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#1
Awkward topic but yeah.
I may or may not have slept with my drummer's ex. Contemplating telling him or not. He's been in 2 relationships since then=y broke up and is in one now... I really don't know what to do.
#3
shouldn't have done it in the first place but its better you tell him. If you act like its a secret and it comes out he'll be more offended, even if he no longer gives a shit about this girl.
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#4
How long ago has it been since they dated? how long did they date?
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#5
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Awkward topic but yeah.
I may or may not have slept with my drummer's ex. Contemplating telling him or not. He's been in 2 relationships since then=y broke up and is in one now... I really don't know what to do.


What are you confused about? Whether you had sex with a girl, or if this girl was actually his ex?
#7
Depends on how good a drummer he is.
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#8
Don't sleep with a mate's ex next time.
But you should tell him, he might get mad, or be cool, but it's better if he finds out from you first.
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#9
So I'm assuming you had sex with this chick, unless your "may or may not" confusion comes from not knowing what sexual intercourse is. If that's the case, I suggest you go a quick google search.

Anyway, you should have asked him if it was ok beforehand. However, since you didn't, it's probably a good idea to confess to him, and if needed apologize. By the way, how long did their relationship last?

I was in the same situation with a bandmate in a previous band (who actually happens to be in my current band, is one of my best friends, and a UG'er to boot!). I knew the possibility of something happening between myself and a girl he had dated was very high, and before any feelings got hurt I made sure he was cool with me taking her to poundtown. Granted, their relationship was more of what I'd call a "fling"; it didn't last long and was never serious by any means, but in situations like that it's always good to ask anyway. Needless to say, he was cool, and I railed her multiple times.

In a situation where the relationship was something more serious, he may have not been kosher with it. I've found that most guys feelings on their friends tagging an ex-girlfriend (or something similar) mostly depends on how serious the relationship was, and maybe even more importantly how strongly he felt about the particular girl.

Short answer: If you're concerned and think if you covered it up and sometime down the road he would be pissed if he found out, it's probably for the best that you tell him now. If I were in his situation (as long as he and the girl weren't in a serious, committed relationship), I'd probably not be too upset. As a matter of fact, I'd probably gain respect for you as a man and as a friend since you came forward and were concerned about the situation.

If you did pull a dick move and bang a girl he was serious with beforehand, well then, I'd expect an ass-kicking, if not at least a nice punch in the teeth. Personally, I wouldn't blame him for either if that was the case.
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Sleep with his mother.

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He'll get so pissed off at you he'll forget all about his ex!
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#12
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this

He'll get so pissed off at you he'll forget all about his ex!


No you're supposed to sleep with the father. The mixture of emotions he would be feeling would make him definitely forget about the ex.
#13
I'd say tell him, if you really care for his feelings. 2 exes ago seems kinda far back, so it doesn't seem like it'd be a big deal unless he still has feelings for her or something to that extent.
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No you're supposed to sleep with the father. The mixture of emotions he would be feeling would make him definitely forget about the ex.

Or about you.
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#18
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I may or may not have slept with my drummer's ex.


You're not sure if you did or not? Are you sure you're not the drummer?
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#20
Awkward topic but yeah.
I may or may not have slept with unknown4areason's mother. Contemplating telling him or not. We were both having a few drinks and taking shots of each other's hot bodies and....****.... I really don't know what to do.
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#22
Its prob better that u tell him so that he hears it from u & not someone else.

Warning though, he might punch u in the face (like I've done in a similar situation), but then u guys will be fine right after

Boys will be boys
#23
Shouldn't be too bad
....but still....not the nicest thing to have done

and may or may not....
Surely you know whether you did or didn't
#25
I honestly don't see what the problem is, if she's his ex, and particularly if he's moved on since then, then it's no business of his who she is sleeping with, even if it is with someone he knows.

You cannot dictate who other people are allowed or not allowed to sleep with based upon whether you once slept with them or not. Anyone who tries to has control issues.
#26
I don't see the big deal... He's been in two relationships since.. Surely he's over her..


If they had broken up 20 minutes ago, that might be a different story..
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#28
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I honestly don't see what the problem is, if she's his ex, and particularly if he's moved on since then, then it's no business of his who she is sleeping with, even if it is with someone he knows.

You cannot dictate who other people are allowed or not allowed to sleep with based upon whether you once slept with them or not. Anyone who tries to has control issues.




This, so hard. You don't possess people you've slept with, this is not an issue.
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#29
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What's the big deal? They're not going out anymore.

This. I mean seriously, why the hell do we care if a friend does our exes?
#30
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This. I mean seriously, why the hell do we care if a friend does our exes?


The only people that care, and there are apparently some in the posts above that would, are those who are afraid they might come off badly in the comparison...
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#31
They're not together anymore , so whats the big deal? If it comes up then admit it, otherwise your sex life is none of his business, unless you sleep with his current girlfriend.
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They're not together anymore , so whats the big deal? If it comes up then admit it, otherwise your sex life is none of his business, unless you sleep with his current girlfriend.



This, I don't see where the problem is.

He isn't with her so it is no longer his business.
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#33
What ever happened to bros before hoes? People have no camaraderie these days. TS is a douche.
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#34
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What ever happened to bros before hoes? People have no camaraderie these days. TS is a douche.

The guy shouldn't care about his ex from 2 girls ago... If he does then that should be his problem...
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#35
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What ever happened to bros before hoes? People have no camaraderie these days. TS is a douche.


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#36
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lol raise your standards broseph



Seriously... A drummer's sloppy seconds? Have a little self respect.
#37
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What ever happened to bros before hoes? People have no camaraderie these days. TS is a douche.


It never existed, except in some random gay frat-house mentality imaginings...
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#38
So, why is TS banned? Multi?
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#39
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So, why is TS banned? Multi?


The Drummer is obviously a mod >___>
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#40
WAIT, WAIT, WAIT, HOLD THE PHONE


You're saying drummers get laid?
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