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#1
Hey Pit.
Was wondering if you could use your vast knowledge to give me a small culture lesson on the dynamic of friendships between Japanese boys and girls.

The story is, there are 12 exchange students at my school from Japan (all of them girls) and I spent the day with them yesterday (along with a few other students) eating with them and helping them with their lessons.
They don't know much English so having a regular conversation with them is a bit hard but they get by well enough.
Later in the day we went outside and played some soccer and threw a frisbee with them. There came a time when one of the guys straight up kicked the soccer ball as hard as he could and ended up hitting one of the girls in the shoulder. He quickly ran over to her and gave her a hug as to say "I'm sorry." And as soon as he started hugging her, all the other girls went "OOOOOOHHHHH" and high fived each other.
Later one of the girls asked me straight up "Do you have a girlfriend?" which caught me off guard xD

I know Japanese relationships are much more traditional in respect to American relationships, but what are friendships like in Japan between opposite sexes?
I'm guess they're more hands off.
I wanted to hang out at the house they're staying at for a little while last night (it was 8 when we dropped them off) because they offered to make tea and soup for us, but not knowing what's customary in their culture (nor the regulations we as student helpers have against staying with them into late hours of the night) I felt I had to decline.

Thanks for any light you can shed on this subject.
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#2
ts is living my dream T________T. tbh i don't think there is much difference than the rest of the world other than niceties of japanese culture.

but srsly; 13-way. do it.
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#3
watch anime, you'll know everything.
and TS, you lucky mo'fo, you'd betta tap them asses before someone else does, BOU'YA!
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#6
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I wanted to hang out at the house they're staying at for a little while last night (it was 8 when we dropped them off) because they offered to make tea and soup for us, but not knowing what's customary in their culture (nor the regulations we as student helpers have against staying with them into late hours of the night) I felt I had to decline.

Thanks for any light you can shed on this subject.


Seriously...? It's ok to be gay and everything, but atleast you could've told them you weren't intersted in women instead of toying with them, TS.
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watch anime, you'll know everything.
and TS, you lucky mo'fo, you'd betta tap them asses before someone else does, BOU'YA!

Haha I was going to watch anime to learn some Japanse till someone put it like this:

"Don't watch anime to learn Japanese. 1. You don't need to know 22 different ways of saying 'I will kill you.' and 2. Would you want Japanese people learning English from American Cartoons? Then we'd have Japanese people walking around talking like Spongebob and Popeye."


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Seriously...? It's ok to be gay and everything, but atleast you could've told them you weren't intersted in women instead of toying with them, TS.

ffs. =/ Not gay. But I sort of just showed up to their meeting unannounced and the head of the foreign affairs dept was there. But I didn't really ask for details on things. So I didn't want to have it come back around with someone saying "Uhh, yeah we dropped them off and left, but this one kid stayed there with them alone." And then getting in trouble. Dig?
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sht up u flthy librl foogit stfu u soo mad n butthurdt ur ass is an analpocolypse cuz ur so gay "my ass hrts so mcuh" - u. your rectally vexed n anlly angushed lolo go bck 2 asslnd lolol
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#9
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You gon get bukkaked

From 12 Japanese girls that are all relatively attractive and a year or 2 older than me?
So down.
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sht up u flthy librl foogit stfu u soo mad n butthurdt ur ass is an analpocolypse cuz ur so gay "my ass hrts so mcuh" - u. your rectally vexed n anlly angushed lolo go bck 2 asslnd lolol
#10
This is exactly the reason why Asians never trust foreign guys for the most part.
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#12
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ffs. =/ Not gay. But I sort of just showed up to their meeting unannounced and the head of the foreign affairs dept was there. But I didn't really ask for details on things. So I didn't want to have it come back around with someone saying "Uhh, yeah we dropped them off and left, but this one kid stayed there with them alone." And then getting in trouble. Dig?


Like I said, atleast have the decency to tell them you're gay. That way no one gets hurt instead of a lot of unnecessary drama
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#13
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Like I said, atleast have the decency to tell them you're gay. That way no one gets hurt instead of a lot of unnecessary drama

You used to be cool.
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sht up u flthy librl foogit stfu u soo mad n butthurdt ur ass is an analpocolypse cuz ur so gay "my ass hrts so mcuh" - u. your rectally vexed n anlly angushed lolo go bck 2 asslnd lolol
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You used to be cool.

Come on man, you can't tell me what you said impied you like boys better. Like I said, it's ok!
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#16
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I have seen enough japanese porn to know that most, if not all of them are infact carrying wangs.



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Come on man, you can't tell me what you said impied you like boys better. Like I said, it's ok!

Are you coming on to me? I mean you can outright say it if you are. The smilies at the ends of your posts are giving you away
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sht up u flthy librl foogit stfu u soo mad n butthurdt ur ass is an analpocolypse cuz ur so gay "my ass hrts so mcuh" - u. your rectally vexed n anlly angushed lolo go bck 2 asslnd lolol
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Are you coming on to me? I mean you can outright say it if you are. The smilies at the ends of your posts are giving you away

You're not even going to buy him dinner first? Come on man, that is a little direct.
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Killing self. bbml.
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sht up u flthy librl foogit stfu u soo mad n butthurdt ur ass is an analpocolypse cuz ur so gay "my ass hrts so mcuh" - u. your rectally vexed n anlly angushed lolo go bck 2 asslnd lolol
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You're not even going to buy him dinner first? Come on man, that is a little direct.

Seriously, I'm not one of his cheap male whores
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#21
Your friend's gonna have to take responsibility now. She probably thinks she's pregnant.
#22
Apparently it's rude in Japanese to culture to upfront say No, so you just don and ****ed up.
#23
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And as soon as he started hugging her, all the other girls went "OOOOOOHHHHH" and high fived each other.

Anyone else find this surprisingly weird/sit com like?


OT: I don't know much about Japanese culture, but if someone asks you to do something then just do it I've had to explain on multiple occasions to people who declined my invitation/didn't invite me somewhere based on their presumptions on my cultural background. They wouldn't ask if they didn't think it was fine.
#24
I dunno, maybe you can try to just be friendly to them instead of trying to find some magical solution that will work on all Japanese women.

Maybe next you can go to England and expect to be friends with everyone by drinking warm beer and using the word "cunt".
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Lucky bastard.
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I dunno, maybe you can try to just be friendly to them instead of trying to find some magical solution that will work on all Japanese women.

Maybe next you can go to England and expect to be friends with everyone by drinking warm beer and using the word "cunt".

Thats not what I was asking. Like I didn't want to do something that is normal in American culture between friends and then come off as rude by their standards.

Never in the OP did I say I wanted to befriend these girls with the intention of having sex with them.
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#28
Well, frankly I'm disgusted. All the TS has done is come along and innocently asked for advice, and not ONE of you has asked for pictures.

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#29
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Thats not what I was asking. Like I didn't want to do something that is normal in American culture between friends and then come off as rude by their standards.

Never in the OP did I say I wanted to befriend these girls with the intention of having sex with them.

Well you could just act like a person to them instead of trying to find a way to act like they would act with their culture. I'm sure that they come to America knowing that we have different customs just like how you would go to Japan knowing that they have different customs. Just be polite.

Never in my post did I say you wanted to befriend these girls with the intention of having sex with them.
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#30
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Thats not what I was asking. Like I didn't want to do something that is normal in American culture between friends and then come off as rude by their standards.

Never in the OP did I say I wanted to befriend these girls with the intention of having sex with them.



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#31
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Thats not what I was asking. Like I didn't want to do something that is normal in American culture between friends and then come off as rude by their standards.

Never in the OP did I say I wanted to befriend these girls with the intention of having sex with them.


so...you don't wanna have a sex with 12 Japanese chicks
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#32
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I'm sure that they come to America knowing that we have different customs just like how you would go to Japan knowing that they have different customs.

Yeah, you don't know jack shit.

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Yeah, you don't know jack shit.


You're right, I don't know anything about Japanese culture. What I do know is that it's fairly obvious that most people would know that different people around the world have different cultures. OP obviously knows that they have a different culture, so it would make sense that other people around the world would know that as well. You know, unless they're from best Korea.
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OP obviously knows that they have a different culture, so it would make sense that other people around the world would know that as well.

Nope, still don't know shit.

...modes and scales are still useless.


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Nope, still don't know shit.


Can you explain to me why I don't know shit? I knew when I was 12/13 that people in different parts of the world have different cultures. Unless Japan is really closed off from the rest of the world and they think that everyone is exactly the same as they are there.
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#39
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Nope, still don't know shit.

I mean, you could just.. You know.. Contribute to the thread, instead of pointing out peoples' ignorance toward other cultures and customs..
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Can you explain to me why I don't know shit? I knew when I was 12/13 that people in different parts of the world have different cultures. Unless Japan is really closed off from the rest of the world and they think that everyone is exactly the same as they are there.
You're not looking deeply enough how different those cultures are.

Your attitude is that you will be curious and flexible to other cultures, being in a metropolitan society.

Their attitude is that it's out of their comfort zone and they will only stick to people who come from their culture.

...modes and scales are still useless.


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