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#41
Quote by Todd Hart

Well it's bizarre to spend time kissing and cuddling and doing coupley things with someone else, no?
I guess, I've just never heard of anyone doing it.

Toddy, show respect for your fellow brother and don't shag his missus.
#42
Quote by willT08
I guess, I've just never heard of anyone doing it.

Toddy, show respect for your fellow brother and don't shag his missus.


BUT HE'S SO BORING WILL!!!!
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#43
Quote by Todd Hart
BUT HE'S SO BORING WILL!!!!


People probably say the same about you. Doesn't make them helping people break social contracts any more justifiable.
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#44
I was about to bone my girlfriend but then there was this drill and she said that there was no way.
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#45
Quote by TunerAddict
People probably say the same about you. Doesn't make them helping people break social contracts any more justifiable.


Undoubtedly, but then if I were emotionally blackmailing my girlfriend and telling her that I wouldn't want to carry on without her, I think I could - in a more lucid state of mind - see why she might want to be with someone else, boring or not.

Okay then, is it acceptable to encourage a friend to break up with her boyfriend because he's an arse, and she agrees, even if you have a vested interest in her being single? (which is more accurate to my current situation).
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#46
Quote by Todd Hart
BUT HE'S SO BORING WILL!!!!

And that's unforgivable. But it's no excuse to knowingly help his girlfriend betray the trust implicit in their relationship.

However I'm fairly sure you're going to carry on seeing her anyway if you're anything like the man I imagine.

EDIT: ^ To be honest, that I'm pretty much fine with.
#47
Quote by willT08
And that's unforgivable. But it's no excuse to knowingly help his girlfriend betray the trust implicit in their relationship.


I haven't done anything like that yet. She invited me to stay round hers when we were drunk on Wednesday and I said no. The reason I'm asking is because the more I hear about the relationship the less I feel compelled to say no next time.

However I'm fairly sure you're going to carry on seeing her anyway if you're anything like the man I imagine.



What are you implying!
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#48
Quote by Todd Hart

Okay then, is it acceptable to encourage a friend to break up with her boyfriend because he's an arse, and she agrees, even if you have a vested interest in her being single? (which is more accurate to my current situation).


Yes. Nothing wrong with encouraging people to do what they want to do.
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#49
Quote by TunerAddict
Yes. Nothing wrong with encouraging people to do what they want to do.


Yeah, but I feel iffy about it given that I'm almost guaranteed to profit from it, so I feel a little uncertain that I'm acting on good motives.
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#50
Quote by Todd Hart
Yeah, but I feel iffy about it given that I'm almost guaranteed to profit from it, so I feel a little uncertain that I'm acting on good motives.


Fair enough. Conflict of interest and what not.
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#51
Quote by Todd Hart
I haven't done anything like that yet. She invited me to stay round hers when we were drunk on Wednesday and I said no. The reason I'm asking is because the more I hear about the relationship the less I feel compelled to say no next time.
The operative word being 'yet'. Just don't do it dude, you'll feel like a cunt afterwards believe me.
What are you implying!

Well I think you're probably like me. That might be insulting
#52
Quote by TunerAddict
Fair enough. Conflict of interest and what not.


Well it's not even that. I mean, really this is a complete alignment of interests. As her friend I want her to be happy and so leave him, but as her... interest I want her to be with me. It's just when the two meet it seems a little morally confusing.

I feel I'm totalising the thread a little, though, so thanks for the opinions people, I'll be quiet now.
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#53
Quote by Todd Hart
Yeah, but I feel iffy about it given that I'm almost guaranteed to profit from it, so I feel a little uncertain that I'm acting on good motives.


It's a little scummy but not inherently wrong. Selfish and manipulative yes, morally reprehensible not really.
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#54
Quote by TunerAddict
I only talk to girls who stare at me uncontrollably for weeks on end, and that usually takes months to work up to.


No but I meant if you're just in the city and see some cute girl, do you walk up to her and talk?
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#55
Quote by willT08
The operative word being 'yet'. Just don't do it dude, you'll feel like a cunt afterwards believe me.

Well I think you're probably like me. That might be insulting


Oh, I know. I've been there and done that before. (I realise now I'm painting myself like some post-ending Dorian Gray here).

And I have no idea how to respond.

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It's a little scummy but not inherently wrong. Selfish and manipulative yes, morally reprehensible not really.


I think I can live with 'selfish and manipulative' if it means I get a however brief period of not being utterly bored of being single before she cheats on me. That's kind of pathetic, isn't it? Hmm.

I think, based on this conversation, I'm going to actually press this more next time I see her. We've been rather avoiding explicitly talking about it. I mean we've talked about them, and we've intimated about us, but we've never really openly talked about it.


Quote by Axeaman
No but I meant if you're just in the city and see some cute girl, do you walk up to her and talk?


I don't think I'd do it just on the street, but in pubs and clubs I've done it before - though usually not alone, like a group of us will walk up to another group and just start mingling (usually with girls on the mind, lets not be coy ) I think generally in those places people are happy to be flirty and talkative and to start forming new friendships, but I think it'd be a little odd to just do it on the street.
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Last edited by Todd Hart at May 26, 2013,
#56
Quote by Axeaman
No but I meant if you're just in the city and see some cute girl, do you walk up to her and talk?


Why not? She isn't going to bite you lol. Go for it, worst case you get some free conversation practice.
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#57
Todd, you're fairly certain that she's into you yes? Now I'm a sucker for fiction romance so apologies if my advice sounds too much like a movie.
But wouldn't it be pretty nice to talk to her about her current relationship, the quality of it, and how you as a friend don't like to see her in a relationship she doesn't even really want to be in? Then after having said that, depending on her response, you can just make it all an epic reveal and just finally get it all out in the open.

Tell her that while you want to see her happy as a friend, you also have some other reasons for encouraging her to break up. Now, build on this tension for a little bit and just enjoy it, if that was in a movie I'd be eating that shit up, anyhow, by telling you that you're actually deeply, madly in love or what have you, you'd be removing the manipulative aspect of it (kind of). It might still be selfish, but at least your honest about your intentions. And after all that build-up and all those implicit emotions, that honesty will be pretty damn exciting.

Now, of course I as well am not too keen on the whole adultery thing, so what you would do in that situation would be to leave her with those words and then wait a little to see how the whole thing plays out. In a week or so she'll be ringing at your door, preferably in the rain or something, and just assault you with a passionate kiss as you open.
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#58
Quote by Axeaman
No but I meant if you're just in the city and see some cute girl, do you walk up to her and talk?


There's no reason whatsoever to avoid talking to her. I'll give you some examples of my experiences walking up to a random girl I see in a city:

I'm at a bar with some friends and some music is playing. There's this really cute girl there and I go up to start a conversation. I start talking about something (I don't remember), and as soon as I get past that first topic, I start to fumble my words searching for something else to talk about. There's a really awkward silence and I feel horribly embarrassed. I then start working the conversation toward an end and afterwards I walk away and move on.

I saw a really cute girl at a store once. She was looking at a movie, so I went up and introduced my name, asked for hers, and started talking about movies. We had a good conversation and then when I was starting to move the conversation toward seeing her again, she mentions her husband. After a little bit longer we ended it, I said "Well have a good day" and moved on.

My freshman year of college I saw a cute girl on campus so I went up to talk to her. The conversation goes really well, and I say my friends and I are going to a hookah bar and asked if she would like to come. She said it sounds like fun but she has a boyfriend. We say our goodbyes and I move on.

These are seriously the "worst case scenarios," and not a single bad thing happened to me. So there really is no reason to avoid talking to a girl you think is cute.
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#59
I've thought about it and decided that I know too little of relationships. I just am unable to form them myself. I am a reallt unlikeable person.
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I can't believe you are whoring yourself out like that.

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#60
Quote by Neo Evil11
I've thought about it and decided that I know too little of relationships. I just am unable to form them myself. I am a reallt unlikeable person.


Hitler had a girlfriend

Nobody finds the perfect fit on the 1st try. Keep going at it and eventually you'll be pro at relationships. Like playing guitar ey
#61
Quote by Neo Evil11
I've thought about it and decided that I know too little of relationships. I just am unable to form them myself. I am a reallt unlikeable person.


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#62
Quote by Freezer Burn



New RT? Defrocked is sure to be on the first page after not posting for what seems months. Coincidence??


What do you mean? I've been acting as a wise overseer, I still read the threads and posts but most of the time, the regulars say all that is needed. Plus with uni work, I've just not had the time. I will now though!!
#63
Quote by Axeaman
No but I meant if you're just in the city and see some cute girl, do you walk up to her and talk?


If I'm in the city I have no time for pointless conversations as I'm trying my best to get the **** out of there.
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#64
You can go up and talk to anyone you want. Just be mindful of what they're doing and whether it is a good time to talk to them. Headphones in, in a hurry, reading a book, engrossed in a conversation with someone else = don't do it (unless you have something to say about the book.) Whereas if they're strolling around or generally don't look like they're doing anything you have no reason not to talk to them.
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#66
hi guys i had a crush on this gurl for 3 years now and i think she likes me the other day she put her hand on my lap and laughed and then yesterday she said that we're good friends how do i ask her out


howz it goiiiinn rt. damn i remember when i came in the last thread to ask for advice on the long distance relationship i had when i was 15. has it really been 3 months?
#67
Quote by TunerAddict
That is a pretty selfish rationale for why it is wrong.


Instead of bashing my advice, give us some of your own. I am a firm believer in once a cheater, always a cheater.

Quote by leony03
I was about to bone my girlfriend but then there was this drill and she said that there was no way.


Rephrase this, but this time don't sound like an idiot.

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What do you mean? I've been acting as a wise overseer, I still read the threads and posts but most of the time, the regulars say all that is needed. Plus with uni work, I've just not had the time. I will now though!!


Wise overseer? Yeah right, don't press your luck

Your last 2 posts were in May and April, and before that, December. I know how you work, you just wanted to be on the front page, and you'll come back with more excuses as to why you can't be as active anymore.

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hi guys i had a crush on this gurl for 3 years now and i think she likes me the other day she put her hand on my lap and laughed and then yesterday she said that we're good friends how do i ask her out


You go up to her and ask if she wants to go out with you?
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07/31/08

FREEZER BURN s YELLOWFRIZBEE
#68
Quote by Freezer Burn

Wise overseer? Yeah right, don't press your luck

Your last 2 posts were in May and April, and before that, December. I know how you work, you just wanted to be on the front page, and you'll come back with more excuses as to why you can't be as active anymore.


I don't need to justify my absence

Anyways, I'm not on the first page, I'm on the second one, so there! I only come on UG for the RT and when i do, I read a bit and leave. If I wasn't following I wouldn't have known about the thread. besides, I remember you taking a long break due to college, yet still making the first page of all threads!
#70
Hi guys! I need some ideas for a killer 3rd date. We already went out to a coffe shop, and then ext time we went to play pool, but now im kinda out of fresh ideas, at least good ones. Any suggestions? I'd kinda like to make a move, and i dunno what would be good for that, but i think the girl likes me, so i wanna go for it. Anyway, halp plox :P

Also, why is there a new thread?
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#71
Quote by thedefrockednun
I don't need to justify my absence

Anyways, I'm not on the first page, I'm on the second one, so there! I only come on UG for the RT and when i do, I read a bit and leave. If I wasn't following I wouldn't have known about the thread. besides, I remember you taking a long break due to college, yet still making the first page of all threads!


People still use 20ppp?

That is not true. I came back and you had already made a new threw with practically no permission from anyone, but that is neither here nor there.

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Hi guys! I need some ideas for a killer 3rd date. We already went out to a coffe shop, and then ext time we went to play pool, but now im kinda out of fresh ideas, at least good ones. Any suggestions? I'd kinda like to make a move, and i dunno what would be good for that, but i think the girl likes me, so i wanna go for it. Anyway, halp plox :P

Also, why is there a new thread?


If she's willing to go on a 3rd date with you, then you shouldn't stress too much about what to do. Ask her if she has any suggestions, if not, invite her out to a fairly nice restaurant. That's always a solid 3rd date idea.
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07/31/08

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#72
hi RT! question - meeting people. i'm in a bit of a rut at the minute, just broke up with my lady friend a month or so ago, and am at a bit of a loss about how to meet new people. problem is, most of my friends don't live in the city anymore as they're at uni, so i often don't have people to go out with. the people i've been involved with recently have all kind of been strokes of luck - people i've worked with, people i've known for a while and most recently just a girl that was working outside my work and i went and chatted to her.

the question is kind of just - how do you go about meeting people when a lot of the time you don't really have the opportunity to get out and about with pals? i'm not that keen on the idea of just going to bars and farting around on my own going and talking to people that are out with their friends, y'know? are there decent ways of meeting people when you yourself often are alone?

maybe it's a bit of a vague question - i'm pretty braindead right now, sorry about that.

EDIT: also, i got tickets to a show soon which i'm really looking forward to but no longer have anyone to go with as i was gunna go with the girlfriend. not that that's related, that's just a bummer, lol. it'd be nice to meet someone to bring along to that.
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#73
Quote by Freezer Burn
Instead of bashing my advice, give us some of your own. I am a firm believer in once a cheater, always a cheater.



I didn't bash your advice, and I did give my own advice.
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#74
Quote by Freezer Burn


Ask her if she has any suggestions, if not, invite her out to a fairly nice restaurant. That's always a solid 3rd date idea.


Great advice, a nice restaurant shows that you mean business, and perhaps lets her see a more formal side to you. Sometimes my boyfriend and I like to keep it interesting and keep the date a surprise, and just tell them what kind of clothes to wear (casual, formal...) and what time you'll pick them up, and any other requirements, a little neat future idea to try to keep them on their toes.

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Quote by kthxbi
hi RT! question - meeting people. i'm in a bit of a rut at the minute, just broke up with my lady friend a month or so ago, and am at a bit of a loss about how to meet new people.
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the question is kind of just - how do you go about meeting people when a lot of the time you don't really have the opportunity to get out and about with pals?
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are there decent ways of meeting people when you yourself often are alone?


I would suggest joining a club or society that you're interested in if possible. Specifically one with regular meet ups in your area, that way you can meet people with a common interest, and start to build relationships. And as they're likely to be living in your area to attend the meet ups, it shouldn't be too hard to go to the bar with them at some point as pals.
Same kind of thing goes to local courses or charity associations.
Good luck
#75
Quote by Våd Hamster
Hitler had a girlfriend

Nobody finds the perfect fit on the 1st try. Keep going at it and eventually you'll be pro at relationships. Like playing guitar ey

You underestimate me. I´m very selfish.
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I can't believe you are whoring yourself out like that.

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#76
Quote by >>>G30<<<
I would suggest joining a club or society that you're interested in if possible. Specifically one with regular meet ups in your area, that way you can meet people with a common interest, and start to build relationships. And as they're likely to be living in your area to attend the meet ups, it shouldn't be too hard to go to the bar with them at some point as pals.
Same kind of thing goes to local courses or charity associations.
Good luck
thanks for that, brother. i'd wondered if that might be a good way forward - just gotta figure out if there's anything like that going on in my area. music's basically my only hobby so will have to keep eyes peeled. i figure it'd also be good to start doing some open mics and stuff - that'd benefit my life in more ways than just meeting people i think. time to gear up.
#77
Stickied!!!

Good to see this thread is getting some more traffic than the last one. Let's try to keep it this way people.
#78
Quote by Freezer Burn
People still use 20ppp?

That is not true. I came back and you had already made a new threw with practically no permission from anyone, but that is neither here nor there.


That's hardly fair, I remember you saying openly that somebody should take over, and at the time I was a regular and I talked it over with the other regulars AND I got permission from Carmel. So that's simply not true and just aggravating.

Here is where I checked with other regulars: https://www.ultimate-guitar.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1052200&page=491&pp=20

Here's the message to Carmel:

Quote by thedefrockednun

Hi Carmel, the Relationship Thread is starting to reach 10k posts, Freezer burn said that he won't open the new one.

I wanted to ask for your permission to open a new one. Ever since Silent Deftone's RT was “full” I wanted to create the new one, could I please be the TS of the new Relationship Thread (I promise I'll do a good job)?


Quote by Carmel

Sure, just PM me the new link and I'll replace it in the sticky.



Just because I'm not a regular poster on the thread anymore, doesn't mean I can't post does it? Doesn't make my posts any less valid either, does it? Doesn't mean you gotta be a dick about it ether, does it?

Anyway, this isn;t the place for this argument, but just wanted to put that out there.
#79
Quote by kthxbi
hi RT! question - meeting people. i'm in a bit of a rut at the minute, just broke up with my lady friend a month or so ago, and am at a bit of a loss about how to meet new people. problem is, most of my friends don't live in the city anymore as they're at uni, so i often don't have people to go out with. the people i've been involved with recently have all kind of been strokes of luck - people i've worked with, people i've known for a while and most recently just a girl that was working outside my work and i went and chatted to her.

the question is kind of just - how do you go about meeting people when a lot of the time you don't really have the opportunity to get out and about with pals? i'm not that keen on the idea of just going to bars and farting around on my own going and talking to people that are out with their friends, y'know? are there decent ways of meeting people when you yourself often are alone?

maybe it's a bit of a vague question - i'm pretty braindead right now, sorry about that.

EDIT: also, i got tickets to a show soon which i'm really looking forward to but no longer have anyone to go with as i was gunna go with the girlfriend. not that that's related, that's just a bummer, lol. it'd be nice to meet someone to bring along to that.


What are some of your interests? Maybe join a local book club if that's what your into. Or one of my favorites, join a local sports team, camaraderie is a great way to build some friendships. Once you find a girl you have the opportunity to start talking to, maybe casually invite her to that concert with you if she's into that kind of music. Seems like it could go well.

Quote by >>>G30<<<
Great advice, a nice restaurant shows that you mean business, and perhaps lets her see a more formal side to you. Sometimes my boyfriend and I like to keep it interesting and keep the date a surprise, and just tell them what kind of clothes to wear (casual, formal...) and what time you'll pick them up, and any other requirements, a little neat future idea to try to keep them on their toes.


Agreed. You'll get bonus points for

1) Picking her up
2) Being punctual
3) Meeting her parents (her father especially) and asking what time they'd like you to have her back by.

Once the parents see that you aren't just some other scumbag that wants to get in their daughter's pants, you'll have a lot more freedom in doing things with her in the near future.

Quote by thedefrockednun
That's hardly fair, I remember you saying openly that somebody should take over, and at the time I was a regular and I talked it over with the other regulars AND I got permission from Carmel. So that's simply not true and just aggravating.

Here is where I checked with other regulars: https://www.ultimate-guitar.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1052200&page=491&pp=20

Just because I'm not a regular poster on the thread anymore, doesn't mean I can't post does it? Doesn't make my posts any less valid either, does it? Doesn't mean you gotta be a dick about it ether, does it?

Anyway, this isn;t the place for this argument, but just wanted to put that out there.


Look, dude, I don't want to bring this up again in here, but you didn't really do anything besides say "Hey I wanna do it, k thanks". I never said I didn't want to make another sequel, and you didn't even PM me telling me that you were making one. HOWEVER, I'm done with this, and anything else beyond this can be taken up via PMs.
R.I.P. Jeb
07/31/08

FREEZER BURN s YELLOWFRIZBEE
#80
Quote by Freezer Burn

Look, dude, I don't want to bring this up again in here, but you didn't really do anything besides say "Hey I wanna do it, k thanks". I never said I didn't want to make another sequel, and you didn't even PM me telling me that you were making one. HOWEVER, I'm done with this, and anything else beyond this can be taken up via PMs.


I'll PM you, but I don't wanna look like an ass (and this argument has probably made us both look like one by now) cause I'm in the right. I asked a mod for permission, I asked on the thread if anyone objected and I PMed ALL the regulars to make sure they were ok with it.

As for you saying you didn't wanna do a sequel: https://www.ultimate-guitar.com/forum/showpost.php?p=19918730&postcount=9247