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guy_tebache
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#1
Hey Pit

So I just went to the movies with a couple of friends, one of whom is a girl I'm vaguely interested in dating. The only reason I havent asked her out yet is because I'm waiting to find out from a friend if he is already after her. He's not a close friend, but he's just come out of a messy divorce and I dont want to get in his way if its something he needs.

What are your thoughts? Hit on her anyway, or be the gentleman?
chookiecookie
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#2
Stealing a girl is a gigantic dick move.

Only do it if you're one of the lowest life forms to ever exist. Bros before hoes.

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#3
Hit on her. Friends are for chumps.
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theogonia777
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#4
This is not really something you should ask the internet because we don't really know you or your friend and therefore we can't really give good advice for your particular situation. Actually, even if we knew you in real life relationship advice is still kind of pointless because every situation is different.

That being said, the only advice I can give is to... I don't know... ask your friend if he is interested in that girl?
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#5
Be a nice guy, but if he takes forever to make a move then she's fair game.
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#6
Just hit her

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Gantz92
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#7
If you're only vaguely interested it doesn't seem like it's worth possibly upsetting the guy.
guy_tebache
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#8
Quote by theogonia777

That being said, the only advice I can give is to... I don't know... ask your friend if he is interested in that girl?

Oh that I will, and I dont expect to gain any serious insight into this from the Pit. I just wanted the pit to help me mull it over really.

I suppose I'm really just trying to incite discussion on the topic.
JohnnyGenzale
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#9
Do you like her? Does she like you? I don't even see why your friend would want a girl who's interested in his friend.

She's an adult and can take her own decisions. I assume. So meeeh.
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MadClownDisease
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#10
Obviously ultimately it's down to who she actually likes, she's not just someone you can either choose to have or leave to your friend, BUT also obviously it's best to hold off trying if you think it'll upset your friend.
guy_tebache
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#11
Quote by JohnnyGenzale
Do you like her? Does she like you?

**** I dont know. I'm asking her out, not asking her to marry me.
She seems pretty cool. that seems worthy of a date.
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#12
Quote by guy_tebache
**** I dont know. I'm asking her out, not asking her to marry me.
She seems pretty cool. that seems worthy of a date.


If it's just a spur of the moment thing I'd advice against it if you don't wanna make it sour with your friend.

Does he like her a lot?

Is it worth it for you?
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MadClownDisease
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#13
Quote by guy_tebache
**** I dont know. I'm asking her out, not asking her to marry me.
She seems pretty cool. that seems worthy of a date.

I still think whether you like each other is pretty important if you're asking someone out...


If she doesn't like you then this whole problem is moot, and if she doesn't like your friend then really you're not treading on his toes anyway as he doesn't have a chance. If she does like you and not your friend, then respect his feelings but really you're not actually harming his chances anyway.
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#15
I was once in the situation where my friend and I both liked the same girl, but when I found out he was after, I decided to step aside, after hearing from him that he'd do the same. That way none of us would have to worry about her and we'd both be..alone.

Anyway, a month later, she tells me they've been going out for 2 months.

Don't be a gentlemen. Crush your friend's pansy face into the ground.
Mr.-Bungle
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#17
Just ask her out, it'll be her choice in the end either way. Don't miss out on the (ass) love bruv
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Stealing a girl is a gigantic dick move.

Only do it if you're one of the lowest life forms to ever exist. Bros before hoes.

no offence

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gah.. shoot some H, look deeply into her eyes and emrace eternity!

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#20
I've stepped aside for my friends and whats morally right all my life and i'm miserable, so i'd say go for it.
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Quote by chookiecookie
Stealing a girl is a gigantic dick move.

Only do it if you're one of the lowest life forms to ever exist. Bros before hoes.

no offence

the ****? are you saying just because a friend is interested, they have some sort of special right to the woman in question?

Not only is that vaguely sexist, but it's pretty arbitrary as well. It would only be a dick move if they are already in a relationship.
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#25
You guys are grown men. Im sure you can work something out together if you talk about it. In the end, let your friend go for it and if it doesn't work out you go in the the kill.
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#26
Quote by TooktheAtrain
the ****? are you saying just because a friend is interested, they have some sort of special right to the woman in question?

Not only is that vaguely sexist, but it's pretty arbitrary as well. It would only be a dick move if they are already in a relationship.

Girls think like that all the time. It's kinda weird
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#28
if she's not with either of you then it's fair game. and this is coming from the loser of these situations.
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#29
First step would be to inform yourself if she's even interested in either of you. If not... well. There you have it.
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#33
Dont ever **** with another mans girl. Yeah she may not be his girlfriend, but if hes romantically interested in her back off.


Just a personal life rule that I keep.


Edit: to clarify I only keep that rule with friends however, and the girl also has to show some kind of attraction.
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thePTOD
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#34
Tag team her obviously.

But no really, ask your friend if he has plans to date her. If not, great. If he does, make it a romantic comedy-esque competition.
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#35
Quote by angusfan16
Dont ever **** with another mans girl. Yeah she may not be his girlfriend, but if hes romantically interested in her back off.


Just a personal life rule that I keep.


Edit: to clarify I only keep that rule with friends however, and the girl also has to show some kind of attraction.


Do they extend the same courtesy to you? Seems like a bit of a loser's rule, since you're handicapping yourself unnecessarily.

What I don't get is that if they were playing by the same rules as you, it'd cancel out and neither of you would have a shot.
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#36
I lost my two best friends due to something like this. Don't be a dick TS.
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angusfan16
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#37
Quote by TooktheAtrain
Do they extend the same courtesy to you? Seems like a bit of a loser's rule, since you're handicapping yourself unnecessarily.

What I don't get is that if they were playing by the same rules as you, it'd cancel out and neither of you would have a shot.


I would expect them too. Its just common courtesy. And how Is it handicapping myself? Ive dated/had a fling/flirted with plenty of women and ive never felt like having a rule like that has made me handicapped.
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#38
I don't know, I've been on both sides. First time, one of my friends made a move and it made me realise it had been waiting far too long and needed to grow a pair. It did hurt a bit but that was my problem. Second time, I didn't hesitate and it worked, at least for a while.
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#39
Quote by chookiecookie
Stealing a girl is a gigantic dick move.

Only do it if you're one of the lowest life forms to ever exist. Bros before hoes.

no offence

I feel like this kind of sentiment belongs in middle school and among immature frat boys...

OT:
I'd say, talk to your friend. Let him know that you like this woman. Say that you're asking her out. Hear his side. Then, make a decision.
chookiecookie
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#40
Quote by TooktheAtrain
the ****? are you saying just because a friend is interested, they have some sort of special right to the woman in question?

Not only is that vaguely sexist, but it's pretty arbitrary as well. It would only be a dick move if they are already in a relationship.


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I feel like this kind of sentiment belongs in middle school and among immature frat boys...


If a friend is interested in a female and has expressed that to you, it's kind of, you know, shitty to make an advance towards her.

I'm sure if you fell for someone, expressed it to a friend, then found out that he (or she) started fucking that person after you told them, you'd be a little upset.
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