#1
within one octave i feel like i recognize how a tone is pulling. but in multiple octaves that feel completely disappears.

What should i be thinking or doing for the recognition to carry over to multiple octaves?
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#2
well...i never had this problem...im just saying this is strange to me

but in different octaves try to listen to the notes that lead to the cadence
like in a V-I cadence try to listen to where ti(7) and re(2) go
#3
Focus on the bass/root note of the chord as well as the flavour (Maj/Min/Dim/Aug) of each chord. That should help you distinguish cadences.