#1
Hey Pit, haven't been on in awhile but I am having problems and would like some advice. So I came here for some reason.

So here's my question- You and this girl are both starting college, you've been best friends since you were twelve and dated all through high school. You're just friends right now, but there are benifits sometimes . The two of you have seriously discussed the topic of eventual marriage and children and basically staying together for your entire lives.

Here's the catch. She doesn't want a relationship while in college. Basically, she is asking you to stay friends with her and watch her be with other guys for four years until you all attempt to build a life together.

You have an oppurtunity to move across the country and start your life new in April. Do you wait for her? Or do you just try to avoid the pain and run across the country to just start over?

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#2
So I'm guessing "you" is actually you...

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#3
Haha. You are very perceptive sir.
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#6
Something is a little messed up if she's willing to ask you to wait because she wants to be with other guys, but that's just me. I wouldn't.
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#7
It's not exactly that she wants to just be with other guys, she just says that she wants to live her life as an adult alone for awhile. We just graduated from high school last year, we're still learning to be grown ups. Haha.
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Hey Pit, haven't been on in awhile but I am having problems and would like some advice. So I came here for some reason.

So here's my question- You and this girl are both starting college, you've been best friends since you were twelve and dated all through high school. You're just friends right now, but there are benifits sometimes . The two of you have seriously discussed the topic of eventual marriage and children and basically staying together for your entire lives.

Here's the catch. She doesn't want a relationship while in college. Basically, she is asking you to stay friends with her and watch her be with other guys for four years until you all attempt to build a life together.

You have an oppurtunity to move across the country and start your life new in April. Do you wait for her? Or do you just try to avoid the pain and run across the country to just start over?

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I'd start over man. If she doesn't want a relationship, neither should you.
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#11
She sounds like a huge bitch to be honest. Live your life. You'll find someone better.
#12
Hopeless romantic much? Don't wait man, she wants to play the field why shouldn't you? Get as much action as you can. After all, it is college.
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#14
Tell her that if she ignores the one person who loves, cares and wants to be there for her...then she's just a dumb little kid who doesn't deserve a good guy like you. You will find someone who wants to be with you now AND in the future. Thats kind of the point of a relationship.
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#15
It isn't going to work. Don't sacrifice good opportunities for girls/guys (especially when you are so young).
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#16
I am not so sure, ive known her a while but obviously she wants to bed other men instead of me, so i guess i will move on.

Is that what you want to hear?
#20
I wouldn't wait. There's nothing to say you two won't end up together at the end of the road anyway, but if she's going with that attitude there's no way known that you should wait.
#21
Oh i forgot to add and didn't want to edit.

She is obviously testing you to see if you care about her being bedded by other men, if your not bothered prepare yourself for a long like of being cheated on
#22
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I am not so sure, ive known her a while but obviously she wants to bed other men instead of me, so i guess i will move on.

Is that what you want to hear?


I don't know what I want to hear. I am definitely leaning towards moving. I think this is the first time the Pit has been helpful
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ive won an argument with a girl but then i still lost
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I guess that's why my ass was sore when I woke up this morning.

It is now my goal to get skylerjames13 to BURN OUT
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#23
If she doesn't want a relationship, she won't be banging other men.
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#24
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Hey Pit, haven't been on in awhile but I am having problems and would like some advice. So I came here for some reason.

So here's my question- You and this girl are both starting college, you've been best friends since you were twelve and dated all through high school. You're just friends right now, but there are benifits sometimes . The two of you have seriously discussed the topic of eventual marriage and children and basically staying together for your entire lives.

Here's the catch. She doesn't want a relationship while in college. Basically, she is asking you to stay friends with her and watch her be with other guys for four years until you all attempt to build a life together.

You have an oppurtunity to move across the country and start your life new in April. Do you wait for her? Or do you just try to avoid the pain and run across the country to just start over?

Help


It's weird cause this is ALMOST exactly what happened when my g/f dumped me when she was going to college. She pretty much said the same shit about wanting to be on her own for now and make a life with me later bla bla bla

Anyways, don't waste your time waiting. Go do what feels right for you
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#25
She wants to go off and be a slut... LET HER! For the rest of her life!

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#28
Just go with it. Tell her you don't like it, but move on and date other girls. If you're going to the same college, then that's just stupid. But if you're going to different colleges, then it makes sense. Just move away, have your own life, and maybe in a few years you'll meet up again and go from there. How are you going to know if she's the one if you don't try anybody else out first?

also, she sounds slutty
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#30
Forget her and Move on. I was literally in this same situation, almost scary (12 best friends dated throughout H/S) made this mistake and have regretted it ever since, I had the chance to get out of here and I stayed for her then she met someone else there was a big argument we cussed alot then broke up and I've been F*ed in the head and cynical ever since lol

Anyway, the more grown up version is, live your life, maybe you'll end up with her maybe you won't, even though it may seem like the end of the world to break off what you have, it isn't, don't limit yourself while your so young and haven't experienced other women there's plenty of em around, and if the two of you realize after college that you want to be together then cool. If not you'll have a life established and you won't feel like you wasted years of your life for someone else.
#31
Tell her either she also waits for you, or you don't wait for her. In other words, you both go in understanding you'll start back up soon, or you walk.
#34
Tell her how you feel about what she wants to do.
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#35
Relationship Thread bro, and no don't let her treat you like a twat. ''Oh I don't want you now but after i've slept with loads of other guys we can get a nice house in the city then go to the suburbs when we're older.'' Bullshit son, have some respect, no matter how you feel about this don't let her take you for granted.