough one. For people just a little slow, or people with dyslexia and learning disabilities, yes. For people who are severely challenged, no. But mostly because there's no real reciprocity there.
#25
No, she's probably already married to Mr. F.
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#26
Depends on how far gone she is.
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#27
Probably not
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#28
I'm not going to cripple my life by forcing myself to love a tard'.


Edit: Not trying to be a prick or anything, but most special people have that ugly "I have snot running down my face, but it works out because it's tasty" look.
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#29
Love isn't a choice. You can suppress feelings but if you love someone then you can't change it.
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#30
Why not? Most of the people who has posted so far are retarded and I love you guys
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#31
I can't see why I wouldn't be able to, as long as the person is intelligent enough to have a personality. I don't love people for whether they can solve complex algebra problems or not, I love them for who they are.

But then again, I have issues in just dealing with people in the day-to-day that I have to repeat myself multiple times to, so the chance of me ever falling for someone like that is very slim.
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#32
I know it sounds bad but if I see someone in a wheelchair or obviously has something wrong with them, I won't try to make friends with them. Around my school there's all this stuff about trying to make friends with them but I can't.

I can't bring myself to have to make all the extra effort for them. I don't think it's being lazy, because who wants to have to push their friend around all the time, not go to theme parks or bike rides because they're in a wheelchair, be unable to have proper conversations with them because they can't speak properly or whatever.

Maybe it's just me but meh

edit: I don't mind small things like reminding them for pills or whatever, this applies to people with proper disabilities to such an extend you can barely communicate
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#34
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No, she's probably already married to Mr. F.


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#35
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I know it sounds bad but if I see someone in a wheelchair or obviously has something wrong with them, I won't try to make friends with them. Around my school there's all this stuff about trying to make friends with them but I can't.

I can't bring myself to have to make all the extra effort for them. I don't think it's being lazy, because who wants to have to push their friend around all the time, not go to theme parks or bike rides because they're in a wheelchair, be unable to have proper conversations with them because they can't speak properly or whatever.

Maybe it's just me but meh

edit: I don't mind small things like reminding them for pills or whatever, this applies to people with proper disabilities to such an extend you can barely communicate


BTW, people in wheelchairs =/= mentally retarded people. You basically made the assumption that all people in wheelchairs are retarded. I know a LOT of people in wheelchairs, and they are some of the smartest people I know.

Also, I've seen people who are wheelchair users ride slightly modified bikes, drive cars, get on rollercoasters, etc. Hell, I saw a guy take his wheelchair down a flight of stairs the other day because he didn't want to wait for an elevator. Try not to generalize.

OT, I'd prefer to love someone who is mostly all there mentally. There is such a big spectrum, but obviously it would be hard to love someone without a personality.
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#39
I don't see why not. If I loved someone and found out they were mentally challenged, it really wouldn't change a damn thing. I'm actually a little shocked at the poll results.
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