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#1
So I'd generally consider my high school to be very conservative, and about one step short of being private and Christian. I think throughout my four years there we had one pregnancy that was widely known about... and I'm sure she got harassed like crazy. I felt bad for her, but it didn't excuse the fact that she was a ditzy girl who had sex with some random dude to get back at her boyfriend and got knocked up.

However, my Facebook news feed has just started to fill up with girls my age getting the news of their pregnancies, ultrasound pics, etc. (I'm two years out of high school). It's just a little unnerving to me when they're all commenting on each other's statuses about how their babies are going to be best friends like they're all getting puppies or something.

My question to The Pit is: What was/is the pregnancy issue like at your high school (or college)? Is it a problem? Is your school similar to mine? Or is it somewhere in between?

And also: Are the mothers actually good? Does the boy stick around generally or does he usually bail like I've seen?

Sorry about the mob of questions, this is just starting to happen to my HS class and I'm legitimately curious.
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#2
bitches be crazy.
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#3
I went to a ghetto highschool. If there wasnt at least 20 bitches pregnant at once, something was wrong

Edit: and college wasnt much different, except that most girls were in their 20s at least
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#4
lolhighschool.

Let me lay a little wisdom on you that applies to all situations involving women.

"Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks."
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#5
Bit of this, bit of that. I have a friend who has a kid and the father has almost no involvement. I have another friend who married the mother of his kid. I think it's underrated how many dads do stay though. I have more friends that are single dads than single moms. I know the majority will always be the other way around but this new era of guys, not ALL of us need to be dragged to the Maury Povich show to prove we're the baby-daddy lol.
And if you're just getting to your "all my FB friends are preggers" phase, wait until you see all the engagement announcements in a few years. Not all will go through and it will be rather dramatic to see someones life come apart through social media since no one has any sense of privacy anymore lol.
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Bit of this, bit of that. I have a friend who has a kid and the father has almost no involvement. I have another friend who married the mother of his kid. I think it's underrated how many dads do stay though. I have more friends that are single dads than single moms. I know the majority will always be the other way around but this new era of guys, not ALL of us need to be dragged to the Maury Povich show to prove we're the baby-daddy lol.
And if you're just getting to your "all my FB friends are preggers" phase, wait until you see all the engagement announcements in a few years. Not all will go through and it will be rather dramatic to see someones life come apart through social media since no one has any sense of privacy anymore lol.


Nice post, thanks. Yeah, can't say I'm entirely looking forward to a nonstop barrage of wedding pictures, psychotic breakdowns, and baby pics. But hey, I'm not friends with many people I don't actually talk to on Facebook so if they're happy I've got no problems.

It is good to hear that things are changing in young men, and they're taking responsibility for what they create. I've had some minor scares with recent girlfriends, and each time I tell myself I have to do what's right for the baby if she doesn't want to abort. I mean, that's my flesh and blood growing in her.
#7
Okay legitimate post.

I'm from a super tiny county out in Virginia. There weren't that many pregnancies in high school, but because it's a tiny country community that still suffers the whole "football players are god's gift to everything", the men usually got out scot free and the women were always left as the *****s or whatever. And word traveled pretty fast about who was dating who, and in a small county where there's not much to do but gossip, there were quite a few "pregnancies", if you catch my drift.

Gotta love the South.

In college I haven't really noticed it much. But I go to VCU which is a straight urban campus, so it wouldn't really be... easy I guess to notice someone being pregnant because it's extremely rare that you see the same person more than once a week walking down the street.

But like was also already said, wait until you get to the age where your friends or family or Facebook peeps are constantly getting engaged or having children.

It's a little annoying, honestly. I don't get why people need to blast it all over social media. But then again I guess the majority of people live off of attention and social media is the easiest way to get that attention.
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#8
They marry right out of high school because they're horny and sex isn't allowed until marriage, then they immediately have five babies because they either believe it's their life purpose or they just never received sex ed. It's a cultural problem rather than a school one. Also I haven't been on Facebook in a while, but isn't it basically lookatmyengagementandbabyphotos.com now?
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#9
One girl I was friends with 8th-10th grade had a baby with and got engaged to her boyfriend of... three and a half years or so. They'll take good care of that baby.

Another was a girl I had sex ed with in 9th grade. She once told me in a caring way that if I got pregnant in high school, she would push me down the stairs so I wouldn't ruin my life. She dropped out and got pregnant a couple years later, and is still with the father. She loves being a mother, and that baby is so cute.

Another girl that I was friends with in 8th grade also had a baby this year, with a guy I knew from middle school. She's a really good person who I'm sure is a great mother. Too bad the father is an immature redneck that decided to deny the baby... There's no way she cheated, and she wants him to have no part in the baby's life because of that.

This girl in my class last year got pregnant and dropped the class (maybe dropped out?) halfway through. She wasn't the brightest light, and the father left her for a 14 year old...

And another, I have no idea how well she'll be able to handle raising a child, but she has a good sense of humor, so that's something!

I'm in college now, and I would abort immediately if I got pregnant (but I'm careful). Partially because it would mess up my life, and partially because I have no desire for children, and that's a big job to take on (understatement) if you're not positive it's something you want.
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It's worrying, but then it's very simple to slip abortifacients into their drink.
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#11
we have no pregnancy issue
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I went to my high school's alternative education program and there were quite a few mothers/pregnant girls.
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#15
There were none in my high school. A girl I used to be friends with had a child when she was 16/17 though. Weird.
#17
About 10% of my high school class was pregnant or a parent at graduation. Small town, very Christian community. It hasn't slowed down really. I'm two years out as well. We have a lot of babies and one divorce already.
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They marry right out of high school because they're horny and sex isn't allowed until marriage, then they immediately have five babies because they either believe it's their life purpose or they just never received sex ed. It's a cultural problem rather than a school one. Also I haven't been on Facebook in a while, but isn't it basically lookatmyengagementandbabyphotos.com now?

Having 5 kids is a cultural problem?

You know, considering your anti-natal thread, I have no damn idea why anyone would take you opinion on kids/pregnancy.

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I'm in college, so I'm sure there's a few pregnant women here. But mostly, I'd say they're married or at least in a steady relationship.
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Having 5 kids is a cultural problem?

You know, considering your anti-natal thread, I have no damn idea why anyone would take you opinion on kids/pregnancy.

having 5 babies straight out of school before you have the means to take care of them all well and give them a good upraising is a cultural problem
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having 5 babies straight out of school before you have the means to take care of them all well and give them a good upraising is a cultural problem

Ok, that I would agree with. I'm probably going to have 5 kids (or at least, my soon-to-be-fiance and I have said that we're ok with that). However, we're not going to marry until after I graduate and get a job. I'm studying computer science, which is a field that typically allows people to get good jobs (as in, making $50k+ right out of graduation).

Edit:
But yeah, have the fucking means to support a family.
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In my old high school, Pregnancies never happened.
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#22
Only like 2 pregnancies happened in my school whilst I was there. One dropped out 'cause she was a loser anyway. The other moved in to her own flat, and came back to school not long after the birth because she's a champ.
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Ok, that I would agree with. I'm probably going to have 5 kids (or at least, my soon-to-be-fiance and I have said that we're ok with that). However, we're not going to marry until after I graduate and get a job. I'm studying computer science, which is a field that typically allows people to get good jobs (as in, making $50k+ right out of graduation).


Explain the appeal of having five kids to me?
#24
I recently found out that a friend from high school was 5 months pregnant. I hadn't kept in touch with her since high school (a year and some change ago), but that still came as a surprise. Another friend of mine recently got engaged to her high school steady (no kids, as far as I know).

It feels weird to think about that, especially considering that I still have somewhere between four and six more years of school ahead of me.
#25
My friend told me she was pregnant a couple of months ago so I told her I'd punch her in the stomach. Long story short, she's not pregnant now.
#26
Had a girl have a baby in 8th grade lol

Highschool was pretty average when it came to teen pregnancy I think.

Two of my friends I used to hang out with all the time (not anymore though) fathered babys right out of highschool, and both of them stayed. One's studying engineering and one's working at a gas station
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Explain the appeal of having five kids to me?

I know plenty of people with five kids. Not anywhere close to my age though

They seem just as happy as anyone else.
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Put it this way, my high school had a population of 500ish, and we had a day-care built next door to take care of all the newborns while their mothers were at school.
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We had a few pregnancies, lotsa white trash people at my school. At least a couple of the mothers appear to be good mothers though.
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Put it this way, my high school had a population of 500ish, and we had a day-care built next door to take care of all the newborns while their mothers were at school.


THAT is crazy. We had a day-care too, but it was for our child development classes where the students would work with kids. My school was around 2,000, and that was just 10-12. Freshmen had their own seperate building.


We had a couple that got married over spring break Senior year.. during graduation when they called the girl now with her husband's last name up, the entire room went silent (this was at a popular concert venue near downtown Grand Rapids). One of the most awkward high school moments I can recall. Poor guy, she totally dragged him into it by his nutsack. I can understand she wanted to take their relationship to another level after 3 years of dating, but at that point marriage truly would just be a title. They wouldn't have the scratch to live on their own or support a child, so I don't see what they were so excited about. Just my thoughts
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One of the trashier schools around has a daycare for the mothers. All of the girls who have kids transfer there for the daycare service.

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THAT is crazy. We had a day-care too, but it was for our child development classes where the students would work with kids. My school was around 2,000, and that was just 10-12. Freshmen had their own seperate building.


We had a couple that got married over spring break Senior year.. during graduation when they called the girl now with her husband's last name up, the entire room went silent (this was at a popular concert venue near downtown Grand Rapids). One of the most awkward high school moments I can recall. Poor guy, she totally dragged him into it by his nutsack. I can understand she wanted to take their relationship to another level after 3 years of dating, but at that point marriage truly would just be a title. They wouldn't have the scratch to live on their own or support a child, so I don't see what they were so excited about. Just my thoughts

I know a girl from my school who got engaged at 17, and married just after she turned 18. Was weird.
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Explain the appeal of having five kids to me?

I'd like a large family. I'd like all of my kids to learn things like how to take care of each other. If the older ones learn a bit how to take care of the younger ones (at their mother's and my direction), then I think that'd be a good thing. It's not like 5 kids is some hard number I'm shooting for. I just like the idea of a large family.
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Having 5 kids is a cultural problem?


At such a young age and for the reasons they have them, yeah, it's a problem. I'm in Utah if you didn't know.

You know, considering your anti-natal thread, I have no damn idea why anyone would take you opinion on kids/pregnancy.:


Considering the majority of people didn't put any thought into the discussion, I don't care about them.
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So I'd generally consider my high school to be very conservative, and about one step short of being private and Christian. I think throughout my four years there we had one pregnancy that was widely known about... and I'm sure she got harassed like crazy. I felt bad for her, but it didn't excuse the fact that she was a ditzy girl who had sex with some random dude to get back at her boyfriend and got knocked up.

However, my Facebook news feed has just started to fill up with girls my age getting the news of their pregnancies, ultrasound pics, etc. (I'm two years out of high school). It's just a little unnerving to me when they're all commenting on each other's statuses about how their babies are going to be best friends like they're all getting puppies or something.

My question to The Pit is: What was/is the pregnancy issue like at your high school (or college)? Is it a problem? Is your school similar to mine? Or is it somewhere in between?

And also: Are the mothers actually good? Does the boy stick around generally or does he usually bail like I've seen?

Sorry about the mob of questions, this is just starting to happen to my HS class and I'm legitimately curious.


Well, I'm...5 years out of High school. When I was 15-16 there were already two girls who fell pregnant.

Now, I'd say 5-10 of them are pregnant or have babies, maybe more than that. One I know is 22 and is on her second baby. It's her second husband/boyfriend, since the first one bailed on her.

Whether they are good mothers or bad is hard to say. However, I have noticed that my friends in the early 20s seem kinda desperate to get married. Alone in December somewhere between 5-10 already got engaged or married. I think "Damn yo, y'all so young, enjoy your lives a little, do some coke, fight a midget, start a business, why y'all do desperate to die already?"

But that's my opinion.

Keep that in mind. I think there's a bit of a crisis that happens when kids hit their early 20s. They don't know what to do, so they get engaged, pregnant or married.
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At such a young age and for the reasons they have them, yeah, it's a problem. I'm in Utah if you didn't know.

I doubt Utah's really any more backwards than anywhere else. Yeah, maybe the Mormons are weird, but as long as they can support their families, fine. If they can't support their families...then, they're not doing it right.


Considering the majority of people didn't put any thought into the discussion, I don't care about them.

Yeah, but you don't even think kids should be brought into this world is my point.
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I know a girl from my school who got engaged at 17, and married just after she turned 18. Was weird.

I knew this one girl for years, met her in church as a three year old when my family still went. She got pregnant at 16, dropped out of school, then got her parent's consent to get married at 16 or 17.
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One girl in my chemistry class just had a baby a couple weeks ago. I'm still actually unsure of her name somehow come to think of it but she seems really kind and I doubt she'd be a shitty mother. All the other girls who got pregnant I know seem like they would be ****ing awful and I'm pretty sure the fathers ditched.
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I doubt Utah's really any more backwards than anywhere else. Yeah, maybe the Mormons are weird, but as long as they can support their families, fine. If they can't support their families...then, they're not doing it right.


That's the thing though, they jump into it when they're barely adults and all because they have to have as many children as possible in order to "build up the kingdom of God".

And the culture really is backwards here. o_o


Yeah, but you don't even think kids should be brought into this world is my point.


That doesn't mean I shouldn't have opinions about parenting. I still support adoption after all.
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