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#1
I was hanging out with my friend today we were at the mall looking at clothes stuff, and then he told me he had to tell me something important, I asked him what is it, he said that he is gay and has been for the last few years he just never had the guts to tell anyone and I am the first person that he told it to.

I'm really not sure what to do about this, I told him to tell parents but he said that his father would kill him.

Help me.
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#2
If he didn't have the guts to tell you until after a few years I doubt he's your best friend.

Also, it's you right?
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#3
Take him to straight camp. Gays are disgusting.
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#4
Y'all should make a great couple.
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#6
Give me his name and I'll tell some people for him.
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Do you need to do anything?
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#8
My best friend in elementary turned out to be gay...sucha tool. Not because he's gay, just because he's a tool.
#12
Ya that happened to me too. I was also the first person he'd told.
I didn't really care, makes no difference to me if he wants to **** dudes, in fact it just explained some of his behaviour when we were teenagers (being inexplicably unable to hold onto a girlfriend, despite being charming and handsome)

If he doesn't want to tell his parents then he shouldn't, at least not until he's financially independent. If there's any chance they would cut him off then he certainly shouldn't.

I'm really not sure what the problem is to be honest? What kind of help are you seeking? He's gay, whoop dee fucking doo.
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#13
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If he didn't have the guts to tell you until after a few years I doubt he's your best friend.


thi-- wait, what? I think that's unfair to say.
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#16
You should tell him sternly that you enjoyed your friendship but you should meet other people.
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#17
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Why exactly do you need help? What do you 'need' to do?

To help him tell more people I guess, or to stop being such a fag.
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#18
Uh oh. He's gay. Youre gonna have to go to different spots and wear gloves and masks and shit, and get him to start taking prescribed medication.

orrrrr do nothing because he's gay. So what if he's gay? It's not like he's got lyme disease or something. He just likes guys. So what?
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To help him tell more people I guess, or to stop being such a fag.

Post his name.



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#21
Rape him.
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#22
Friendzone him.

Tell him you know what it feels like going through that expect that you dont.
#23
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His anal virginity?
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#24
And you're jewish, shit happens.

But srsly, just support him as much as you can. It depends if he has a good enough relationship with his mother to confide in her first.
There's not that much you CAN do really, if not support him. Unless you fear for his safety because of his father (but i hope he isn't THAT much of a dick), he has every right to be who he is. If he isn't going to hide it he should stand up to his father.

IDK, it depends a lot on the dynamics of his family tho :/
#25
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To help him tell more people I guess, or to stop being such a fag.

He knows his own parents, if they'll make his life a living hell then he shouldn't tell them. I've known enough people who have had their lives made that way due to parents / friends turning on them over this.
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To help him tell more people I guess, or to stop being such a fag.

He'll tell people when he's ready, there's not really much you can do to speed that process along. He's better off being comfortable with himself first before he does it, as some people are complete assholes.

Once one person is told it becomes easier. The first person allays one's fears of "all my relationships will change once I tell people" by, you know, not changing around him/her. And that process then snowballs. So that's the best thing you can do, continue on exactly as before.


With my friend people pretty much just guessed once he started dressing fashionably and fucking dudes.
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#27
One of my three best friends is gay, too. No one cares.

He can come out to his parents whenever he feels comfortable with it. Some people take years to do it.
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I'm really not sure what to do about this

Help me.


I've had two of my friends come out during high school. One came out at a block party I had not attended, and one came out to me during a car ride.

The best thing that you can do, is be supportive, and be non-judgmental. It may be weird for a while. My relationship (non-romantic, you weirdo) with both of them wasn't the same, but it wasn't any better or worse. He may act a little different, or he may not.
If I were you, I would just treat him like you always have, and try and be supportive.
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#29
Yeah seriously, this didn't need a thread. You shouldn't force him to tell anybody else, he can do what he wants when he wants. So your two options are:

a. Continue to be friends with him or
b. Stop being friends with him

Your choice will reflect the kind of person you are.
#30
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Yeah seriously, this didn't need a thread. You shouldn't force him to tell anybody else, he can do what he wants when he wants. So your two options are:

a. Continue to be friends with him or
b. Stop being friends with him

Your choice will reflect the kind of person you are.

If I choose not to be friends with him what does that say about me?
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#31
I never understood why this was such a big issue for the receiving end. Like..what help do you want ? Its not a big deal. I think id be more concerned if my friend came out and told me they secretly liked Twilight. Now THAT would be a big deal.


Anywho though, where is the problem at? Why does he have to tell more people? I dont get it.
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#33
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If I choose not to be friends with him what does that say about me?


Are you even considering that option?
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#34
Do nothing. It's his business who he wants to screw. It doesn't have to define you. He just wants to stick his dick into a man instead of a woman.

Anyways, if you didn't know he was gay by then, then why should that knowledge change anything?
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I never understood why this was such a big issue for the receiving end. Like..what help do you want ? Its not a big deal. I think id be more concerned if my friend came out and told me they secretly liked Twilight. Now THAT would be a big deal.


Anywho though, where is the problem at? Why does he have to tell more people? I dont get it.

Jewchords is probably worried that his friend is going to make a pass at him. As if anyone would make a pass at him.
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#37
Put up posters with "name" and "...is gay" around your block so everyone knows it. This way your friend doesn't tell them personally. He will be forever grateful.
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#38
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#39
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Put up posters with "name" and "...is gay" around your block so everyone knows it. This way your friend doesn't tell them personally. He will be forever gayfull.


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#40
I didnt know you and Novocane were friends irl
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