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I'm at home for the summer since I'm a university student, and for the last 4 months I haven't really done anything.

I get that when you move away people tend to move on with their own lives if they don't go with you, and that doesn't bother me so much - But the people who I still used to talk to and spend time with whenever I would be home seem to have just abandoned me recently, with no explanation or whatever. I try to get into contact with them but I seldom get a reply, and even if I do it's a very short 'conversation' that never results in spending time together. I pretty much only spend time with one friend here who I see on, I guess, a fortnightly basis here. The only other person I talk to is my mother, and she doesn't exactly help my situation ('why won't you get a job!?' Yeah, because I just haven't tried at all, have I? *rolls eyes*).

I haven't argued with anyone, or done anything that could end a friendship... I just don't get it.

So... have any of you ever felt like this? What did you do to cope with loneliness?
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#2
watch ferris bueller's day off
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#5
find a hobby. even if you don't want to do it, force yourself to occupy your time. loneliness becomes an issue when you mope around doing nothing, but it's that same feeling that makes it really hard for you to do stuff
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#6
If I can't spend time with anyone I'll just try to escape it with movies or shows or something. Or listen to music that knows what I'm feeling which makes it seem better
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#7
It's just part of growing up.

My summer been pretty crap too, people spending time with their bfs/gfs, going on holidays, working all the time, empty conversations promising to spend time together but leading to nothing, it's just the transition into the "real world".

It's just something you have to deal with. I throw myself into gaming and reading books, further your studies and take up a hobby and do social things whenever you can. You're not going to have summers sat in the sun drinking in a park ever again sadly

EDIT: Doing an internship or work experience might really help.

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#8
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watch ferris bueller's day off


same. Watch hearty old goody 80's/90's movies like, Home Alone, The Breakfast Club, Parent Trap, etc. Even though they have no impact on loneliness, they still brighten my life every time I watch them. I guess the nostalgia of the 90's/80's makes me reflect on a time of happiness and joy, which in turn voids the loneliness in my life.
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#11
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find a hobby.

I game a lot, play guitar and keep fit by doing cardio and going up the mountain and stuff, but it's just repetitive, you know?

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I throw myself into gaming and reading books, further your studies and take up a hobby and do social things whenever you can.

I've spent most of my summer either preparing for final year or my previously mentioned activities, it's a routine that makes me want to grind my face against the pavement.
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#15
Made a very similar thread a year ago, but I had more of a long-term problem. https://www.ultimate-guitar.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1556904&page=1&pp=40

But you've got uni starting again now, right? I've got a bit more than a week left myself, and aside from trying to review some math I've got no problem just being on the internet, learning some Japanese and reading the Game of Thrones books until then.
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I'm at home for the summer since I'm a university student, and for the last 4 months I haven't really done anything.

I get that when you move away people tend to move on with their own lives if they don't go with you, and that doesn't bother me so much - But the people who I still used to talk to and spend time with whenever I would be home seem to have just abandoned me recently, with no explanation or whatever. I try to get into contact with them but I seldom get a reply, and even if I do it's a very short 'conversation' that never results in spending time together. I pretty much only spend time with one friend here who I see on, I guess, a fortnightly basis here. The only other person I talk to is my mother, and she doesn't exactly help my situation ('why won't you get a job!?' Yeah, because I just haven't tried at all, have I? *rolls eyes*).

I haven't argued with anyone, or done anything that could end a friendship... I just don't get it.

So... have any of you ever felt like this? What did you do to cope with loneliness?

You're a university student? Focus on your studies.
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#17
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Preferably all at the same time.


This.

I read some good science fiction when I'm lonely, it helps me get mid off things.

EDIT: TS, maybe you simply like loneliness, like others of us people who like being alone and feeling worthless. It's better than being with someone else and feeling worthless.
And it hurts so good.
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#18
Drink black coffee and listen to Rock music.

Man, that combo keeps me insane, and I love being insane.
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#19
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While lonely, better yourself as a person so people will want to be around you.

Agreed.

Go out and do stuff. Dont just sit around being down all day.
#21
Do something useful. Volunteer at a hospital. Something that cannot be denied as purposeful and meaningful to other people.
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#22
Tbh, the people who are saying better yourself, etc. are probably right.

Doing something constructive, however small, always feels better than doing nothing at all.
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the chinese take-out place my family always ordered from gave you chopsticks, so as a kid it was fun to try & eat with chopsticks
now i just use a fork, 'cuz nothing is fun anymore & i just want to shovel food into my mouth to fill the void
#23
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Agreed.

Go out and do stuff. Dont just sit around being down all day.

As I mentioned before, I don't just sit around all day. I don't really have the money to go and do massively interesting things on my own, and even if I do things on my own I can't help but feel alone when doing them.
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As I mentioned before, I don't just sit around all day. I don't really have the money to go and do massively interesting things on my own, and even if I do things on my own I can't help but feel alone when doing them.


Who says that bettering yourself requires spending money? Practice guitar, educate yourself by reading books, learn how to make cocktails, walk old ladies across the street, pick up the accordion, etc.

Learn to cook
write a book
take a look
that way
even if you've been forsook

you'll be all the better for it, and much more self-sufficient.
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Quote by sca.smith
As I mentioned before, I don't just sit around all day. I don't really have the money to go and do massively interesting things on my own, and even if I do things on my own I can't help but feel alone when doing them.


You'll just have to go and get a job

Volunteer somewhere, meet some new friends and do something good in the process.

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You'll just have to go and get a job

Volunteer somewhere, meet some new friends and do something good in the process.

This might make me sound like the typical jobless bum, but I have literally applied for every job in my area that I'm capable of reaching. Plus there aren't really any places that I can volunteer at here...
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#29
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This might make me sound like the typical jobless bum, but I have literally applied for every job in my area that I'm capable of reaching.

Getting a job will help you get friends too. And yes, you do sound like a bum.

I had three jobs a few months back, before I got one full time job. Met lots of new friends at each one.

I manage a restaurant and take care of the hiring. You need to hound your way into a job these days. Call them back, be persistent. You really have to want to get hired.
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#32
I don't mind being alone. i think thats because I have lots of hobbies that I can do on my own so I never really run out of things to do.
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#33
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This might make me sound like the typical jobless bum, but I have literally applied for every job in my area that I'm capable of reaching. Plus there aren't really any places that I can volunteer at here...

Where do you live then ? There has to be something you can do.
#35
Just having a week completely home alone is my idea of a holiday. It sounds fucking boss to not have parents constantly whining at you.
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The only other person I talk to is my mother, and she doesn't exactly help my situation ('why won't you get a job!?' Yeah, because I just haven't tried at all, have I? *rolls eyes*).

Have you actually tried to go by every single establishment you can find, knocking on the door, and asking if they have any vacancies and leaving them with a CV? Just because there is nothing on the job website doesn't mean a job doesn't exist. Employers appreciate it if you do this because it shows that you're using some initiative and that you actually care about getting a job.

I did that and I got myself a job helping a little old lady with some gardening. I'm hardly making any money, but it's what I do to prevent my parents from pestering me. It also helps keep me fit.
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#36
Probably a reason people don't wanna spend time with you. Just being honest.
#37
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No, he's a butt
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Probably a reason people don't wanna spend time with you. Just being honest.

What is?

edit: Oh, "There is probably". But he listed several reasons.
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#39
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This might make me sound like the typical jobless bum, but I have literally applied for every job in my area that I'm capable of reaching. Plus there aren't really any places that I can volunteer at here...


They always need people in charity shops to volunteer, surely you have some of them?

I know getting a job is hard, because I tried for many years to no avail, but getting into volunteering especially just at charity shops is a matter of going in and asking.

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