#1
So lately I've been having a bit of a down time. I've been fairly miserable and just not having a fun time. My girlfriend knows this, and knows why, and seems to understand this.

But, whenever I see her and I'm feeling blue, even if it's less so than usual, because I'm in her company, she starts getting upset, "because I'm upset". This then turns from her trying to make me feel better, to me trying to make her feel better. This always winds me up, and makes me feel worse as a result.

This was also the case with my ex-girlfriend. Whenever I had a problem, of almost any nature, she would immediately turn the tables so that I needed to comfort her.

I'm generally not an unhappy person, so it's not like I'm always bringing her down with pathetic problems all the time, and usually, she's upset/frustrated/annoyed about something that I spend all my time making her feel better about.

So is it just the women I fall for? Or is it all women? Is it an attention thing or am I just being an arse who needs to man up and take care of my partner?
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I've been there. I think its because a lot of guys put the girls happiness first whereas girls are more comfortable talking about their own feelings so guys set their own feelings aside and try to cheer her up
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#6
Maybe you should try to fix your problems then she'll feel better.
I remember watching a ted talk on networks. It talked about people becoming overweight because their friends were overweight. The guy also extended the example to emotions.
So if you feel better, she will feel better.
Then again, I don't have a girlfriend.
#7
Any female of the species that would go out with you deserves every benefit of the doubt, since she's already shown that her compassion, benevolence and mercy knows no bounds.

Man up.
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Maybe you should try to fix your problems then she'll feel better.
I remember watching a ted talk on networks. It talked about people becoming overweight because their friends were overweight. The guy also extended the example to emotions.
So if you feel better, she will feel better.
Then again, I don't have a girlfriend.


I would love to fix my problems, they're kind of medical though. Don't want to go in to detail, that's not the point. Issue at hand is, is it a gender difference that's common?
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" feeling blue" what does that mean?


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I've been there. I think its because a lot of guys put the girls happiness first whereas girls are more comfortable talking about their own feelings so guys set their own feelings aside and try to cheer her up


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#12
Man up, no emotion, etc.

You, good sir, have not gone over to your friends house after a hard night of drinking to find 2 dudes passed out in the same room both holding their own flaccid cocks in hand, passed out, with porn on the tv.
#13
I'm afraid Bradulator just blue himself.
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I would love to fix my problems, they're kind of medical though. Don't want to go in to detail, that's not the point. Issue at hand is, is it a gender difference that's common?

I wouldn't say it's a gender thing. Emotions can be infectious.
This is the video I mentioned earlier. You don't have to watch it, but it uses networks as a way to explain influence people have over each other. The speaker doesn't go into gender, so I imagine it's not a gender difference.
#15
Feeling blue isn't the same as chronic depression. You need to reevaluate your relationship because this isn't going to help things.

I know this is a simple and overused concept, but put yourself in her position. If she was moody all the time and you tried to comfort her, yet she pushes away from you. Would you try to waste your time making her feel better or get fed up with trying to understand her?

My honest advice. Stop being 'blue' and fix yourself and your problems or things are going to become worse.

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