#1
I shall soon be moving city. Without getting into details, my life got off to a bad start, picked up a little and slowly fell back down over the last decade. I'm sure that everyone thinks that about their adolescence and the slow, harrowing realisation that at some point you actually have to be an adult rather than just legally able to drink and drive >.>

I want random tid-bits of advice in starting a new chapter in my life and/or something to make me laugh whilst I'm unable to sleep. One major concern is meeting people and trying to make friends. Another would be trying to find ways to entertain myself that can fill the void of sobriety (and sobering up is a whole other concern in itself).

Another way to think about it is, if you, or someone that you knew, were moving to some place new and wanted to improve your/their life, what steps would you take or recommend taking to do so?

"The mind is its own place, and in itself

Can make a Heav'n of Hell, a Hell of Heav'n"

- John Milton, Paradise Lost
#2
Get a computer, make bangers, DJ in the clubs.
There's no such thing; there never was. Where I am going you cannot follow me now.
#3
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able to drink and drive >.>

it's all just coming back
it's all coming back

it's all coming back to me
#4
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I want random tid-bits of advice in starting a new chapter in my life and/or something to make me laugh whilst I'm unable to sleep. One major concern is meeting people and trying to make friends.
Just have no friends. EASY!

That's what I did and look how I turned out!
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#5
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Separately of course

I thought it ought to be "legally able to drink, and drive" but left the comma out intentionally >.>


I have a laptop so that first ones covered. I can't see making explosives providing anything positive but as a student I'll probably cook bangers and mash many a time when strapped for cash this coming year.

I don't know how to DJ, nor how to get a gig a club...nor how to club/interact with groups of people/talk to strangers/enjoy the mind-numbing shite I've heard coming out of them. I would like to try at some point, but despite many an offer to go out before moving, I've never managed to get the courage to try and meet a bunch of random people - even with my closest mates and favourite substances coursing through my body.

"The mind is its own place, and in itself

Can make a Heav'n of Hell, a Hell of Heav'n"

- John Milton, Paradise Lost
#6
> bangers
> explosives
There's no such thing; there never was. Where I am going you cannot follow me now.
#8
Never turn down an opportunity to learn something new
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#9
Find something you like to do, because for most of us that's really the only good in an insurmountable pile of shit.
#10
I've been playing guitar for many years. I've tried learning other instruments but nothing else really kept my interest. I barely play any more though, partly because nothing gives me the same challenge it used to and partly because I spend too much time intoxicated to slow my head down. I think with more time being spent alone, due to the not knowing anyone thing, I should end up picking it up more though.

"The mind is its own place, and in itself

Can make a Heav'n of Hell, a Hell of Heav'n"

- John Milton, Paradise Lost
#11
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I want random tid-bits of advice in starting a new chapter in my life and/or something to make me laugh whilst I'm unable to sleep. One major concern is meeting people and trying to make friends. Another would be trying to find ways to entertain myself that can fill the void of sobriety (and sobering up is a whole other concern in itself).

Another way to think about it is, if you, or someone that you knew, were moving to some place new and wanted to improve your/their life, what steps would you take or recommend taking to do so?


Phase one- Take the focus off yourself, your needs, your feelings and reach out to help others. Feed the poor, volunteer to offer transportation to the elderly, volunteer to help out others who are in a jam, volunteer in a hospital. Giving of yourself is incredibly healing and fills a void that drugs and alcohol cannot. In the process of lifting up others you also are lifted. This is good medicine for the soul. Give it a go?
"Your sound is in your hands as much as anything. It's the way you pick, and the way you hold the guitar, more than it is the amp or the guitar you use." -- Stevie Ray Vaughan

"Anybody can play. The note is only 20 percent. The attitude of the motherfucker who plays it is 80 percent." -- Miles Davis

Guthrie on tone: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zmohdG9lLqY
#12
I don't have any advice but it's good to see you're still alive, man. Haven't seen you for a long time, and I know shit was bad for you when you left.
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#13
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Phase one- Take the focus off yourself, your needs, your feelings and reach out to help others. Feed the poor, volunteer to offer transportation to the elderly, volunteer to help out others who are in a jam, volunteer in a hospital. Giving of yourself is incredibly healing and fills a void that drugs and alcohol cannot. In the process of lifting up others you also are lifted. This is good medicine for the soul. Give it a go?


I actually already do this. The one problem is that half-way through any conversation with a homeless person they ask if I have any green and the reminder doesn't help. definitely good advice for anyone though, I know it does make oneself feel good to sit down, have a chat and share a sandwich with someone less fortunate. Yes, this 'altruism' may be for selfish reasons but its benefits aren't nullified by the intentions.

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I don't have any advice but it's good to see you're still alive, man. Haven't seen you for a long time, and I know shit was bad for you when you left.


I've not had a great time the last few years, not going to lie. I've overdosed too many times in the last 2 months alone and my sleep pattern is so ****ed I sleep at random times of the day for an hour so without realising I had fallen asleep and its making me lose my mind even more. I'm hoping that moving away from my old life will make me see things differently, but deep down I know that if this fails too I will have lost what little fight is left in me.

"The mind is its own place, and in itself

Can make a Heav'n of Hell, a Hell of Heav'n"

- John Milton, Paradise Lost
#18
Just keep this in mind:

"Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken."

- Warren Buffett

...modes and scales are still useless.


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#19
First of all, stay out of alcohol. Please do not get yourself into another health shit to get out of the current shit. Get healthy and learn cooking. Cooking is not only for women. Everyone loves to eat. If you don't, try learning anything but music. Learn something totally different. Learn dancing, break-dance, hip hop. I just took up ballet as I am stuck with music since teenage years and I admit staying in the same realm will make you wither slowly. Explore youtube. I am sure you will find something that will interest you. Lookout for funny youtube videos. Make your own tutorial videos. Get into regular sleep pattern, try calming tea such as chamomile tea. Google for relaxation techniques. There are so many things you can do.
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#20
Here is some tips. Start meditation, start working out (find a gym) and eating healthy. Stop being a wanker (yourbrainonporn.com)
"A true artist hides his abilities"
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#22
Have you tried



autoerotic asphyxiation?
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#24
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I've been playing guitar for many years. I've tried learning other instruments but nothing else really kept my interest. I barely play any more though, partly because nothing gives me the same challenge it used to and partly because I spend too much time intoxicated to slow my head down. I think with more time being spent alone, due to the not knowing anyone thing, I should end up picking it up more though.

Also you keep mentioning being drunk or high. Stop that. Not saying drugs r bad but if you're feeling stagnant or unfulfilled you should avoid pretty much anything you resort to for indulgence.
#25
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First of all, stay out of alcohol. Please do not get yourself into another health shit to get out of the current shit. Get healthy and learn cooking. Cooking is not only for women. Everyone loves to eat. If you don't, try learning anything but music. Learn something totally different. Learn dancing, break-dance, hip hop. I just took up ballet as I am stuck with music since teenage years and I admit staying in the same realm will make you wither slowly. Explore youtube. I am sure you will find something that will interest you. Lookout for funny youtube videos. Make your own tutorial videos. Get into regular sleep pattern, try calming tea such as chamomile tea. Google for relaxation techniques. There are so many things you can do.


I used to enjoy cooking but these days I'm too depressed and can't justify cooking until I've been a few days without food. That's definitely something I should get back into, thank you. I love to dance but can't dance at all - I wouldn't dare dance in front of people. Thank you for the advice though, I'm trying to find more things to do in order to make me comfortable being alive and alone.

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Here is some tips. Start meditation, start working out (find a gym) and eating healthy. Stop being a wanker (yourbrainonporn.com)


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Also you keep mentioning being drunk or high. Stop that. Not saying drugs r bad but if you're feeling stagnant or unfulfilled you should avoid pretty much anything you resort to for indulgence.


I agree with you both, I've spent nearly a decade getting off my face, slicing myself up and desperately avoiding having to think because of the pain it causes. I want to try clean up my act and see if sobriety actually improves my head but I am scared of just how much flesh I'll end up removing in the withdrawal process

"The mind is its own place, and in itself

Can make a Heav'n of Hell, a Hell of Heav'n"

- John Milton, Paradise Lost