#1
As a corollary to this thread - https://www.ultimate-guitar.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1606529 - what do you do with your arms when you're, say, standing in line? I've recently become really self conscious about what I do with my arms so I'm looking for suggestions.

ftr here's a little primer -
'Crossed arms might indicate that a person is feel defensive, self-protective, or closed-off.

Standing with hands placed on the hips can be an indication that a person is ready and in control, or it can also possibly be a sign of aggressiveness.

Clasping the hands behind the back might indicate that a person is feeling bored, anxious, or even angry.

Rapidly tapping fingers or fidgeting can be a sign that a person is bored, impatient, or frustrated.

Crossed legs can indicate that a person is feeling closed off or in need of privacy.'

I put my hands on my hips a lot which looks kind of goofy because of how skinny I am but ask me if I care.

Also share any other body language tips you've picked up.
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#6
hand on my dick
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I put my hands on my hips a lot which looks kind of goofy because of how skinny I am but ask me if I care.

Do you care?
#12
I put my weight on one leg and loop one of my thumbs (usually left hand) through my belt loop, and the other arm kinda just hang there

or I cross my arms and put weight on one leg

usually those two. Doesn't change that often
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#13
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Cross them and look unfriendly.


This.

Bonus points if you're holding a baby or groceries in said crossed arms.

I also pull my phone out and pretend im someone important.
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#14
Whenever I'm in a public situation with nothing to be doing I always bring out my phone and flick through my apps.
#15
I always cut my arms off and lay them on the floor. That way someone who's been reading a pop psychology article on the placement of my arms, can't figure out what my body language is saying.
#17
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Cross them


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I also pull my phone out and pretend im someone important.

Mostly these two.

Occasionally I try to do something with my hands and the pockets but then I feel dumb and awkward and go back to crossin.
#18
A lot of the time I'm drumming against my leg or hip cause I have a song in my head or listening to Ipod.

I also tend to cross my legs at the ankles when lounging but I tend to correct myself "POSTURE FFS, LEGS UNCROSSED LIKE A MAN"
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#19
in pockets or put one out against the wall (horizontal forearm support) and get a nice lean in as i take care of my procrastinated phone business with the free hand. gotta keep it comfy dudes, you are in a line anyways might as well get some shit done and comfort is key. nobody cares about what you are doing (and if they do why should you care).
#20
I usually alternate between keeping them at my sides or crossed. I've never really thought about it to be honest. I just do it subconsciously.
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A lot of the time I'm drumming against my leg or hip cause I have a song in my head or listening to Ipod.

I also tend to cross my legs at the ankles when lounging but I tend to correct myself "POSTURE FFS, LEGS UNCROSSED LIKE A MAN"


This ^
#22
When standing, I'll usually put my weight on one leg with my hands on my hips and/or stand on the sides of my feet/shoes while drumming on myself with my fingers, swaying back and forth, nodding my head, self-consciously adjusting my eyebrows, and making percussive sounds with my mouth.
#23
i git off my bitch ass n do sum fukn push 'm' ups m8 i kin binch 103.246 lbs cuz f all dem push 'm' ups i do m8 ya
#24
Thumbs in pockets. Leaves your hands pointing toward your crotch and looks confident.

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#25
Cross them or put them in my pocket or clap them together or something.
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#26
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put them in my pocket or clap them together or something.


Basically this. I have gotten self conscious about this too. I've made an effort to stop crossing my arms like I'm angry or whatever.

Edit: I sometimes do the hands on hips thing subconsciously, but unlike genghis, I kind of care and am trying to stop that too.

I don't know what I'm supposed to do.
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#27
I also just kinda fidget with things like a kid. Like if there's a wall I tap against it or play with the lines on it or something.
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#29
I think it's interesting to point out that in an age where everyone has their phones/ipods in their hands at all times, it has suddenly become weird to not be doing anything with your arms/hands.

That said, for me hands in pockets or arms crossed.
#30
Quote by Thrashtastic15
in pockets or put one out against the wall (horizontal forearm support) and get a nice lean in as i take care of my procrastinated phone business with the free hand. gotta keep it comfy dudes, you are in a line anyways might as well get some shit done and comfort is key. nobody cares about what you are doing (and if they do why should you care).


wow this is actually good advice
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#32
This is so strange to think about. If it's a really long line I'm on my phone. Short line or tolerable medium line, I don't do anything with my arms. they're just at my sides unless I'm carrying something.

Or I find a place to sit where I can still be in line.

Oh yeah body language tips. I'll post that documentary I mentioned in the other thread
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#34
Wave em in the air like you just don't care.
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