Poll: Are you good at keeping up with people?
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Yes
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#1
I suck at it. I rarely text, call, or interact with people on social media. This is why I have no friends.
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#3
god no. some of my friends have thought i was dead in the past because of how bad i am at keeping in touch.

of course that then begs then question of how shitty are my friends that they don't reach out to me when they think i might be dead.



i just had this conversation with my best friend tho and we're both equally terrible about keeping in touch. he actually posts on FB sometimes tho, where i post one nonsense thing every year or so.
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#4
I don't know how to read people's texts and voices in phone calls, so I tend to let them approach me.

I often forget to reply to texts but make an effort with those required.
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#5
i almost always read a text, then put the phone back down and never respond.
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#6
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of course that then begs then question of how shitty are my friends that they don't reach out to me when they think i might be dead.


Same. How shitty are my friends that they don't go out of their way to just buy a oujia board or hire a medium?
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#7
I'm really good at it because I genuinely want to know how they're doing so I ask.


There's no harm in it really and I have friends that regret losing really awesome friendships because they did stuff like that.
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#8
Yes, I make it a point to keep in touch. Building success requires an active network of people. Being a recluse / not responding literally costs money and critical opportunities.

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Yes, I make it a point to keep in touch. Building success requires an active network of people. Being a recluse / not responding literally costs money and critical opportunities.

Not surprised at all that you view interpersonal relationships as fiscal responsibilities.
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#10
I try a lot more with others than others do to me

But generally yeah. I talk to my closest mates every day thereabouts, at least once a week, in addition to following their social media. I also call my parents every week
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Yes, I make it a point to keep in touch. Building success requires an active network of people. Being a recluse / not responding literally costs money and critical opportunities.
Go be a responsible adult somewhere else.
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#12
Well, you at least respond to me so that's something.

I have some friends that I try to keep up with even though I don't know why because they are unreliable and goofy and always flake on plans to meet up after not seeing each other for months.
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Not surprised at all that you view interpersonal relationships as fiscal responsibilities.
It absolutely is.

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#14
no i'm terrible at it as well

we should be friends
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no i'm terrible at it as well

we should be friends
We'd never talk.
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#17
My text messages:

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me: "who?"
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#19
Social media is a funny creature.

I got tired of pretending I knew/didn't know things I"d grab by browsing the social media pages while reading to catch up on the person's life before seeing them again. That little ballet became completely obnoxious.

Now? I stopped keeping up with people and allow them to tell me what I'm supposed to know about them. If they can't be bothered to keep me in the loop, I can't be bothered to keep up.

That said - for professional reasons, I'll opt to keep up with those I categorize that way. Knowing where a person works, what they do, and what their passion is will benefit you more than waste your time.
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#21
i said it in another thread i think, but i have less of an issue semi-anonymously liking posts here than i do on FB for people i actually know.

idk why, i just always feel weird liking shit on there. makes me feel like a creep or something. hard to describe.
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#22
I pretty much only talk to my friends when talking about uni work, or do a thing where we just share links until someone gets bored and stops. Making an effort to get to know each other is just not the done thing. Coincidentally, I just sent the person i consider my best friend a youtube link at 3am after two months of radio silence.

I have a theory that it's due to the indirect nature of social media communication. You can check messages whenever you want, and they don't know, unless u accidentally click on the window and it sends a 'seen' receipt. It's not a phone call where I'm calling you NOW. It's like whenever you get around to it. So u just put things out into the ether and u might get some interaction an hour later or maybe not cause they're feeling tired and so they jsut send a or nothing at all, cause it's been a day what's the point in starting a conversation now.
Alternatively I could just suck at social interaction which seems likely given how well some of my IRL conversations go.
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#23
Yeah I'm pretty awful. I always remind myself to text people just to chat but I keep forgetting to. I also tend to forget to respond to messages or assume that I've already responded.

Plus I'm already super lazy and do nothing at all times. I am become the worst.
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#24
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Yeah I'm pretty awful. I always remind myself to text people just to chat but I keep forgetting to. I also tend to forget to respond to messages or assume that I've already responded.

Plus I'm already super lazy and do nothing at all times. I am become the worst.
Don't you want to be a film director or something? Above most, creative positions require the most support of an active network.

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#25
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. I am become the worst, destroyer of relationships.


also agreeing with xiaoxi you really do gotta keep up appearances in the film industry

in the photographic community you can do quite well by being mediocre and extremely sociable. Not sure you can do that as easily with something like moving image
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#26
sometimes when xi xi talks about networking he sounds vaguely like a psychopath.

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#27
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Don't you want to be a film director or something? Above most, creative positions require the most support of an active network.

You're acting as if I want things.


Nah you're right, but I'm also in the kind of place right now where I'm totally uncommitted to any kind of positive career move. Also I was really referring to just friends. Like the few friend friends I have who work in a creative sector aren't ones I'd approach for work other than just wanting to work with them rather than, y'know, Work.

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sometimes when xi xi talks about networking he sounds vaguely like a psychopath.


He still hasn't said whether he believes Nightcrawler is a motivational feel-good piece.

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also agreeing with xiaoxi you really do gotta keep up appearances in the film industry

in the photographic community you can do quite well by being mediocre and extremely sociable. Not sure you can do that as easily with something like moving image

Nah works the same way with films, unless you can afford to be an asshole and can go home whenever you want. Thing is that's the easy part.
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sometimes when xi xi talks about networking he sounds vaguely like a psychopath.

I bet he draws up spreadsheets for when it'll be most economical to fuck his girlfriend
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I bet he draws up spreadsheets for when it'll be most economical to fuck his girlfriend


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#30
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sometimes when xi xi talks about networking he sounds vaguely like a psychopath.
Probs. No fucks given.

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He still hasn't said whether he believes Nightcrawler is a motivational feel-good piece.
It's so inspirational :')
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No way! I hate making spreadsheets.

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#31
I'm really bad at it. I hate facebook and actively avoid going on unless someone contacts me by other means and tells me to check out something in particular. I don't think I've actually ever made a post on facebook. I've got one friend in particular that usually hits me up once a week or so. If it wasn't for him it'd probably only be like once a month or even less that I got in touch with any of my other friends.
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#33
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I'm really bad at it. I hate facebook and actively avoid going on unless someone contacts me by other means and tells me to check out something in particular. I don't think I've actually ever made a post on facebook. I've got one friend in particular that usually hits me up once a week or so. If it wasn't for him it'd probably only be like once a month or even less that I got in touch with any of my other friends.


Facebook is awful. I deleted mine in high school.
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#34
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It's so inspirational :')

I bet you could make an entire marxist theory class cry.
#35
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You flatter me too much!

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#37
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Facebook is awful. I deleted mine in high school.

I've had a slight cognitive dissonance about it for the last few years. Want to delete it, but there are a few people on there that if they wanted to contact me that would be the only way for them to do so other than asking mutual friends if they have my number. These are people in the 'have hung out with and would consider a friend, but not someone that I've really spent a lot of time with' category. None of these people have ever tried to contact me through facebook though and I doubt they will.

I do somewhat like the idea that on the panel where it shows how long since people were last on mine must frequently get up to a few months before it resets.
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I've had a slight cognitive dissonance about it for the last few years. Want to delete it, but there are a few people on there that if they wanted to contact me that would be the only way for them to do so other than asking mutual friends if they have my number. These are people in the 'have hung out with and would consider a friend, but not someone that I've really spent a lot of time with' category. None of these people have ever tried to contact me through facebook though and I doubt they will.

I do somewhat like the idea that on the panel where it shows how long since people were last on mine must frequently get up to a few months before it resets.


I had the same issue. I gave those people my number. Never heard from them again so no loss on my part.
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#39
When texted, I respond immediately and desperately.
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