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#1
So my last day of high school is in seven days, and I don't think I've ever been more terrified. My parents say that I don't need to know if I want to go to college yet, or what I want to do with my life, or anything really. I've kinda come to the conclusion that I either want to go into law, or teaching, but even that's subject to change. A lot of my classmates already know what college they want to go to. When my sister was my age, she at least knew she wanted to be a doctor. I know I don't need to know exactly what I want to do with my life, but I also don't want to be 30 years old and still living with my parents. So, around what age or time do you really need to figure these things out?
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#2
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So, around what age or time do you really need to figure these things out?

when you don't have anyone left to support you/don't want to be supported anymore

do you really think there is an arbitrary number lol
by the sounds of it, in your case, you need to know yesterday
#4
I suggest you don't go into college straight away and find a shitty minimum wage job for a year to work in. After that you will have a pretty good idea as to what to do with your life other than work in the job you will be working that you will have a much easier time.
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#6
I finished college almost two years ago, moved half way through the country for a job directly after and have been working that job ever since.

I still have no ****ing clue what I want to do with my life. I'm just kinda winging it for now. I enjoy what I do though. My advise would probably be to try to enjoy whatever you do. My life now is nothing I could have imagined before starting college, and chances are that whatever you decide you want to do, it will probably be nothing like you imagined. Don't worry too much about what you think you should be doing and instead just try to make the best of whatever it is you are doing.
#8
You needed to know yesterday. Now you're homeless and failing at life...When all else fails just be a Football Playing, King in space.=D

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#9
Whether you know what you want to do with your life ir not is kind of irrelevant, in my opinion.

Youre wasting time though. You may not know what you want to do, but I think you know what you dont want to do (i.e. work retail as mentioned above, make shit money, work a menial job that barely pays the bills).

Pick SOMETHING for now. Something that yields reliable /moderately profitable income, like engineering or something in healthcare.

If you find out down the road what you want to change your career then cool. Atleast your life will be more stable. Just dont have kids
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#10
You need to know what you want to do with life as soon as you start school, which is about age 4

If you don't have your life goals worked out by then you're screwed.
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#11
I'm 40. I still haven't decided what I want to be when I grow up.
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#13
You don't necessarily need to have everything figured out in order to be self-sufficient, which seems like what you want.

If you're interested in a particular profession but don't want to go to college yet, now might be a good time to look for jobs or volunteer work related to what you want to do. You could even ask someone if you could shadow them for a day or so. Then you'll know whether you've overlooked anything that would steer you away from a certain career. But even if you don't want to do that now, you're going to change a lot over the next few years and you might change your mind about what you dislike, too.
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but nah
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you old folks always think this shit is so profound

but nah
times have changed

you youngsters with your bright futures
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#18
I think that this thinking is backwards. don't take advice from me 'cause I'm 19 and lost lol, but I think that defining your life by some profession is off. better just to go with it and do what you've got to do short term and let the long term vision for your life take shape naturally.
#19
I don't know brah, I had no idea at the end of high school

My plan was 4 years in the Army and then college, and no plans after that. Couldn't even stick to that one
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you old folks always think this shit is so profound

but nah
times have changed

I don't think it's profound.

I know it's the truth.
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I don't know brah, I had no idea at the end of high school

My plan was 4 years in the Army and then college, and no plans after that. Couldn't even stick to that one

Which part did you not do? The 'no plans after that' part?
#22
4 years turned to at least 10 at this point, and I'm doing online college simultaneously

I'm happy with my life tho. No idea what I want to do afterwards.
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#23
You never do. I did my MSc in a different topic than my BSc, and now I am doing my PhD in the topic of my BSc and not my MSc. So... you can switch, there are times when you can switch when it doesn't take you time and you just have to convince the people that you are worth it.
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#24


I went straight into uni from high school, but sometimes I feel like I would have benefitted greatly from taking a year off and getting a job/experience/perspective first.

my whole life has been rigid school structure to less rigid, but still structured schooling, and I feel like at the end of it, I'm gonna be dumped off the conveyor belt, on my arse thinking "now what?"
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4 years turned to at least 10 at this point, and I'm doing online college simultaneously

I'm happy with my life tho. No idea what I want to do afterwards.

Well, I know a guy who managed to turn 4 years of college into 10 years, so at least you're not him.

But being happy is really the best you can hope for in the end, so that's good
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To be honest, even when you know what you want to do you can't ever really guarantee it will actually happen because there are too many factors out of your control. I don't mean this to be pessimistic - just realistic.

I say this because I see too many people get stuck on one career path even when it is not working out. It is important to be persistent but you also need to know when to move on. My best suggestion to you is to think about the things you are good at and what you enjoy and try to find a balance. Know that things will often be difficult, boring, annoying, and challenging at times before they become enjoyable. Sometimes you will have to have crappy jobs along the way to your dream job. Stay humble and do what you need to stay afloat - consider these challenges an investment for your eventual future job.

Whether or not you go to college - I agree with your parents. Most college students think they know what they want to do with their life but it is not always feasible or realistic and they often change their minds in the end anyways.

For now, don't waste any time. Either go to college (and for the love of god get a degree in something useful if you're going to spend all that money) or get a job in the field you are interested in and move forward. Even if you aren't sure what you want to do, you can still support yourself and learn those life skills. You will find yourself maturing incredibly in the next 5 years if you separate from your parents. Good luck.
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I've kinda come to the conclusion that I either want to go into law


Nice. You and every other graduate, until they study it and ask themselves why the **** am I studying this

Source: The billion people I know who did this. That and finance. Why do so many people study finance.. I know so many people who studied that after high school and not one of them finished their degree.
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#29
People figure it out on their own time, and some actually never quite get there.

The fact that you created this thread means you're thinking about it, which is a very good sign.

My problem with society in general is we are given these archetypal narratives:

[famous person] is really amazing a [chess?] and knows exactly what he/she wants to do at, like, age 6, and after some dramatic missteps eventually finds their groove and ends up being better than anyone else at [chess? football?] and everyone ends up hoisting them on their shoulders and cheering, at which point inspirational music plays and credits role



That and...

Human piddles around town in some unsatisfying job or another and happens to meet other human, generally of opposite sex. The two humans then have a series of encounters in which their friendship blossoms into infatuation, love, obligatory sex scene, they get married and everything is super awesome, infinitely wonderful for ever and ever, the end.

Cheesy music, credits role.



At every job you have learn skills. THAT is what you get from any position you take, NOT the salary, benefits, etc.

I worked as a fry cook. Great job, taught me work ethic and how to wash dishes.
I worked endless retail jobs. PEOPLE SKILLS, these are priceless.

..the best job you can possibly have as a young person is probably waiter/waitress. It doesn't matter if you are a musician, doctor, lawyer, businessperson, astronaut, everything except maybe engineer or statistician will use people skills, even those to an extremely limited extent (j/k)

I never waited tables, but wish I had.

Construction, taught me how to do basic plumbing, electric, carpentry, effectively stitch a 2-inch long, 1/2" deep cut into the meat of my hand with duct tape (which worked, no scar, either.)

Construction is a great job! Good for you, too, but risky. You can die. And protect your ears!!

Geez, practically everything I've done has given me awesome skills.

Secretary, computer skills.
Data entry, well, data is extremely important at my current job, so I've seen it from both ends!
Call center, see waiter or waitress. Great job!

It's not about what your job title says about you or what you make, it's about what you learn while you are on the job.

Even getting fired can teach you something. Everything can!

You'll be fine.
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When you find out, let me know.
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#31
Shouldn't you have applied to college last fall?
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#32
Hey man, I just finished my degree and I still don't know what I want. I got a decent job but that will probably get boring in a few months. Get used to the uncertainty.
#33
you damn young rapscallions and your need to plan your future ya know kids back in my day we slugged through 4 feet of snow just to get to the hockey rink and then when we got there we had to strap on our skates in -24C and shovel off the ice rink just to play a good ol game of shinny! And we couldn't even do up all our gear so we was unprotected from hits and rock em sock em good canadian hockey and on those ice rinks up in good ol timmins we'd discover what we truly wanted to be when we grew up and that was good canadian boys boy ill tell ya what *thumbs up*
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#35
just go with the law or teaching thing until you change your mind. we'd be foolish to think that we will ever just know what we want to do without trying it, or that there is even such a thing as an ideal job for each of us. but at the same time, have a little backbone and try to stick with something until you really know that it won't work out for you.
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#36
Whatever career path we take we start out as "generalists" and become increasingly specialized with experience, which leads to greater financial rewards and fulfillment.

Being a cashier at Home Depot is pretty similar, really, to a lot of other job roles. That job could lead into management or administration, or the skills learned (including people skills) could translate to your next position.

The point is practically no one knows what their particular specialty or niche will be right off the bat, certainly not high school. Some are extraordinarily talented, like I said chess or football, or swimming, maybe. Most of us aren't.

If you look at anyone you would consider successful you will find almost every one of them farted around at college for a while and/or had some "dead end" job like being a factory worker or janitor, etc. After a series of twists and turns they are a famous marine biologist, archaeologist, violinist, novelist, whatever.

The beginning for everyone is strikingly similar, actually. And not knowing exactly (but having a vague sense that you should know) is pretty much universal.

I knew I wanted to be a dentist since I was about 28.
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So my last day of high school is in seven days, and I don't think I've ever been more terrified. My parents say that I don't need to know if I want to go to college yet, or what I want to do with my life, or anything really. I've kinda come to the conclusion that I either want to go into law, or teaching, but even that's subject to change. A lot of my classmates already know what college they want to go to. When my sister was my age, she at least knew she wanted to be a doctor. I know I don't need to know exactly what I want to do with my life, but I also don't want to be 30 years old and still living with my parents. So, around what age or time do you really need to figure these things out?


Dude I'm 23 and I don't quite have a grasp yet. I want to go to school for creative writing, maybe dabble in screenplay writing... Right now I'm doing job training for casino dealing, so that's income, but as far as my life's work, that remains to be discovered.

All I can say is don't worry if you don't have it figured out, as long as you're making some sort of forward motion that keeps you a) fed b) housed c) not in debt. The rest will follow, in time... Just don't get anyone pregnant and keep your criminal record down to misdemeanors
#38
Take a break after school, pick up a starting job and find some options. Maybe work on a 2 year general education transferable type degree before you decide on a major, if you want to go to college.
#39
If you're not sure where to go to school look at some inner-city schools. I went to undergrad in Chicago, and that was a smart choice. You're drowning in culture 24/7, walk down the street and there's Buddy Guy playing, just right there, like, "Hey, I was headed for a beer and Buddy frikkin' Guy!"

Anyway, I didn't dig the state school frat bro scene. Much more about the chilling about the Windy City, running into whoever at the bar vs sucking some guy's dick to try and become a "brother" before they beat the shit out of me.

Forget that!

If I'm getting the shit beat out of me it's gonna be in a bar fight.
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#40
I studied engineering but failed my degree. Now I'm unemployed and living with my parents. I'm in this sort of limbo where I'm not sure if I'm qualified for any technical job, but applying for work unrelated to my studies seems like wasted potential. I'm worried that I'll be stuck and unhappy with whichever path I end up going down. Not knowing the local language doesn't help. I'm trying to learn but employers can easily choose someone with better qualifications who speaks fluently.

I had all the opportunities and I squandered them all. Don't be like me. At least do SOMETHING.
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