#2
depends what for / how long / to what extent. i do it sometimes, even to my family... sometimes everybody just causes you stress and you need to cool off for awhile.
#3
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sometimes you need to be alone for a while, but the question in OP made it sound like "is becoming an outcast forever good/bad


for most people in that case, yeah, that would be a bad thing. sometimes i almost feel like it shouldn't be though.
#4
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How is this even a question

it's bad

No one to share your joy with and no one to turn to when you're in trouble/feeling down.

I make it sound incredibly corny, but it's true. No man is an island. (Quoting Hemingway because I am cool)

EDIT: Dregen makes a point, sometimes you need to be alone for a while, but the question in OP made it sound like "is becoming an outcast forever good/bad"

im permanently a mushroom island man no hostility all purple velvety peace
#6
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im permanently a mushroom island man no hostility all purple velvety peace


...so you're like, mario or somethin?
#7
Probably not... but one of my dreams is to buy a small boat, some tools to get started and sail into open seas to find an island untouched by humans. I'd live in a small bamboocottage, learn to hunt, fish and forget people, technology and other shit even exist.
#8
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Generally speaking, is shutting (all) people out of your life good or bad?

Why?

All people?

Of course it is, duh. People are naturally social animals and require communication to function properly.
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#9
I've shut people out all the time. If a certain person or group of people are doing nothing but bringing negativity to my life, they are gone. No point in trying to "patch things up" if they've never been a decent person towards you. You leave their bs behind and replace them with someone worthwhile.
#10
Definitely a bad thing.
Saying this as someone who despises social interaction obligations and purposefully keeps a very small circle of friends.
Everyone needs a small amount of friendship to keep them sane, else it's like living in solitary confinement with a TV, just watching the world disconnected from you.
#11
Let's answer an entirely too broad question with asinine answers from which we could all think of hundreds of counter-examples.
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#12
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Let's answer an entirely too broad question with asinine answers from which we could all think of hundreds of counter-examples.

How is it asinine to say that being socially isolated is a bad thing?
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#13
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How is it asinine to say that being socially isolated is a bad thing?



Not everyone in this thread is saying it's a bad thing. Then again sometimes it is. Sometimes it isn't. The question is too broad, and every answer has a hundred counter examples.

I think you might have taken my post in the wrong light. I wasn't arguing one way or another.
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#14
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How is it asinine to say that being socially isolated is a bad thing?

Because the reason isolation is judged to be a "bad thing" is socially determined.
#15
It's certainly a bad thing for the person who is being isolated. Humans are social creatures in nature, it isn't just a matter of social determination that it is bad for us.
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#16
Shutting out is gud thing

U stop da puck

U win da game

U make big money contract yeh

Next thing u kno ur banging many Russian hunneys with the knob of ur goalie stick nameen

Is good time
#17
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It's certainly a bad thing for the person who is being isolated. Humans are social creatures in nature, it isn't just a matter of social determination that it is bad for us.

It's normal to be social, no doubt about it. I would contest that it is necessary for happiness or well being, however.

Just look to the examples of hermetic meditators who spend years in complete isolation and are deemed by neuroscientists to be the "happiest" people they've ever studied. Look at their scores on formal instruments relating to depression, anxiety, and so on.

Social isolation is only bad for you if it's imposed against your will, and you fear loosing contact with others.
#18


I've never even heard of hermetic meditators.
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I've never even heard of hermetic meditators.

"hermetic" means like hermits, secluded and in more or less complete isolation. It has no specialised meaning here, but it applies to them well.

Search "Matthieu Ricard", and see his collaboration with neuroscientists.

The fact of the matter is that your argument could well be applied to homosexuality. It's definitively not normal, it's socially frowned upon, yet it's harmless to those who prefer it.
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#22
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"hermetic" means like hermits, secluded and in more or less complete isolation. It has no specialised meaning here, but it applies to them well.

Search "Matthieu Ricard", and see his collaboration with neuroscientists.

The fact of the matter is that your argument could well be applied to homosexuality. It's definitively not normal, it's socially frowned upon, yet it's harmless to those who prefer it.

I presumed it had something to do with being hermaphrodite.
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#23
It is interesting that social isolation is used as punishment and is considered one of the worst punishments, even in prisons, yet it is sought out and relished by a few.

I wonder how this varies by culture. Some are more individualistic, some are more collectivist. I wonder if this is reflected in their respective attitudes to complete solitude.
#24
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im permanently a mushroom island man no hostility all purple velvety peace

Still never found a mushroom island ;_;


And yea I think it's bad, never wanting to talk to anybody or do any kind of interaction with anybody would get pretty lonely eventually
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#25
Sometimes you need time to be by yourself and figure out what you need to do with yourself, but this should only be temporary. Shutting people out is never a good thing, especially for an extended period of time.
#26
Also, it might immediately make people feel better or distracted from worries if they help someone with something, talk to others, or cheer up another person.
#27
Depends on the context. I got into some alcohol-related troubles a while back, and everyone around me at the time was all about "DRINK, PARTY, GET HIGH, ****" so I kinda shut them all out for a bit. Some of them have wisened up, and we're good friends again, but once I got myself back into school and got going in my career, I made a lot of new friends as well, and met my wonderful girlfriend.

So all that being said, if your life needs a serious change, it's best to cut those people off and start fresh, because until they themselves change, there's always the option to drift right back into what you were doing to begin with.
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#28
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No man is an island. (Quoting Hemingway because I am cool)



"A winter's day
In a deep and dark December;
I am alone,
Gazing from my window to the streets below
On a freshly fallen silent shroud of snow.
I am a rock,
I am an island.

I've built walls,
A fortress deep and mighty,
That none may penetrate.
I have no need of friendship; friendship causes pain.
It's laughter and it's loving I disdain.
I am a rock,
I am an island.

Don't talk of love,
But I've heard the words before;
It's sleeping in my memory.
I won't disturb the slumber of feelings that have died.
If I never loved I never would have cried.
I am a rock,
I am an island.

I have my books
And my poetry to protect me;
I am shielded in my armor,
Hiding in my room, safe within my womb.
I touch no one and no one touches me.
I am a rock,
I am an island.

And a rock feels no pain;
And an island never cries."

(Quoting Paul Simon because I am awesome)
#29
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Shutting out is gud thing

U stop da puck

U win da game

U make big money contract yeh

Next thing u kno ur banging many Russian hunneys with the knob of ur goalie stick nameen

Is good time

I love it.

Sometimes hate it.

A few weeks ago they broke my chest protector during the practice, and guys continue start hitting me in the same spot.


Why so painful?


I don’t want to be goalie now.
#31
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Hippies had the "peace and love everyone" thing.

Opinion: INVALID

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#32
Yes.
Living alone for last 2 years with one and only friend being 3000 kms from me and doing just good.
As they say,if you feel lonely being alone,you're in a bad company.being bored is different thing and socializing has never helped-actually its much worse being with people.
Got enough to do to keep my mind and body busy until i pass out for 6 h and repeat.
#33
Shutting people - at least, some people - out is highly underrated.

I shut my sister out, and I swear, happiness increased significantly.
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#34
I've gone weeks without seeing or contacting another person before and I don't talk to 95% of people I've ever been close with, mostly for the better, but sometimes I miss a few of them.

I think it has helped me appreciate the few somewhat meaningful relationships I still have.
#35
Other tham my mom, I've shut out the rest of my family. Life has improved from it.

Also, once this chick had a massive crush on me and it made me feel awkward so I told her we shouldn't talk for 3 months.

She hated me for it.
#37
read as shitting

dissapointed
#38
i would say to not shut people out unless they are actually hurting your life.

you can always take a break from a person