Poll: What should I do
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Stay at uni
15 41%
Take year off
22 59%
Voters: 37.
guitargodofaus
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#1
So pit i have come to a crossroad in my life. I am just coming to the end of my first year at uni and I am not really enjoying it like i thought i would. I am studying a bachelor of digital media. I'm not sure if i should continue on with my degree, or if i should defer for a year and go work in the snowfields and travel Indonesia in the summer.

I just feel like i am stuck in life not going forward or back.

Basically I just need other people to talk about it to who aren't my parents.

EDIT: I wanted to take a year off before uni, but i felt pressured by my parents into going straight into it.
Last edited by guitargodofaus at Oct 6, 2012,
rockingamer2
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#2
Your schools have counselors, right?
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metalblaster
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#3
Uni eh.

''digital media'' eh.

yeah sounds like uni.


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rabidguitarist
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#4
Deferring means that you just continue your course where you left off, doesn't it?
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#5
Yolo. Really. If you want to defer, do it. You'll have time to reflect and reevaluate the direction of your life. Perhaps explain to your parents that your current dissatisfaction might negatively impact your grades if you stay on just for their sake.
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#6
Nigga don't let your parents pressure you into shit, I let mine pressure me into making a compromise on the course I would choose and I hated it, dropped out this year.
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#7
Quote by metalblaster
Uni eh.

''digital media'' eh.

yeah sounds like uni.


Get a haircut and get a real jerb. In case of trouble, start a gay orgy pile.

This. Also, clean your act up, and don't be a slob.
girlgerms007
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#8
Finish what you start.
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gabcd86
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#9
Quote by ErikLensherr
Yolo. Really. If you want to defer, do it. You'll have time to reflect and reevaluate the direction of your life. Perhaps explain to your parents that your current dissatisfaction might negatively impact your grades if you stay on just for their sake.


This. You're only young once, only at uni once, seems mental to force yourself through it out of parental pressure. Do you lose anything by deferring? I know I would have had to pay the triple tuition fees if I had taken a gap year, so it wasn't really an option.
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#10
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Finish what you start.

This is bad advice, and the advice I gave someone who wanted to drop out of her first year and then wasted another year before finally dropping out.
If you aren't enjoying it, then you don't have to continue.

On the other hand, I also almost quit towards the end of my first year. I'm bloody glad I didn't though since I'm now in Paris on a badass placement. And I did reasonably well in my second year and started to enjoy it.
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Smeghead64
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#11
Take a year off. I wasn't enjoying my uni course after the first year but decided to carry on anyway. Doing another 2 years of a subject I didnt really like was hell.
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guitargodofaus
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#12
Quote by gabcd86
This. You're only young once, only at uni once, seems mental to force yourself through it out of parental pressure. Do you lose anything by deferring? I know I would have had to pay the triple tuition fees if I had taken a gap year, so it wasn't really an option.


Luckily here the government pays for it and you pay them back with no interest after you are earning a certain amount of money.

OK thanks, this is helping me decide what i want to do.
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#13
Quote by gabcd86
This. You're only young once, only at uni once, seems mental to force yourself through it out of parental pressure. Do you lose anything by deferring? I know I would have had to pay the triple tuition fees if I had taken a gap year, so it wasn't really an option.

Why do you keep talking about it like it's some bad thing? You get some awesome loan payment conditions, like only paying 9% of what you earn beyond 21k a year and if you haven't payed it within 30 years, it will be deleted.

I have to pay everything within 20 years after I get a job when I go back to Norway... and I pay international fees.
gabcd86
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#14
Quote by sfaune92
Why do you keep talking about it like it's some bad thing? You get some awesome loan payment conditions, like only paying 9% of what you earn beyond 21k a year and if you haven't payed it within 30 years, it will be deleted.

I have to pay everything within 20 years after I get a job when I go back to Norway... and I pay international fees.


So? There is no amount of your whinging that can change the fact that 9k/year debt is objectively worse than 3k/year debt.
CrAzY-RiLeY
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Join date: May 2010
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#15
do you what you think will make you happy , even if it's not for the long run...

I wasted 2 years of my life trying to do some electriques course, after the first year i tried to leave but no place else would take me, and my grades started getting lower when i started drinking everyday.
basically, now when i try and get into another school they just see my grades from the previous years and pretty much ignore me.

leave now while it still looks good, and you still care about it...

ya'know, just my 2 cents
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Neo Evil11
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#16
If you want to take a year off,do it. I never felt the urge though.
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BeefWellington
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#17
I think the problem is that you're doing a degree in DIGITAL MEDIA.

Deferring a year just because you're having a bit of a man period and you "feel like you're not going anywhere" doesn't SOUND much of a valid reason, on the face of it. Suck it up and get on with it. You and God knows how many other people probably feel the same.

Or even change to another degree if the course is dragging you down. Talk to somebody at your Uni who can actually help you.

Although I'm a stubborn, almost masochistic old git. If I were you I'd just get on with it and see how the second year improves no matter how much I hated it.
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Thrashtastic15
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#19
"gap" years are a waste of time. Coming from someone who has wasted a couple years not being in university.
TimTheWizard
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#22
Quote by Trashtastic15
"gap" years are a waste of time. Coming from someone who has wasted a couple years not being in university.

^that's why you only take ONE year off!

I did the same thing and it worked out GREAT for me. First I was studying psychology, but I wasn't happy. There were some personal issues I had to face with at the time and then I realized "I don't wanna hear other people's bullsh*t when I'm unhappy with myself" so I stopped the same day and did a year of just partying, hooking up, vacations, roadtrips, etc etc.

I still can't describe how great it felt to be doing my own thing without anyone telling me I was wasting my life (I had a job at my uncle's in case I needed money) and I have matured in that year. It's true when they say school can't teach you anything about life, only life can.

And then summer vacation came and I was thinking what I should study. I knew I didn't wanna get a "real job" because I'm easily bored by routine, and I've always been busy with art. So first thing that came up was "learn (art) history". But I'd be a lousy teacher (bad example for kids if you constantly swear and many anecdotes involve being a bum or doing stuff you're not supposed to), so I started studying what seemed the easiest for me to ever achieve in: photography.

Now, I'm not advising you to become a bum and afterwards study art (unless you're talented).
What I'm saying is: take the year off, reflect, relax and it will come to you. Not knowing what to do is mostly a problem of not knowing yourself

tl;dr OP should take the year off, go skinnydipping with playgirls and then go back to the prison of education.
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Last edited by TimTheWizard at Oct 6, 2012,
gabcd86
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#23
Quote by TimTheWizard
^that's why you only take ONE year off!

I did the same thing and it worked out GREAT for me. First I was studying psychology, but I wasn't happy. There were some personal issues I had to face with at the time and then I realized "I don't wanna hear other people's bullsh*t when I'm unhappy with myself" so I stopped the same day and did a year of just partying, hooking up, vacations, roadtrips, etc etc.

I still can't describe how great it felt to be doing my own thing without anyone telling me I was wasting my life (I had a job at my uncle's in case I needed money) and I have matured in that year. It's true when they say school can't teach you anything about life, only life can.

And then summer vacation came and I was thinking what I should study. I knew I didn't wanna get a "real job" because I'm easily bored by routine, and I've always been busy with art. So first thing that came up was "learn (art) history". But I'd be a lousy teacher (bad example for kids if you constantly swear and many anecdotes involve being a bum or doing stuff you're not supposed to), so I started studying what seemed the easiest for me to ever achieve in: photography.

Now, I'm not advising you to become a bum and afterwards study art (unless you're talented).
What I'm saying is: take the year off, reflect, relax and it will come to you. Not knowing what to do is mostly a problem of not knowing yourself

tl;dr OP should take the year off, go skinnydipping with playgirls and then go back to the prison of education.


TS, if you're going to become Jack Kerouac here, please don't take a year off, for the good of humanity.
guitargodofaus
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#24
Quote by TimTheWizard
^that's why you only take ONE year off!

I did the same thing and it worked out GREAT for me. First I was studying psychology, but I wasn't happy. There were some personal issues I had to face with at the time and then I realized "I don't wanna hear other people's bullsh*t when I'm unhappy with myself" so I stopped the same day and did a year of just partying, hooking up, vacations, roadtrips, etc etc.

I still can't describe how great it felt to be doing my own thing without anyone telling me I was wasting my life (I had a job at my uncle's in case I needed money) and I have matured in that year. It's true when they say school can't teach you anything about life, only life can.

And then summer vacation came and I was thinking what I should study. I knew I didn't wanna get a "real job" because I'm easily bored by routine, and I've always been busy with art. So first thing that came up was "learn (art) history". But I'd be a lousy teacher (bad example for kids if you constantly swear and many anecdotes involve being a bum or doing stuff you're not supposed to), so I started studying what seemed the easiest for me to ever achieve in: photography.

Now, I'm not advising you to become a bum and afterwards study art (unless you're talented).
What I'm saying is: take the year off, reflect, relax and it will come to you. Not knowing what to do is mostly a problem of not knowing yourself

tl;dr OP should take the year off, go skinnydipping with playgirls and then go back to the prison of education.


Are you me?

That is how i feel, I don't want a normal job, I think just traveling, surfing and snowboarding for a year while working will set me on a clear path on what i want to do with my life.

Life is more then getting a good paying job guyz
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#25
Quote by guitargodofaus
Are you me?

That is how i feel, I don't want a normal job, I think just traveling, surfing and snowboarding for a year while working will set me on a clear path on what i want to do with my life.

Life is more then getting a good paying job guyz

I want to do research at a university, it doesnt pay well i can tell you.
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TimTheWizard
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#26
Quote by gabcd86
TS, if you're going to become Jack Kerouac here, please don't take a year off, for the good of humanity.

Nizzle pls, I'm bohemian not a beat

^^and prob yes, OP. I am you, but European.
Now seriously, if you wanna do that you just do that. Think of it, one year in your life is nothing and taking it off can be so rewarding. So why listen to all these people who never did instead of the only person here who actually did it and feels great

It's your choice in the end, but making that decision was until now the best of my life.
And by hearing you like to do sports, maybe you should pursue a career more in that direction (sports teacher, pro sporter, there's enough to choose from)
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guitargodofaus
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#27
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I want to do research at a university, it doesnt pay well i can tell you.


But you are doing something that you want to do and i respect that. I was more aiming it at the people saying go to uni, get a job, pay bills even though im not sure its what i want to do.
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#28
Quote by guitargodofaus
But you are doing something that you want to do and i respect that. I was more aiming it at the people saying go to uni, get a job, pay bills even though im not sure its what i want to do.

Yeah i agree with that.
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guitargodofaus
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#29
Quote by TimTheWizard
Nizzle pls, I'm bohemian not a beat

^^and prob yes, OP. I am you, but European.
Now seriously, if you wanna do that you just do that. Think of it, one year in your life is nothing and taking it off can be so rewarding. So why listen to all these people who never did instead of the only person here who actually did it and feels great

It's your choice in the end, but making that decision was until now the best of my life.
And by hearing you like to do sports, maybe you should pursue a career more in that direction (sports teacher, pro sporter, there's enough to choose from)


What i think i want to do is get a job a lift operator in the snow fields then move up to snow patrol (they get the mountain safe from avalanches and rescue injured people) and travel around the world working in different locations doing that.

It will just be weird telling my parents i want to leave uni
Neo Evil11
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#30
If you have the money to travel and take a year off, and you want to do it, you should just do it man. Good luck.
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JustRooster
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#32
I took a year off. Worse thing I ever did. Taking a break from Uni is NEVER the answer if you're not going somewhere that's incredibly circumstantial and rare.

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TimTheWizard
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#33
Quote by guitargodofaus
What i think i want to do is get a job a lift operator in the snow fields then move up to snow patrol (they get the mountain safe from avalanches and rescue injured people) and travel around the world working in different locations doing that.

It will just be weird telling my parents i want to leave uni

Just tell them, if you don't you'll never know. If your parents have supported you before in important decisions, they will understand and try to guide you in this.
I think it's normal to think they'll oppose the idea at first (my mom didn't, but she's always supported me), the thing that made my dad break was "didn't you ever do anything you still regret to this day? I don't wanna have this crap job I hate, which makes me hate my life just because I can't do what I wanna do and I'm surrounded everyday by dumbasses!"

Getting a job as lift operator can't be too hard I guess, go asking around and try to fix the job. Being a guard is probably harder,.. if you don't already know the requirements to become one, figure it out because the hardest thing will be standing on the verge of becoming one then being denied (because of, say, colourblindness). If everything's fine just go for it bro, live the dream
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#34
I've taken two gap years before going to University, and for ME it was a great decision. In the meantime I moved out of my parents house and my girlfriend moved in with me. I had a big aversion of school before the gap years and had no idea what I wanted to study. In those two years I've spent a lot of time working and thinking about what I really wanted. I was working a job for two years that I didn't really enjoy, so that gave me a HUGE motivation to go back to school and I am really enjoying studying. So for me it was a good thing to do, but only you know what is best for yourself. The only thing I can really say is that you shouldn't be afraid to "waste" a year. Just take a breather.
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#36
Don't take a year off unless you have a clear, fixed plan/schedule of what you want to do and it's something that will actually help you in the future. It's easy to lose your focus if you take a gap year without clearly deciding what you want to do after your break.

I hated my first year and I kinda hate this year too and I've been considering taking a year off or switching majors, but the potential benefits of staying with my major and not taking a break outweigh the shittiness of what I'm going through now. You might feel stuck right now, but if you aren't 100% that this course isn't for you then I'd advise you to wait it out, maybe after your first semester of 2nd year you'll have a better idea of your feelings towards the subject. If you can't stand it and you have some extra time, do something you enjoy on the side that is related to your major - a job or internship or volunteering or just something as a hobby that will keep you sane.

You're right, life isn't just about getting a good job, but getting a good job will help you do other things you enjoy. You don't have to enjoy your major to succeed at it and vice versa. just finish it, then you can do whatever you want after that
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#39
But nobody does interesting shit in first year uni.

Personally I find taking a year off immensely retarded as it puts off time you could be working on your career and making real money. I'm applying for co-op jobs right now and that will pretty much be my study break. Full time work getting experience in my field. Not much more I could ask for. But that's just me.