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Heya, pitters

A friend of mine came out last week as transgender. Everyone has been very supportive and cool, and she seems a lot happier since. However, I have no idea what the expected protocol is here - I also want to show my support in a non-crude sort of way. I can't tell if getting her a present would be hilarious or patronising.

So - anybody have any experience with this kind of thing? Anybody come out as anything and got cool presents?
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#3
Strap on?
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#4
Buy her a penis/dildo.


Or something.
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#6
Something sentimental that shows support. If they are going to change (either physically or how they identify with their gender) then it'll be a tough road ahead of them and it's good to show you're there.

ie - what whoomit said.
#9
If you get cool presents for coming out....then....

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#10
How about you and your friends just take her out to dinner? Or a group photo of you guys in a nice frame. Your support is probably the most important thing to her, I think a photo of all her friends around her would help illustrate that.
#11
Write her a letter.
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#12
Wait, so is it a man that thinks he's a woman or a woman thinking she's a man? That matters.
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#15
Asking about something like this in the pit...you obviously know the type of answers you will receive, therefore one can only assume you've opened this thread already knowing what you're getting her and are just sitting back waiting for lulz
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#16
How about don't do shit. I don't get f@cking presents for being straight.
Or male, or being Multi ethnic.

You're making it weirder by doing anything at all. Praising her for who she is, is like patting a dog on the head just for being a dog.

Wait..
#17
Do you mean she as in she or she as in he but you just don't know any better so you're still saying she? It makes a difference.
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#19
That's because you're gross and not very nice. I get presents all the time.
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#21
If it's a guy going girl then pay to have a mold of his penis taken and then a dildo made from it so after he has the operation he can quite literally fuck himself.
#23
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If it's a guy going girl then pay to have a mold of his penis taken and then a dildo made from it so after he has the operation he can quite literally fuck himself.


That's making a lot of rather large assumptions though...
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That's making a lot of rather large assumptions though...

Well if it's the other way around then take a mould of her vagina and have that turned into a fleshlight.
#27
M to F, for everyone confused.

I like the photo idea and the teddy bear.
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#28
What about something to wear intended for females? It seems like a nice way to communicate that you totally accept her for being a woman, and isn't an unnatural gift to give anyway :3
#29
In the interest of true equality, perhaps no one should give a shit.
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Who's talking about equality? If anyone takes a big step in their lives it would not be unusual for their friends to want to celebrate and share in that.
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#32
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If it's a guy going girl then pay to have a mold of his penis taken and then a dildo made from it so after he has the operation he can quite literally fuck himself.

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#33
Bake her a cake and write PENISES SUCK on it in pink icing.



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#34
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I like the photo idea and the teddy bear.


Get her clothes and makeup. That's what people get me. Well, nobody has gotten me makeup yet, but that will come soon enough. I've gotten plenty of clothes though.
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#35
I think the best thing to give her is a restraining order.
They made me do push ups in drag

I'm gonna have a really hard time if we're both cannibals and racists.

Don't dress as a whore, he'll thump you.

I'm a firework, primed to go off
#36
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Get her clothes and makeup. That's what people get me. Well, nobody has gotten me makeup yet, but that will come soon enough. I've gotten plenty of clothes though.


Maybe you are just too pretty for make up ;P

Also, what about Jewellery? Or chocolate. Those are generally the safe options when buying a girl a present
#37
A hug and a kick in the invisiballs.

Hilarious jokes aside, sounds like you need a new amp.
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#38
Tell him you love her.
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#39
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Maybe you are just too pretty for make up ;P

Also, what about Jewellery? Or chocolate. Those are generally the safe options when buying a girl a present


Thanks, I guess.

Jewellery really depends, since some girls don't wear any at all and those that do only wear certain things, so it's very hit or miss. I guess the same can be said about clothes, but clothes are better because if you have a ton of old stuff, she could surely find something that she likes.

Chocolate... I guess it's the same really: hit or miss. There is also the possibility that she may want to start losing weight for when she starts HRT. Though I'm sure a little bit of chocolate couldn't hurt.

I personally like things that subtly incorporate trans color. Things like scarves for example. Actually, I have this one scarf with the trans colors on right now. I feel like anything that's too attention-drawing is kind of bad, like any sort of t-shirt that says "trans pride" or something on it.

I think it depends on how close you are though. Getting underwear or pads for her for example is a bad idea unless you are very close with her.

Another thing to consider is her timeline as far as transitioning (I'm assuming that she is a transsexual or at least genderqueer). She might not want to any time soon or even ever. If she is not transitioning soon, things like clothing are not as useful for the time being, since she probably will not dress as female except in private.

It's not like there is any sort of standard time frame in terms of coming out and going through different stages of transitioning. She might want to start fairly soon, or she might not want to start for a few years, and this might change as time goes on. For example, when I first started coming out in real life four months ago, I didn't even really want to consider transitioning publicly until at least after graduating, and yet here I am now.
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A hug and a kick in the invisiballs.

Hilarious jokes aside, sounds like you need a new amp.




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