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#1
So I have a little issue with my roommate...well it's not really an issue, more like a dilemma. Basically he thinks that I'm just an antisocial hermit because I don't really converse much with him and my other roommate.

So my roommate keeps prying as to why I'm so quiet all the time and don't socialize with him. He keeps asking if it's like some psychological issue or something. But the thing is that my roommates are not people who I would have chosen to be friends with, I just happened to get randomly matched up with them to live together.

To clarify, it's not like I ignore them. I have no problem coming in, having a 5 minute chat or so if I see them before I move on and do my own thing; I just don't really want to hang out with them all the time. But my roommate wants to know the reason why I don't talk to him more and start conversation. I don't want to just say the truth, but in trying to hide it, it just makes me seem like this stranger that lives with them, which in turn makes him uncomfortable.

I think he really wants to be my friend and do a bunch of stuff together, but I don't necessarily feel the same way. So what should I say? Just keep doing what I'm doing, or tell him what the actual issue is?

tl;dr: roommate wants to know why I'm antisocial because I don't talk to him, but really I don't talk to him because I wouldn't be friends with him. What do I say to ease this situation?
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#3
The answer is obvious: fuck your roommate.

But seriously, just tell him. The sooner you let him know, the sooner he'll give you your space.
#4
Why wouldn't you be friends with him though? Surely it wouldn't hurt to go out now and then and have a couple of pints with him and a few others? That'll stop the complaining.
#5
Go out with him once, be annoying and whiny like you are in your post, and he'll get off your back.
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#6
tbh I think I would just hang out with him more...
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#7
Tell him to stop being such a sensitive, one-touch penis. But seriously, tell him how you feel.
#8
Murder/suicide.

tl;dr

EDIT: Okay, just read it, I think you're doing him a favour by not being his friend actually, you sound like a shitty person. What do you mean you "wouldn't be his friend"?
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#9
Bite the bullet and get to know the guy a bit more. If you still think he's not your type after a while, smother him.
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#12
Be friendly?
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#13
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Murder/suicide.


Actually, if he killed his roommate and made it look like a suicide, he'd get straight A's for the semester.
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Actually, if he killed his roommate and made it look like a suicide, he'd get straight A's for the semester.

Yeah but we're already past midterms. It'd be more worthwhile to just wait until the beginning of next semester.

I know, this is the one thing my roommate and I joke about the most. Not sure what that says about me
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"Joke" about.
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#16
Clearly your roommate has a crush on you. Sleep with him and get it over with.
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#19
Just go out and get a few drinks with him.
You could just say that you and him don't have many things in common so you don't really feel like there's much for you two to talk about.

But not wanting to be his friend just because is a bit harsh.
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#20
Well there is nothing wrong with not wanting to be friends with someone. You cannot like every single person in the world. So why don't you just tell something like: I don't hate you but we just don't share same interests..."
#21
Go in raw.
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#22
The fact that you wouldn't "choose" to be friends with him shouldn't be an obstacle to being friends. Soldiers don't choose who they're stationed with and they become lifetime war buddies.
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#23
U might wanna tell him how u feel

Or u can do what I did when I had roommates I didnt like:
Ignore them completely until u move out, telling them at the last minute & never talking to them again
Or (if u dont want to move out)
Tell him off in a real asshole way, causing massive daily conflict, pushing him to inevitably move out

Either way, u wont have to see him again
#24
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#26
This is problem? Your roommate is too friendly? Either tell him what you're thinking and risk conflict or give him a chance.
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#27
You consider friendliness a problem?

This kind of logic is what's wrong with the world today.
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#28
Wow, I'm so glad I'm a better housemate than you.

You have to live with him, might as well make it enjoyable for both of you.
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#30
Just tell him you're a sociable person but prefer to have time to yourself when you're at home. I'm the same way man, I've always ignored all my roommates, it takes me a while to warm up to people, and when they're just a bunch of frat guys that drink all the time, chances are I won't ever warm up to them.
#31
lick his door knob, tell him you are studying, say you are a chronic masturabator, hang out for a few min and keep farting...
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#32
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#33
That's probably a good thing you don't be friends with your roommate. A lot of my buddies are like that, they get roommates, be sort of friends with them and it ends up being awkward or they just end on a sour note. That's why they always tell me they separate themselves from that whole friendship thing. Just cause your roommates doesn't mean you have to be bffaeae.

On the other hand if I would be roommates with my buddies now, it would be awesome, we would definitely be absolute terrible influences to ourselves and be completely plastered 24/7, no joke. Party non-stop, BBQ out on the patio (yes there would have to be a patio and BBQ) and just participate in drunken shenanigans.
#35
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next time he brings it up, spit in his face. problem solved, new problems created.

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#36
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Why wouldn't you be friends with him though? Surely it wouldn't hurt to go out now and then and have a couple of pints with him and a few others? That'll stop the complaining.


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#37
At least you're roommates being nice lol all I do is come home, go to my room, play guitar with headphones in or play some vids...then go out with my other buds...yet the one girl I live with acts like a total stuck up snob and bitches 24/7.... Next time just try telling him you've got stuff you need to do or something..but in all honesty if you've never hung out with him how do you know you couldn't be friends? Couldn't hurt to just chill for half an hour or something and just shoot the shit :/
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#38
I'd rather have your problem than roommates who never clean up their ****ing dishes.
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#40
friendship should NOT have to be an issue. you're isolated in a confined space with a bro, it's meant to be, just shut the **** up you whiny little pussy ass shit bucket and ****ing bromence broship
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