Doing what you love isn’t just important for you, those around you depend on it

#1
It’s very commonly thought that following a passion is selfish and usually at the cost of those you love. A dedicated band member might spend a number of days out of a week rehearsing, or even weeks away playing shows. Our culture says that we go to work, this thing we don’t like, to feed our families and our reward is to spend time at home with them. As soon as you introduce a hobby, a project, or a passion on the side, are you just taking time away from loved ones?

You shouldn't feel guilty; in fact I believe you owe it to them to pursue that thing that fulfills you. Musicians of our nature get a particularly bad rap, we like to make a lot of noise. Drums, guitars, bass, big amps are generally disapproved of by the wider family (new amps are a very touchy subject in my house). Here’s where think we are going wrong:

We don’t give our project, hobby, passion enough credit, both with telling ourselves and others. For a start, calling the thing you’ve worked on for the last 2, 10, 20, (lifetime) years a hobby, immediately makes it sound dispensable to something far more trivial. I don’t think our culture gives anything like enough weight and importance to following your passion. These aren’t just things that can be dropped or taken up lightly, they are part of what makes us who we are. So how can you give your all to those around you without first being fulfilled yourself? You need to have that enthusiasm, that drive and that mastery of a subject to show your kids.

Devoting yourself to others is not enough. Before all else you must devote time to you, never underplay the importance of your passion. If you give to yourself you can give much more to others.

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Last edited by Dominic Butler at Oct 25, 2014,
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**** off Dominic Butler
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My true passion is killing those around me though so now I'm kind of conflicted
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#6
Dominic Butler you are only 20 you are too young to be giving everyone advice
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Yeah, this is is not even slightly insightful
#8
TS where the fuck are you going with this?
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#11
Dominic dreamed of giving inspirational talks on guitar forums until he visited the pit where his dreams were promptly shattered.
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#12
Obnoxious responses; ugh

Do you feel like any of your statements are really a coping mechanism for the fact that you really don't want to spend time with your family or etc?

I mean I agree to an extent, but I would think that at the end of the day its not a disservice to call music a hobby. There is no gray area it's either a profession, a part-time profession, or a hobby. I personally don't need to be an "artist" to feel fulfilled, fulfillment should be on grand scheme important things like morality and work ethic; not art.

I love playing music and its important to show that side of you to your kids (my wife and I are expecting anyday now!!) but it should not be a primal overall focus.
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Dominic Butler you are only 20 you are too young to be given everyone advice



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#15
Next time someone tells me I'm selfish, I'll just paste this mini-essay you typed for me.

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Obnoxious responses; ugh

Do you feel like any of your statements are really a coping mechanism for the fact that you really don't want to spend time with your family or etc?

I mean I agree to an extent, but I would think that at the end of the day its not a disservice to call music a hobby. There is no gray area it's either a profession, a part-time profession, or a hobby. I personally don't need to be an "artist" to feel fulfilled, fulfillment should be on grand scheme important things like morality and work ethic; not art.

I love playing music and its important to show that side of you to your kids (my wife and I are expecting anyday now!!) but it should not be a primal overall focus.

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#20
I shall take this advice to heart! :3 I pretty much only record improvisational pieces, but hey, that's super original, right? :3 In fact, I'm a diva~
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#21
My sister is planning on emigrating to Australia. I think she is a selfish bitch for leaving her family behind.
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#22
my passion is my job. I have more fun going to work every day than I do jamming, figure that shit out TS

maybe you wouldn't hate yours if you spent less time playing guitar and contemplating its significance, and figuring out where you're gonna go with your life
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#23
my current passion is sneezing on people at stores and telling them i have ebola.
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my passion is my job. I have more fun going to work every day than I do jamming, figure that shit out TS

maybe you wouldn't hate yours if you spent less time playing guitar and contemplating its significance, and figuring out where you're gonna go with your life



What's wrong with having music be your true passion? Just because it's not yours and its harder to make money with it doesn't make it any less significant.
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mine is the same except im the one who gets sneezed on and im the one who says I have ebola.
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#26
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What's wrong with having music be your true passion? Just because it's not yours and its harder to make money with it doesn't make it any less significant.

Music is still a passion of mine, but I have many passions and priorities. I've toured the country and released and album, and in my mind I've achieved everything I've wanted to with it. There's is no overwhelming need for me to play, so I don't that often.

What's wrong with music being your true passion? Nothing really, but there's probably a good 25% or so of the world that thinks music is their true passion and not that much demand for it and there's no way everyone is talented enough to have an audience. I believe being a musician is natural and thats why were passionate about it. But the passion to me is no more different then passion for playing sports, or drawing. And musicians seem to be the only one of group who complain about not getting enough respect for their abilities or not being able to make a living off of it. An athlete will play just for the love of the game, why cant a musician just play for the love of the instrument? I don't see how its not fair in any way.

So treat it as it is.. an innate desire to express oneself through an artform, like how one feels going for a run or lifting weights to release pent up energy. but dont be a drama queen like TS and be upset how the world doesn't revolve around your jam schedule
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#30
banning people is what I lve which is why i cabnned TS

next poster gets banned ahaha (maybe?)
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#32
jon get out I banned oyu last night cmon
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#34
ok but only cause you're the only one posting right now
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#35
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Music is still a passion of mine, but I have many passions and priorities. I've toured the country and released and album, and in my mind I've achieved everything I've wanted to with it. There's is no overwhelming need for me to play, so I don't that often.

What's wrong with music being your true passion? Nothing really, but there's probably a good 25% or so of the world that thinks music is their true passion and not that much demand for it and there's no way everyone is talented enough to have an audience. I believe being a musician is natural and thats why were passionate about it. But the passion to me is no more different then passion for playing sports, or drawing. And musicians seem to be the only one of group who complain about not getting enough respect for their abilities or not being able to make a living off of it. An athlete will play just for the love of the game, why cant a musician just play for the love of the instrument? I don't see how its not fair in any way.

So treat it as it is.. an innate desire to express oneself through an artform, like how one feels going for a run or lifting weights to release pent up energy. but dont be a drama queen like TS and be upset how the world doesn't revolve around your jam schedule



This is wise stuff, and I'd be inclined to agree. My buddies and I will jam on a Friday night same as some people play footy. It's a lot more fun than taking everything super serious all the time, although admittedly most of the time it probably sounds horrendous but that's not the point is it? Just coz you're not on the team repping the country doesn't mean you can't play the sport and have a great time with some mates.


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